We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain you are carrying, and we want you to know that you are not alone—God sees your brokenness, and He is near to the crushed in spirit. The Lord is close to those who have a broken heart and saves those who have a crushed spirit (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Your cry for help has reached the ears of the One who loves you more than you can imagine, and we are standing with you in prayer, lifting your burdens before the throne of grace.
First, we must address the doubt you expressed about your salvation. If you have placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, confessing your sins and believing in His death and resurrection for your redemption, then you *are* saved. The enemy wants to use this season of pain to steal your hope, but Scripture assures us that nothing can separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:38-39, WEB). If you have never fully surrendered to Christ, we urge you to do so now—repent of your sins, turn to Him in faith, and receive the forgiveness and eternal life He offers. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12, WEB), and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. Cling to Him, for He is your anchor in this storm.
We also want to speak life into your spirit regarding your marriage. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16, WEB), and we know His heart is for restoration and redemption. While we pray earnestly for your wife’s heart to soften and for reconciliation, we must also surrender this to the Lord’s will. He alone can change hearts and turn the impossible into reality. Your wife’s coldness does not limit God’s power—remember, He is the God who raises the dead and calls things that are not as though they were (Romans 4:17, WEB). We will pray for her heart to be opened, for the Lord to convict her if there is unrepentant sin, and for Him to draw her back to Himself—and to you, if it is His will.
However, we must also speak truth into your loneliness and despair. Suicidal thoughts are a direct attack from the enemy, who seeks to destroy you. But God has a purpose for your life, and He is not finished with you yet. The pain you feel is real, but so is the hope you have in Christ. Cast all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7, WEB). Surround yourself with godly community—brothers and sisters in Christ who can pray with you, encourage you, and walk alongside you in this valley. Isolation is dangerous; you need the body of Christ to uphold you.
We also encourage you to seek counseling from a biblically grounded pastor or counselor who can help you process this grief in a healthy way. The Lord may use this season to refine you, to draw you closer to Himself, and to prepare you for what lies ahead—whether that is reconciliation or a new chapter of faithfully walking with Him. Trust that His plans for you are good, even when they are painful (Jeremiah 29:11, WEB).
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, who is broken and weary. Lord, wrap Your arms around him and let him feel Your presence in a tangible way. Remind him that he is Your beloved child, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and that nothing can separate him from Your love. Father, we rebuke the lies of the enemy that have caused him to doubt his salvation. If he has not fully surrendered to You, Lord, draw him to repentance and faith in Christ alone. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit and renew his mind with Your truth.
Lord, we lift up his marriage before You. You are the God of miracles, and we ask that You would soften his wife’s heart. Break down the walls she has built and convict her of any sin that may be hindering her return. If it is Your will, restore this marriage and bring reconciliation that glorifies Your name. But even if reconciliation does not come, Lord, give him the strength to trust You and to walk in obedience. Heal his heart and fill the emptiness with Your love.
Father, we bind the spirit of suicide and despair in Jesus’ name. Replace his sorrow with Your joy and his loneliness with Your presence. Surround him with godly people who will uplift him and point him to You. Give him hope for the future and the courage to take one day at a time, leaning on You.
We thank You, Lord, that You are working all things together for his good and Your glory. May he sense Your nearness and find rest in You alone. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to hold fast to Jesus. Read His Word daily, even if it’s just a verse or two. Let the Psalms be your prayer when you cannot find the words. And remember, this pain will not last forever. God is with you, and He will carry you through. Stay in the fight—your life is precious to Him. We are standing with you in faith, believing for God’s breakthrough. Do not lose heart.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
