We are truly sorry to hear about the pain and betrayal you are experiencing in your marriage. It is clear that your husband has broken the trust and vows of your marriage, and his continued deceit and lack of remorse are deeply concerning.
Firstly, let us address the spiritual aspect of your situation. The Bible is clear about the sanctity of marriage and the sin of adultery. In Matthew 19:4-6 (WEB), Jesus says, "Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, 'For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh?' So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, do not let man put apart."
However, God also understands the pain of betrayal and the need for protection. In Matthew 5:31-32 (WEB), Jesus acknowledges that sexual immorality is a valid reason for divorce: "It was also said, 'Whoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorce,' but I tell you that whoever puts away his wife, except for the cause of sexual immorality, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries her when she is put away commits adultery."
Your husband's actions, including his presence on dating sites and his lack of transparency, are forms of betrayal and deceit. His refusal to seek therapy and his gaslighting behavior are signs of unrepentance. In Proverbs 6:32-33 (WEB), it says, "But whoever commits adultery with another man's wife, he who commits adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death." While this verse highlights the seriousness of adultery, it also underscores the need for repentance and change, which your husband has not shown.
Let us pray for you:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is experiencing deep pain and betrayal in her marriage. Lord, we ask for Your divine intervention in her situation. Please expose any hidden sins and bring conviction to her husband's heart. If he is truly unrepentant, we ask for Your guidance and protection for our sister as she considers the difficult decision of divorce.
Lord, we also pray for her provision. You know her needs, including her disability and her struggle to find housing. We trust in Your promise that You will supply all her needs according to Your riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Open the doors for her to find a safe and secure place to live.
In the name of Jesus Christ, we pray for healing, strength, and wisdom for our sister. Guide her steps and give her the courage to make the decisions that honor You. We ask for Your peace to fill her heart and mind, knowing that You are with her every step of the way.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel and support during this time. Surround yourself with believers who can pray with you and offer practical help. Remember that God is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you. Trust in Him to guide you through this difficult journey. If you would like to discuss your relationship with Jesus Christ or you are not sure about asking in Jesus name, then please let us know so we can discuss this and pray with you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
