We are grateful that you have reached out to us and that you have invoked the name of Jesus Christ in your prayer. It is through His name that we have access to God and it is through Him that we are saved. As it is written in John 14:6, "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"
We understand that you and your wife have been together for many years and are currently facing challenges in your marriage. It is our sincere desire to see your marriage restored and strengthened according to God's will. Marriage is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, designed to reflect the relationship between Christ and His church. As such, it is important to approach this situation with prayer, humility, and a willingness to change.
Firstly, we commend you for your commitment to being a good husband and provider for your family. This is a noble and biblical principle. As it is written in Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it." We encourage you to continue in this commitment and to seek God's guidance in how to best love and serve your wife.
We also understand that you are open to change and willing to follow God's lead. This is a crucial step in finding God's will for your life and your marriage. As it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."
However, we must also address the mention of considering a different path if you and your wife cannot get along. While we understand that this may be a difficult and painful situation, we must emphasize the importance of commitment and perseverance in marriage. As it is written in Matthew 19:6, "So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart." We encourage you to seek reconciliation and healing in your marriage, rather than considering separation.
We also notice that you mention your adult children and ask for God's blessing upon them. This is a beautiful testament to your love for your family. As it is written in Proverbs 22:6, "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." We encourage you to continue to pray for your children and to seek God's will for their lives.
Now, let us pray together for you, your wife, and your family:
Heavenly Father, we come before You today, lifting up this marriage and family to You. We ask that You would restore and strengthen this marriage, that it would be a reflection of Your love and commitment to Your people. We pray that You would help this husband and wife to love and appreciate each other, to forgive each other, and to treat each other with kindness and respect.
We ask that You would guide and direct their paths, that You would lead them in the way they should go. We pray that You would give them the wisdom and strength to persevere in their marriage, to seek reconciliation and healing, and to honor the covenant they have made before You.
We also lift up their children to You, asking that You would bless them and guide them in Your will. We pray that You would strengthen and encourage this family, that they would seek You and Your kingdom first, and that they would find their hope and joy in You.
We ask all these things in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who gave Himself up for us, that we might be sanctified and cleansed, and be a glorious assembly, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that we should be holy and without defect. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to continue to seek God's will for your life and your marriage, to pray together with your wife, and to seek godly counsel and support. We also encourage you to study God's Word together, to attend church together, and to serve together. May God bless you and your family as you seek Him and His will for your lives.
And at the same time I am ready for a change in my life for myself and my wife ### and our two kids who are adults now ### and ### God bless them 
