Marital Problem

[juliea]

I am going through a period in my life where I feel such emptiness. I am 50 years old. I have been with my husband for 27 years, married for 24 years. We have 5 children together, and 8 altogether (3 from my previous marriage). I am so unhappy. I feel he is overbearing, controlling, and I feel like i am suffocating. He believes that he is the MAN OF THE HOUSE and everything goes as he says. I feel differently. I believe that we are husband and wife and decisions are made based on what we both agree is most beneficial and the best for our family. He gets angry when I disagree...even down to how our meals should be cooked!!! After 27 years, I am tired of it all. I have tried, he claims he has tried. Maybe so, but I've had to give so much of myself that what's left of me isn't who I really am and I am so miserable. There is no talking to him. He believes everything should go as he says. I just want out. Please, pray for me, that the Holy Spirit will lead me and guide me along the path of righteousness, to do what is most pleasing to HIm. I need spiritual advise on how to approach this.

 

[BibleBeliever]

Dear sister, I feel for you. You obviously are feeling mistreated by your husband. Much of this is probably merited as most men do not understand Biblical leadership in the home.

Here are some things to consider:

1 Peter 3:5-6

New International Version 1984 (NIV1984)

5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

Also:

Ephesians 5:22-27

New International Version 1984 (NIV1984)

Wives and Husbands

22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

This is important! Although you are to be as submissive as possible, you have the RIGHT to be treated as described below. You as a wife are to NEVER be put down or devalued in any way. You have this RIGHT.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

" Heavenly Father, I pray for our sister, may the Spirit of peace rest upon her house. May this marriage be a model of Christ and the church and may it be filled with joy once again! AMEN."

 

[regrets2redemption]

I am so praying for you. My heart goes out to you. May God bless you in peace. Know that He will guide you through all things and is constantly with you all. Things are going to get better - God has you in the palm of his hand. God bless you.

 

[juliea]

arronsharonbell, BibleBeliever, and regrets2redemption ~ Thank you for your quick response and wonderful sharing of prayers, and for keeping me in prayers. May God fill your hearts and lives with love, peace, joy and complete contentment for you thoughtfulness, compassion and kindness.