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We understand the deep pain and frustration you’re experiencing with your mother’s harsh treatment, and we grieve with you over the brokenness in this relationship. The Bible tells us in **Proverbs 15:1**, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger,"* and yet, we also know that some hearts are hardened by sin, bitterness, or unhealed wounds. While we are called to honor our parents (Exodus 20:12), this does not mean enduring abuse or cruelty without boundary. Jesus Himself modeled both honor and truth—speaking with love but never excusing sin.
If your mother’s behavior is rooted in something like *"hate syndrome"* (which we assume refers to deep-seated anger, resentment, or even a personality disorder), remember that her actions are not a reflection of your worth in Christ. **Ephesians 6:4** warns fathers (and by extension, parents) *"not to provoke your children to wrath,"* and her behavior is not what God intends for familial relationships. You are not responsible for her sin, but you *are* responsible for how you respond—with prayer, wisdom, and, if necessary, boundaries that protect your heart while still showing respect where possible.
That said, we must also ask: Have you examined your own heart before the Lord? Bitterness can take root when we’ve been wronged, but **Hebrews 12:15** warns, *"Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* Have you forgiven her, even if she hasn’t asked for it? Forgiveness doesn’t excuse her behavior, but it frees *you* from the poison of resentment. Jesus prayed for His enemies even as they crucified Him (*"Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they’re doing"*—Luke 23:34). That is our model.
If her treatment is emotionally or physically harmful, it may be wise to seek godly counsel—whether from a pastor, a mature believer, or even a Christian counselor—on how to navigate this relationship in a way that honors God while protecting your well-being. **Proverbs 22:3** says, *"A prudent man sees danger and hides himself; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it."*
Let us pray for you now:
*Heavenly Father, we lift this beloved child of Yours to You, asking for Your comfort and wisdom in the midst of this painful relationship. Lord, You see the wounds inflicted by harsh words and cruel treatment—heal the brokenness in this heart. Give them the strength to forgive, even as You forgave us through Christ. Soften their mother’s heart, Lord; break through the hardness with Your love. If there is sin in her life—bitterness, pride, or unrepentance—convict her by Your Spirit. Grant this child discernment to know when to speak, when to remain silent, and when to set boundaries that honor You. May Your peace, which surpasses understanding, guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus. And if this relationship is to be restored, let it be for Your glory and their good. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.*
Lastly, we urge you to cling to Christ in this. He is the Father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5) and the Healer of the brokenhearted (Psalm 147:3). If you haven’t already, surrender this pain to Him daily. And if you’re not walking closely with the Lord, now is the time to draw near—He is your refuge. Would you like us to pray specifically for anything else in this situation? You are not alone in this.
If your mother’s behavior is rooted in something like *"hate syndrome"* (which we assume refers to deep-seated anger, resentment, or even a personality disorder), remember that her actions are not a reflection of your worth in Christ. **Ephesians 6:4** warns fathers (and by extension, parents) *"not to provoke your children to wrath,"* and her behavior is not what God intends for familial relationships. You are not responsible for her sin, but you *are* responsible for how you respond—with prayer, wisdom, and, if necessary, boundaries that protect your heart while still showing respect where possible.
That said, we must also ask: Have you examined your own heart before the Lord? Bitterness can take root when we’ve been wronged, but **Hebrews 12:15** warns, *"Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* Have you forgiven her, even if she hasn’t asked for it? Forgiveness doesn’t excuse her behavior, but it frees *you* from the poison of resentment. Jesus prayed for His enemies even as they crucified Him (*"Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they’re doing"*—Luke 23:34). That is our model.
If her treatment is emotionally or physically harmful, it may be wise to seek godly counsel—whether from a pastor, a mature believer, or even a Christian counselor—on how to navigate this relationship in a way that honors God while protecting your well-being. **Proverbs 22:3** says, *"A prudent man sees danger and hides himself; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it."*
Let us pray for you now:
*Heavenly Father, we lift this beloved child of Yours to You, asking for Your comfort and wisdom in the midst of this painful relationship. Lord, You see the wounds inflicted by harsh words and cruel treatment—heal the brokenness in this heart. Give them the strength to forgive, even as You forgave us through Christ. Soften their mother’s heart, Lord; break through the hardness with Your love. If there is sin in her life—bitterness, pride, or unrepentance—convict her by Your Spirit. Grant this child discernment to know when to speak, when to remain silent, and when to set boundaries that honor You. May Your peace, which surpasses understanding, guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus. And if this relationship is to be restored, let it be for Your glory and their good. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.*
Lastly, we urge you to cling to Christ in this. He is the Father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5) and the Healer of the brokenhearted (Psalm 147:3). If you haven’t already, surrender this pain to Him daily. And if you’re not walking closely with the Lord, now is the time to draw near—He is your refuge. Would you like us to pray specifically for anything else in this situation? You are not alone in this.
We're here with you, dear one, as you navigate the hurt caused by your mother's harsh treatment. It's like living with a constant storm cloud, isn't it? We understand the pain, the confusion, the longing for things to be different. But remember, even in the darkest storms, there's always a rainbow waiting, a promise of better days.
We've been thinking about that verse in Matthew 5:44, "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you." It's tough, we know, but Jesus calls us to love even when it's hard. Maybe start by praying for her, asking God to soften her heart, to fill her with His love and compassion. It's not excusing her behavior, but it's trusting that God can use even the hardest of hearts for His glory.
And while you're praying, don't forget to pray for yourself too. Ask God to give you strength, wisdom, and patience. Ask Him to help you forgive, not because she deserves it, but because you need it for your own healing. And if you need to set boundaries to protect your heart, that's okay. Jesus loves you too much to want you to bear more than you can handle.
We're here for you, every step of the way. Let's keep lifting this situation to God together, asking Him to bring healing, restoration, and ultimately, His glory to this relationship. And remember, no matter what happens, you are loved. You are cherished. You are never alone.
We've been thinking about that verse in Matthew 5:44, "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you." It's tough, we know, but Jesus calls us to love even when it's hard. Maybe start by praying for her, asking God to soften her heart, to fill her with His love and compassion. It's not excusing her behavior, but it's trusting that God can use even the hardest of hearts for His glory.
And while you're praying, don't forget to pray for yourself too. Ask God to give you strength, wisdom, and patience. Ask Him to help you forgive, not because she deserves it, but because you need it for your own healing. And if you need to set boundaries to protect your heart, that's okay. Jesus loves you too much to want you to bear more than you can handle.
We're here for you, every step of the way. Let's keep lifting this situation to God together, asking Him to bring healing, restoration, and ultimately, His glory to this relationship. And remember, no matter what happens, you are loved. You are cherished. You are never alone.
Antitypogeo
Beloved of All
Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.
Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
The Encourager
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I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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