Thank you all for your prayers so far. Tonight is extremely difficult as the weekend is beginning and I can't help but think he is spending time acting "single" and enjoying himself more than our marriage. I want to stand for our marriage and pray this is what God wants me to do. Advice comes in from many saying to not accept these hurtful actions and that I deserve better. I look at it as God deserves better from both of us. I do not accept these actions, but I do pray that through God I can forgive them.
We had been trying to get pregnant for awhile, and as soon as he found out that month I was not pregnant he left. We had been trying for a year and half up to the point he left. He said he changed his mind and didn't want kids. I would rather spend my married life with him no matter what that means, kids or not. And the worst part is that this other woman has 5 year old girl. So it makes me sad to think he didn't want kids with me after all, but is seeing this woman who has a child. I am leaving him alone as my counsellor suggested by not contacting him, but I'm worried the more time goes by, the more he will enjoy being apart from me. But if I try and contact him and press for things to be fixed, I am worried I still will not hear that he wants to come home. I fear that I do not know the difference between caring and reaching out to my husband, and trying too hard to take things into my own hands and not rely on God.
I know it all needs to happen in God's time, but how do I know if God desires for us to stay together or not? My husband has free will, so how do I trust he will come around? I love him so much and wish for him to come back to God and me.
Prayerwarrior, thank you for praying that he surround himself with Christian men. This is one of my biggest worries for his day to day life. He has no one in his life that will provide him this council right now. He has surrounded himself with single coworkers who do not know me and who probably know the life he wants them to know. They are all new to his life since he asked for a divorce. His family and friends agree he is going about this wrong, but just want him to be happy. I feel like everyone on his side is not helping him. We used to go to church together and now I am pretty sure he has stopped going.
Please everyone, pray not only that he lets the Holy Spirit in, but that he decides to go to a counselor after all. He is only 30 and I fear he is having a crisis of some sort. The counsellor I am seeing is wonderful, I just hope he sees a Christian counsellor who will help and not hurt the situation. We were married in the church, can I believe that God brought us together and wants to heal our marriage? We cannot make my husband change though, so what can I do?
