We understand the tenderness of your heart in this situation, and we want to lift you up in prayer while also speaking truth into your life with love. First, we must address that this request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, and it is only through Him that we can approach the throne of God with confidence. As Scripture tells us in John 14:6, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"* And in Acts 4:12, we are reminded, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today, for He alone holds the power to bring true peace, clarity, and purpose to your life.
Now, let us speak to the situation you are facing. The emotions you are experiencing are real, and we do not dismiss them, but we must examine this through the lens of Scripture. The heart is deceitful above all things (Jeremiah 17:9), and emotions can lead us astray if they are not submitted to God’s Word. You mentioned that this young man broke up with his "ex," yet she still pursues him, and now you find yourself drawn to him as well. This is a dangerous path, sister, and one that is filled with potential for sin, heartache, and confusion. The Bible is clear that we are to flee from situations that can lead to temptation or emotional and spiritual compromise. 1 Corinthians 6:18 tells us, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* While you may not have crossed physical boundaries yet, emotional entanglement with someone who is not your spouse—or in this case, someone who is still tied to another woman—is unwise and can lead to sin.
We must also address the fact that you are not married to this young man, nor are you in a biblically defined courtship with the intent of marriage. The relationship you describe is one of emotional attachment without commitment, and this is not how God designed relationships to function. Song of Solomon 2:7 warns, *"I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles, or by the does of the field, that you not stir up, nor awaken love until it so desires."* Love is not something to be trifled with or awakened outside of the context of marriage or a godly courtship leading to marriage. The pain and drama you wish to avoid are often the very results of relationships that are built outside of God’s design.
Additionally, the fact that this young man is still entangled with his former girlfriend is a red flag. If he has not fully severed that relationship in a godly and honorable way, he is not ready to pursue another. Proverbs 6:27-28 asks, *"Can a man scoop fire into his lap, and his clothes not be burned? Or can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be scorched?"* Playing with fire—whether emotional, relational, or physical—will inevitably lead to burns. You cannot control how this situation will unfold, but you *can* control your own obedience to God. If you continue down this path, you risk becoming part of a cycle of broken relationships, jealousy, and pain. That is not God’s will for you.
Instead, we encourage you to step back from this situation entirely. Seek the Lord first, and ask Him to guard your heart. Proverbs 4:23 says, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the flow of life."* Now is the time to draw near to God, to immerse yourself in His Word, and to ask Him to align your desires with His will. If this young man is meant to be part of your future, God will make it clear *in His timing and in His way*—not through manipulation, emotional ties, or compromise. But if this is not God’s plan, then clinging to it will only bring sorrow.
Lastly, we must ask: Are you seeking a husband who loves the Lord with all his heart? A man who will lead you spiritually, cherish you as Christ loves the church, and honor God in your relationship? Or are you simply drawn to the emotions this young man stirs in you? 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If this young man is not a believer who is wholeheartedly pursuing Christ, then he is not someone you should be pursuing, no matter how strong your feelings may be.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister up to You, knowing that You see her heart and understand the desires and struggles she is facing. Lord, we ask that You would guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give her the strength to step away from this situation and to trust You completely with her future. Father, if there is any sinful desire or emotional attachment that is not pleasing to You, we ask that You would convict her by Your Holy Spirit and lead her to repentance. Help her to seek You first, above all else, and to find her satisfaction in You alone.
Lord, we pray for clarity—for her to see this situation through Your eyes and not her own emotions. Remove any confusion, and let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, rule in her heart. If this young man is not Your will for her, we ask that You would close that door permanently and redirect her affections toward You. If there is a godly man You have prepared for her, we pray that You would bring him into her life in Your perfect timing and in a way that honors You.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of jealousy, manipulation, or emotional bondage that may be at work in this situation. We declare that our sister is free in Christ, and we ask that You would surround her with godly counsel and wisdom. Let her find her identity in You, and may she walk in purity, patience, and faith as she waits on Your perfect plan.
We also pray for the young man involved. Lord, if he does not know You, we ask that You would draw him to Yourself. Convict him of any sin in his life, and lead him to repentance. If he is a believer, we pray that You would strengthen him to walk in integrity and to honor You in all his relationships.
Lastly, Father, we ask that You would protect our sister from heartache and regret. Let her find her joy in You, and may she trust that Your plans for her are good, to give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). We pray all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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