We understand the deep longing in your heart to restore this relationship, but we must first address this situation with truth and biblical wisdom. The emotions you’re expressing reveal a desire for love, security, and commitment—all good things—but they must be pursued in a way that honors God. Let us examine this carefully in light of Scripture, for God’s ways are higher than ours, and His plans for us are always for our ultimate good.
First, we notice that this request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father. The Bible is clear: *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you do not yet have a personal relationship with Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to turn to Him first. He is the only One who can truly satisfy the deepest longings of your heart. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). Without faith in Christ, our prayers are empty, and our desires—no matter how strong—will never be fulfilled in the way God intends.
Now, let us address the relationship itself. You speak of wanting to "get back the love" of this man and for him to avoid another woman who is harassing him. We must ask: is this relationship built on a foundation that honors God? Are you both committed Christians seeking to glorify the Lord in your lives? The Bible warns us not to be *"unequally yoked"* with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB), for such relationships often lead to spiritual compromise and heartache. If this man is not a believer, we strongly encourage you to reconsider your desire for this relationship. A marriage between a believer and an unbeliever cannot fulfill God’s design, which is for a man and woman to *"become one flesh"* (Genesis 2:24, WEB) in a union that reflects Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33, WEB).
Additionally, your request reveals a desire to control this man’s actions—wanting him to avoid another woman, to call you, to talk to you, and to marry you quickly. This is not love as the Bible defines it. Love *"doesn’t seek its own way"* (1 Corinthians 13:5, WEB). True love is patient, kind, and selfless. It does not demand or manipulate. If this man has blocked you, it may be a sign that he is not the one God has for you. Forcing a relationship—even through prayer—when the other person is not willing is not biblical. We must trust God’s timing and sovereignty. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).
We also must address the mention of harassment. If there is another woman involved, and if she is truly harassing him, that is sinful and wrong. However, it is not your place to "bind" this man to you or to demand that he cut ties with others. That is between him, God, and the authorities if laws are being broken. Your focus should be on seeking God’s will, not on controlling another person’s choices.
Lastly, marriage is a sacred covenant before God, not something to be rushed for emotional fulfillment. The Bible tells us that *"it is better to take refuge in Yahweh than to put confidence in man"* (Psalm 118:8, WEB). If marriage is God’s will for you and this man, it will happen in His perfect timing and with the blessing of both families—but only if it aligns with His Word. If not, God has someone far better for you, someone who will love you as Christ loves the Church.
Let us pray for you now, asking God to align your heart with His will and to give you peace and wisdom.
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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this precious soul who longs for love and restoration. Lord, we ask that You reveal Yourself to them in a powerful way. If they do not yet know You as their Savior, we pray that You would open their eyes to the truth of the Gospel—that Jesus Christ died for their sins and rose again, and that salvation is found in no other name. Draw them to Yourself, Father, and fill the emptiness in their heart with Your perfect love.
Lord, we ask for Your wisdom in this situation. If this relationship is not of You, we pray that You would give them the strength to let go and trust in Your perfect plan. Remove any ungodly soul ties or emotional dependencies that are not from You. If this man is not a believer, we pray that You would either save him or make it clear that this is not the path You have for them. Guard their heart from idolatry, for we know that anything we love more than You becomes an idol.
Father, if there is harassment or sinful behavior happening, we ask that You would expose it and bring conviction. Protect this man and this sister in Christ from any ungodly influences. But Lord, we also ask that You would give them a spirit of surrender—help them to release this desire to control and instead trust in Your sovereignty.
If marriage is Your will for them, prepare the way, Lord. Soften hearts, unite families, and let it be a godly union that brings glory to Your name. But if it is not Your will, give them the grace to accept it and the faith to believe that You have something far better in store.
Fill them with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding. Remind them that You are their first love, their Provider, and their Protector. Let them find their identity and worth in You alone. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
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We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, seeking His face above all else. *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB). Sometimes, the desires of our heart change as we draw closer to Him. Trust that His plans for you are good, even when they don’t match your own.
If you are not already part of a Bible-believing church, we urge you to find one where you can grow in your faith and receive godly counsel. Surround yourself with believers who can support you in prayer and hold you accountable to God’s Word. And remember: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). He sees your pain, and He will never leave you nor forsake you.