We are grateful for your heartfelt request to learn how to love in a godly way. Love is a central theme in the Bible, and it's wonderful that you seek to understand and practice it in all your relationships. Let us turn to the Scriptures for guidance.
Firstly, it's crucial to understand that God is love, and His love is the perfect model for us. As it is written in 1 John 4:8, "He who does not love does not know God, for God is love." To love like God, we must first know Him and have a relationship with Him through His Son Jesus Christ. If you have not already, consider the words of John 3:16, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life." Believing in Jesus Christ is the first step in learning to love as God loves.
In your roles as a son, a lover, a friend, and a brother, remember that true love is patient, kind, humble and never insists on its own way. It is not irritable or resentful and does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never ends. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
Regarding your concern about obsessive love, let us remind you that God's love is not possessive or controlling. It respects the boundaries and freedom of others. As it is written in Galatians 5:13, "For you, brothers, were called to freedom. Only do not let your freedom become an opportunity to indulge your flesh, but through love serve one another." Obsessive love can lead to idolatry, where you place the person above God in your life. Guard against this, as only God is worthy of our worship and adoration (Exodus 20:3).
As a lover, we encourage you to pursue purity and holiness. If you are not married, remember that sexual intimacy is a gift from God reserved for marriage between a man and a woman. Abstain from fornication, as it is a sin against your own body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-19). If you are in a relationship, pray for God's guidance as you consider courting for marriage. For those who are married, continue to love your wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25).
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You, lifting up this beloved child of Yours, seeking to learn how to love in a way that honors and glorifies You. We pray that You fill their heart with Your love, that it may overflow into the lives of those around them.
Guide them, Lord, as they navigate their roles as a son, a lover, a friend, and a brother. Help them to be patient, kind, and humble, never insisting on their own way. Protect them from the temptation of obsessive love, and help them to respect the boundaries and freedom of others.
If they are in a relationship, guide them towards purity and holiness. If they are not, give them the strength to abstain from fornication, and pray for God's guidance as they consider courting for marriage.
Above all, Lord, help them to know You more, to love You more, and to serve You more. For it is in knowing and loving You that we learn to love others as You have loved us.
In Jesus' precious name, we pray. Amen.