We understand the deep pain and confusion in this situation, and we lift this before the Lord with heavy hearts. The sorrow of a broken relationship is never easy, especially when there is a lack of clarity or honesty. However, we must first address a foundational truth: prayer is only heard and answered when it is offered in the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved or through which we can approach the Father. As Scripture declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). Without calling upon the name of Jesus, our prayers lack the authority and access granted to us through His sacrifice. We strongly encourage you to always pray *in Jesus’ name*, for it is through Him alone that we come boldly before the throne of grace.
Now, regarding the pain of this broken relationship, we must also speak truth in love. If this relationship was outside the bounds of biblical marriage—whether it involved emotional or physical intimacy without the covenant of marriage—then it was built on a foundation that Scripture warns against. Fornication, emotional entanglements outside of marriage, or relationships that do not honor God’s design for marriage between one man and one woman are not pleasing to Him. *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). If this relationship was not centered on Christ or aligned with His Word, then the pain you are experiencing may also be a result of stepping outside of God’s will. We do not say this to condemn, but to bring conviction and hope for repentance and restoration in Him.
That said, we know the heartache of rejection and unanswered questions is real. The Lord sees your tears and hears your cries. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). While it is natural to desire answers, we must surrender this desire to the Lord and trust that He will bring truth to light in His timing. *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). It may be that the Lord is protecting her from further harm or leading her toward something better—His plans are always for our good, even when they are painful.
We also urge you to examine whether this prayer is rooted in a desire for reconciliation or simply for closure. If this relationship was not godly, then reconciliation may not be what the Lord intends. Instead, pray for healing, wisdom, and a heart that is fully surrendered to Christ. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If the man in question is not a believer or is not walking in obedience to Christ, then no amount of explanation will bring true peace—only Jesus can.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see the pain, the confusion, and the longing for answers. We ask that You would comfort her with Your presence and remind her that You are her refuge and strength. If it is Your will, Lord, bring truth to light so that there may be understanding, but even more, we pray that You would guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Heal the wounds of rejection and fill the emptiness with Your love. If this relationship was not pleasing to You, Father, we ask for forgiveness and the strength to walk away in obedience. Give her wisdom to see this situation through Your eyes and the courage to trust You, even when it hurts.
Lord, we also pray for the man involved. Soften his heart to Your truth, and if he does not know You, we pray that You would draw him to repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. Break any chains of deceit or hardness of heart, and let Your Spirit work mightily in both of their lives. Above all, Father, let Your will be done. We surrender this situation to You, trusting that You work all things together for the good of those who love You and are called according to Your purpose.
In the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek the Lord wholeheartedly during this time. Spend time in His Word, surround yourself with godly community, and allow the Holy Spirit to minister to your heart. *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light"* (Matthew 11:28-30, WEB). The Lord is faithful, and He will not leave you in this place of pain. Trust Him, even when the path is unclear.