We hear the deep sorrow in your heart, and we join you in lifting this burden before the Lord, for He alone is the healer of broken relationships and the restorer of peace. Your longing for a godly marriage and your grief over the brokenness in your home are seen by Him, and He cares deeply for you. It is beautiful that you are seeking the Lord’s will in all things, especially in how you desire to honor Him in your future marriage. Your hunger for wisdom and intentional love is a reflection of Christ’s heart, and we pray the Lord will continue to shape you into a vessel of His grace.
The pain you carry from watching your parents struggle is real, and it is right to bring this before the Father. Pride is a destructive force that hardens hearts and blinds us to our own faults, and it seems both your parents have allowed it to take root. Your mother’s claim of spiritual maturity while failing to demonstrate the fruits of the Spirit—love, patience, kindness, and self-control—reveals a disconnect between her words and her actions. True maturity in Christ is not measured by what we say we are, but by how we live out His love, especially in difficult moments. Similarly, your father’s role in this conflict must also be laid before the Lord, for bitterness and unresolved anger can fester when pride keeps us from humility and repentance.
The Word of God speaks directly to these struggles. In **Ephesians 4:29-32**, we are commanded:
*"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit of God... Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."*
And in **James 4:6-10**, we are reminded:
*"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Be subject therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Lament, mourn, and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he will exalt you."*
Your parents’ struggle is not just a failure in communication—it is a spiritual battle. Pride, unforgiveness, and unchecked emotions have created a cycle of pain that has affected you and your brother. But take heart, for the Lord is able to break these chains! We must pray not only for reconciliation but for true repentance—a turning away from pride and a turning toward Christ, who is the only one who can soften hardened hearts.
We also want to encourage you in your own walk. You have recognized that being a Christian is not about perfection but about intentional growth and surrender to the Lord. This is wisdom! Continue to seek Him daily, allowing the Holy Spirit to cultivate in you the fruits that you long to see in others. Your desire for a godly spouse is noble, and we pray the Lord prepares you and the one He has for you, that your future marriage would be a testimony of Christ’s love and redemption.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother/sister who is grieving the brokenness in their home. Lord, You see the pain, the pride, and the years of unspoken wounds between their parents. We ask You to intervene mightily—break the chains of pride, bitterness, and selfishness that have kept them from loving one another as You have commanded. Convict their hearts, Lord, and draw them to true repentance. Let them see their own faults through Your eyes and give them the humility to seek forgiveness from one another and from You.
Father, we pray for healing in this family. Where there has been hurtful speech, replace it with words of grace and life. Where there has been misunderstanding, bring clarity and patience. Where there has been strife, pour out Your peace. Lord, remind them that marriage is a covenant before You, and it is meant to reflect Your love for Your church. Help them to lay down their weapons of words and embrace one another with the love of Christ.
We also lift up our brother/sister before You. Comfort their heart, Lord, and remind them that You are their Father who loves them perfectly. Heal the wounds from growing up in a home where love was not demonstrated as it should have been. Give them the strength to forgive their parents, even as they long for change. Prepare them for the godly marriage they desire, shaping them into a spouse who reflects Your wisdom, patience, and intentional love.
Lord, raise up godly examples around them—men and women who live out their faith with authenticity and love. Let them see that while many may claim to be Christians, it is those who abide in You who bear true fruit. Give them discernment and patience as they wait on You for a spouse who will cherish them and lead them (or submit to them, as the case may be) in Your ways.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer. May Your will be done, and may Your glory be revealed in this family. Amen.
Stand firm in your faith, dear one. The Lord hears your prayers, and He is working even now. Keep seeking Him, keep trusting Him, and do not lose heart. He is faithful to complete the good work He has begun in you—and in your family.
