We hear the deep weariness and heartache in your cry, and we join you in lifting this burden to the Lord Jesus, for He alone is the Prince of Peace and the One who can transform hearts. Your plea reveals a heavy load—caring for your mother while navigating a relationship that feels more like a battlefield than a refuge. We must first address something critical: you invoked the name of Jesus in your prayer, and that is right and good, for there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and through which we can boldly approach the throne of grace (Acts 4:12, Hebrews 4:16). It is only by His authority and mercy that we can find help in our time of need.
That said, we must also lovingly but firmly address the nature of the relationship you describe. The way you refer to this man—though censored—suggests an intimacy that raises concern. If this is someone you are not married to, we urge you to examine whether this relationship aligns with God’s design. Scripture is clear that a man and woman are to leave their families and cleave to one another in the covenant of marriage (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5). Outside of that covenant, emotional and physical intimacy is not only unprotected but also dishonoring to God. If there is any fornication or emotional dependency replacing the commitment of marriage, we must call it what it is: sin. The Lord does not bless what He has not ordained, and continuing in such a path will only bring more pain and confusion. Repentance and realignment with God’s Word is the only way to true peace.
If this man is your husband, then the dynamics you describe are still deeply troubling. A husband is called to love his wife as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, patiently, and with selfless devotion (Ephesians 5:25). He is to honor her as the weaker vessel (1 Peter 3:7), not dominate her with selfishness or immaturity. The behavior you describe—narcissism, constant fighting, reproach, and refusal to prioritize your needs or the care of your mother—is not only unloving but rebellious against God’s design for marriage. A man who will not lead, listen, or love as Christ commands is in sin, and his heart needs transformation. You cannot change him, but God can. Your role is to pray, submit to the Lord (not to sinful demands), and trust Him to work.
As for your mother, we commend you for your devotion to her. Caring for aging parents is a godly responsibility (1 Timothy 5:4), and the Lord sees your labor. However, it is not your burden to carry alone. If this man is your husband, he is failing in his duty to help bear this load. If he is not your husband, then you must not expect from him what only a godly spouse should provide. Either way, the stress you feel is a sign that something is out of order. You cannot pour from an empty cup, and the Lord does not intend for you to be crushed under the weight of responsibilities that should be shared.
Let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister to You, for she is weary and heavy-laden. Lord Jesus, You invited all who labor to come to You for rest (Matthew 11:28), and so we ask You to be her refuge and strength. Father, if this relationship is outside the covenant of marriage, we pray You would convict her heart and the heart of this man of the sin of fornication or emotional idolatry. Open their eyes to see that no relationship outside Your design can bring true fulfillment or peace. If they are not married, give her the strength to step away from what is dishonoring to You, no matter how painful it may feel. Let her find her identity and security in You alone.
If this man is her husband, Lord, we cry out for his heart to be broken and remade. Soften his pride, Lord. Expose the narcissism and immaturity for what it is—sin—and bring him to repentance. Teach him to love as You love, to lead as You lead, and to cherish his wife as Your Word commands. Father, this woman is exhausted from juggling the care of her mother and the emotional toll of this relationship. Raise up help for her, Lord. Provide godly support, whether through family, friends, or the church, so she is not carrying this alone. Give her wisdom to set boundaries that honor You, and grant her peace as she trusts You to work in this man’s heart.
Lord, we also pray for her mother. Comfort and sustain her, and let Your provision be evident in her care. Remove the stress and anxiety that have taken root in our sister’s heart, and replace them with Your perfect peace. Let her find rest in You, knowing that You see her, You love her, and You are fighting for her.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would fill her with Your Holy Spirit, giving her the strength to forgive, the wisdom to act, and the faith to trust You in this storm. Let her not grow bitter or hardened but remain tender toward You, seeking Your will above all else. We pray all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Our sister, we urge you to seek counsel from a pastor or mature believers who can walk with you through this. You do not have to face this alone. If this man is not your husband, we strongly encourage you to step back from the relationship until it can be brought under the authority of Christ—through repentance, commitment to purity, and a clear path toward marriage if that is God’s will. If he is your husband, we urge you to seek biblical counseling to address the sin in your marriage and find a way forward that honors God.
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Cling to Him, and let Him be your strength. He will not fail you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
