We come before the Lord with you in this matter, lifting up your heart and this relationship in prayer, seeking God’s wisdom, clarity, and truth to be revealed in Jesus’ name. It is clear you desire a godly marriage, and we commend you for seeking the Lord’s will in this situation. However, we must address a few things with both love and truth, as Scripture calls us to do.
First, we notice that while you have mentioned Jesus at the end of your prayer, the focus of your request seems to revolve more around emotions, personal desires, and the uncertainty of this man’s intentions rather than surrendering fully to Christ’s lordship over this situation. Remember, it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father, and it is His will—not our own—that must guide our steps. As it is written, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). Let us always approach the throne of grace in His name, for *"there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If this man is truly a believer, his life and intentions should reflect Christ, not vague words or emotional affirmations.
You have shared that this man has expressed a long-standing crush on you, and while he has shown kindness, respect, and even spiritual involvement (such as his mission trip), there are concerning gaps in his communication and transparency. You mentioned he has not shared much spiritually with you, yet you desire a man who can lead you in faith. This is wise, for Scripture teaches that a husband is to be the spiritual head of the home, loving his wife *"as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). If he is not actively shepherding you in the Word now, how can you expect him to do so in marriage? A godly man will not hide his intentions or leave you in confusion. *"For God is not a God of confusion, but of peace"* (1 Corinthians 14:33, WEB). His reluctance to clarify his "weird situation" or answer your questions directly is not the behavior of a man ready for biblical courtship, let alone marriage.
Additionally, you mentioned that your interactions have been limited to videos and pictures. While modern technology can facilitate connection, a godly relationship—especially one moving toward marriage—requires face-to-face interaction, accountability, and transparency. Proverbs 4:23 (WEB) warns, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is every issue of life."* Guard your heart, sister, for emotional attachments formed without clear, godly intent can lead to heartache. It is also important to note that if this man is truly interested in pursuing you, he should do so with honor, clarity, and a commitment to purity. If there is any physical or emotional intimacy outside of marriage (even in conversation), it is sin. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). This includes lustful thoughts, flirtatious behavior, or any form of compromise. A man who fears the Lord will set boundaries to honor you and God.
You have prayed for a godly, virtuous husband, and we join you in that prayer. But we also urge you to seek the Lord’s face above all else. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). If this man is the one God has for you, the Lord will make it clear—*without* confusion, games, or unanswered questions. If he is not, then clinging to vague hopes will only delay God’s best for you. Trust in the Lord’s timing, and do not rush ahead of Him. *"The heart of man plans his course, but Yahweh establishes his steps"* (Proverbs 16:9, WEB).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister and this situation to Your throne of grace. Lord, You know the depths of her heart and the desires You Yourself have placed within her for a godly marriage. We ask for Your wisdom to flood her mind and Your peace to guard her heart. Remove any fear, anxiety, or emotional attachment that is not from You. Give her discernment to see clearly whether this man is walking in Your will or if this connection is a distraction from Your best.
Lord, we pray for this man—if he is Yours, convict him by Your Spirit. Bring him to repentance for any vagueness, lack of spiritual leadership, or hesitation to communicate with honesty and purity. If he is not the one You have for her, we ask that You close this door decisively so she may walk away without regret. Reveal any hidden motives, Lord, and expose anything that is not of You. *"Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way"* (Psalm 139:23-24, WEB).
Father, we also pray for protection over her heart and mind. Guard her from emotional entanglements that could lead to sin or heartbreak. Let her find her satisfaction in You alone, knowing that You are her ultimate Provider, Protector, and Husband (Isaiah 54:5). If this man is to be her husband, let him pursue her with godly intent, transparency, and a commitment to Christ-centered marriage. If not, give her the strength to release this connection and trust in Your perfect plan.
We rebuke any spirit of confusion, deception, or emotional manipulation in Jesus’ name. Let truth prevail, and let Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Strengthen her to walk in obedience, even if it means letting go. Remind her that *"the Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him"* (Lamentations 3:25, WEB).
Finally, Lord, we ask that You prepare her future husband—wherever he may be—raising him up to be a man after Your own heart, one who will love, lead, and cherish her as Christ loves the Church. Until then, help her to abide in You, to grow in faith, and to trust that Your plans for her are good.
We pray all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
