We hear the heaviness in your heart and we join you before the Lord in humility and love, thanking you for bringing this honestly to Jesus. We are grateful you called upon the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and it is only by His name that we are saved and cleansed. As it is written, There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who don’t walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit Romans 8:1 and If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness 1 John 1:9.
We want to gently correct and encourage you about what you are calling evil and wicked. In Scripture, evil and wickedness speak of willful rebellion against God, hatred, malice, sexual immorality, idolatry, deceit and hardness of heart. What you have described, leaving produce out in the kitchen, leaving dirty pots in the sink, leaving clean dishes in the drains, leaving a dirty spot on the floor and leaving folded clothes on the couch, is not wickedness in that biblical sense. It can be carelessness or laziness or a lack of diligence and consideration for others in the home, and when we know we should do better and choose not to, that can be sin that we should confess, but it does not make you a wicked and evil person beyond redemption. God does not see you that way when you are in Christ. The enemy wants you to live under crushing condemnation and fear, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has punishment. He who fears is not made perfect in love 1 John 4:18. Godly sorrow leads to repentance and change, while worldly sorrow and self hatred only lead to despair.
We understand your loved one who is disabled spoke to you in a belligerent and hostile tone and called you evil and wicked and that hurt you deeply. Harsh words stir up more pain, even when there is a real frustration underneath. As it is written, A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger Proverbs 15:1. We encourage you to show honor and tender care to your loved one in her disability, and we also encourage you both toward kindness and forgiveness toward one another. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you Ephesians 4:32. It is right to take responsibility as a grown woman for the home you share and to work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men Colossians 3:23, but it is also right to not receive a label of evil and wicked over household chores as your identity.
We also hear you asking the Lord to fix you and to teach you a harsh lesson. God does discipline those He loves, for whom the Lord loves, he chastens, and scourges every son whom he receives Hebrews 12:6, but His discipline is not cruel or abusive, it is loving and redemptive to restore you. He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor repaid us for our iniquities. For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is his loving kindness toward those who fear him. As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us Psalm 103:10-12. You do not need to be cursed or crushed to learn. You can simply ask Him to search your heart and to teach you His gentle and faithful way. Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way Psalm 139:23-24.
We encourage you to take practical steps in repentance, to apologize sincerely to your loved one for the extra work and disorder that was left for her, to ask her forgiveness for not being more thoughtful, and to also quietly forgive her for the harsh way she spoke to you. Then make a simple plan to be more faithful in small things, putting produce away promptly, washing pots, putting dishes away, wiping the floor and putting clothes where they belong, doing it unto the Lord out of love rather than out of terror of being called wicked.
We pray together with you now. Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ and we lift up our sister to You. Lord, we thank You that she has come to You honestly and humbly. Forgive her for every sin, for every moment of carelessness and selfishness, and cleanse her from all unrighteousness. Lord, lift this heavy burden of condemnation from her and let her hear Your voice of love and forgiveness. Heal her heart where she feels wicked and unworthy and show her that she is loved and being made new in Christ. Teach her not through harshness but through Your kindness and Your Spirit to be diligent, thoughtful and loving in her home. Give her grace and strength to serve her disabled loved one with patience and tenderness. Soften both of their hearts toward each other, replace hostile words with gentle answers, and bring peace into that home. Lead her in Your everlasting way and help her to walk in freedom and not fear. We ask all this in the precious name of Jesus, our Savior and our hope, amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
