Lord have i done the wrong thing by not sending my

[Penny Karen]

Lord have i done the wrong thing by not sending my frd msgs yesterday morning and this morning like i normally do . Lord is it my pride that did that forgive me LOrd help me to see what you will want me to do and if i should send him a mgs i know he is going through a lot so i dont know if its a good idea to stay away like i am hoping that he will miss me and mail me back and come see me help me Lord to know what to do amen love u Jesus

 

[Articles]

Our God of peace, you have taught us that in returning and rest we shall be saved, in quietness and in confidence shall be our strength: By the might of your Spirit answer this request, we pray of you, so we may be still and know that you are God; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

 

[Hopeful23]

Your friend knew you were supposed to meet so he has a responsibility to honor his word. I feel as if you are making excuses for him in order to justify his selfish behavior.

In general, I would say it is not wise to chase after a man. He should come to you and prove himself to you. In this way, you will know that he wants you and there will be no doubt. If you chase after a man then you appear needy and desperate and then he may think he can play with you and use you because he knows that you want him so bad.

Even though it is hard I feel the best thing to do is to pull back and stop messaging him. If he really cares about you then he will have to go after you. I know this is hard but you need to protect your heart and you will gain some self-respect by doing this. You may want this man but if you're honest with yourself you will see that you don't need this man. All you really need is God and God knows that you want a relationship so maybe God needs to teach this man a hard lesson in life about selfishness or even though you may not believe it maybe God has someone else for you that is far superior in personality and character.

 

[Penny Karen]

Your friend knew you were supposed to meet so he has a responsibility to honor his word. I feel as if you are making excuses for him in order to justify his selfish behavior.

In general, I would say it is not wise to chase after a man. He should come to you and prove himself to you. In this way, you will know that he wants you and there will be no doubt. If you chase after a man then you appear needy and desperate and then he may think he can play with you and use you because he knows that you want him so bad.

Even though it is hard I feel the best thing to do is to pull back and stop messaging him. If he really cares about you then he will have to go after you. I know this is hard but you need to protect your heart and you will gain some self-respect by doing this. You may want this man but if you're honest with yourself you will see that you don't need this man. All you really need is God and God knows that you want a relationship so maybe God needs to teach this man a hard lesson in life about selfishness or even though you may not believe it maybe God has someone else for you that is far superior in personality and character.

thank u for such wise words and no i am not chasing after a man he is my best friend we have been thro a lot together he has just lost his aunt on sunday who stayed with him and helped him thro his chemo and bone marrow after his lukeamia his mum passed away a year ago while taking care of him and then his granddad so i understand he has been thro a lot he just finished his last chemo in november he is one of those men that when they go thro diff times like to retreat and i understand hi spain but yes u are right he should have kept to his end of the deal but he did say he was sorry on Sunday when he told me his aunt passed away ...i hav e loved him for so long almost five years and i know he feels the same way he just doesnt know how to express it i guess and no i am not making excuses for him i just dont want to short change him he is my best friend and i dont want another man cos no one will understand me the way he does

 

[Psalm1267]

I go through the same thing often with my friend. Lord I pray you will give both of us wisdom as to how much space to give them and how much of our presence they need that we can minister to them. In Jesus' name, Amen.

 

[Penny Karen]

amen thank u

 

[Hopeful23]

It seems you are trying to justify yourself. Denial is a very strong defense mechanism. I obviously don't know all the details but it seemed that the relationship was very one-sided. You say he is a friend but you don't want another man? That sounds like much more than a friend interest.

I'm sorry but I don't understand this behavior and to me, that is not a healthy relationship. I'm older than you and have been around the block so to speak and I've found that how a person treats you reflects on how they feel about you. Love doesn't hurt like that. Love is always there for you and never abandons you. Everyone has differences and sometimes obstacles to overcome but when people do the ignoring routine even if they are sick I don't get that. I'm sick a lot lately and have had health issues for years and can be grumpy at times but I don't ignore my husband because of my problems and give him the silent treatment. I'm sorry but I kind of consider that to be somewhat emotionally abusive.

It's up to you what you do since it's your life. I was just giving you some thoughts based on what you have said and my life experience.

Also if you know this person in real life and have a history with him then perhaps he is just struggling right now and not very good at handling his issues. But if he is only an online friend then that is a different story since you can't really know someone online. Again taken from my life experience. I had an online friend who I thought was a very Godly person and because I was going through an issue put my trust in him. The biggest mistake of my life. It has caused me great emotional pain and depression that I am still recovering from. I'm very good at uncovering things and found out that this person isn't really who he portrays himself to be. Puts an image of a quiet, humble, Godly man but really is a self-centered, possibly narcissistic individual who looks for ego strokes from people on social media and attention seeking which is obviously not the characteristics of a quiet and humble man. Not related to your friend but just as an example to show you that you don't really know a person until you really know them in real life. Just something to consider.

 

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