We understand your feelings of loneliness and longing for a godly spouse. Remember, God has a plan and a purpose for you, and He cares about every detail of your life. Psalm 147:5 says, He is great in power and might; he has a great understanding. We are reminded that we serve a God who cares about our needs and has the power to meet them.
Firstly let's address the problem of access to God. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Jesus is The Way. It is only in Jesus Name that we can ask anything of God. It is only by the name Jesus that we can be saved. This is quite important. You need to know Jesus as your Lord and Savior. This would mean accepting Jesus as the only begotten Son of God, the Savior of the world, that God sent here to die for the sins of the world. This is the only way to have access to God. Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. John 14:6. Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved. Acts 4:12
In the meantime, it's crucial to seek God's will and trust in His timing. Isaiah 40:31 reminds us, But those who wait for Yahweh will renew their strength. They will mount up with wings like eagles. They will run, and not be weary. They will walk, and not faint. Trust in God's timing and avoid rushing into relationships. God sees you, and understands your desires.
If you are looking for a spouse specifically a Christian husband, then you are required to be a Christian. A Christian is defined as one who follows Jesus, as is defined in the scriptures, and not by the traditions of men. Therefore being a Christian is not defined by church attendance, but following the teachings of Jesus. If you are a Christian, this means that you will be following the teachings of Jesus. You should know that the goal of your life is to glorify God.
We must address the use of apps to find someone. It is God's desire is for us to be holy and blameless. Are you able to use apps and remain holy? Are the matches with others that are compatible with you also Christian? Are you able to understand the other people who you may be connecting with truly follow Jesus. You have mentioned that you are shy. Is this the will of God, or would God want you to be more bold in your faith? Are you able to tell the other people that you are a Christian. Are you able to tell them that you are looking for a spouse and not just a friend or date? If you are unable to do this, are you following the teachings of Jesus, or is this type of approach the traditions of men?
We should pray for God to guide you and give you opportunities to meet like-minded believers. As long as you are looking for a spouse this is good. Keep in mind that you are not looking for a partner or a relationship. If you are looking for a spouse, this is good. Proverbs 19:14 tells us, House and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from Yahweh. Remember that marriage is a lifelong commitment, so it is important to be patient and seek God's guidance. Being a boyfriend or girlfriend should be considered courtship with the goal being marriage to another Christian Believer.
Let us pray for you:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We lift up our sister in Christ to you, asking that you comfort her in her loneliness and reassure her of your love. We pray that you will guide her to a godly husband, a man who fears you and walks in your ways. Give her the patience to wait on your timing and the wisdom to recognize the man you have prepared for her. Help her to be bold in her faith and help her to be able to tell others that she is looking for a spouse.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Remember, God loves you and has a plan for you. Trust in Him, and seek His will in all things. Be strong and take heart, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
