We hear the deep pain and loneliness in your heart, and we want you to know that your feelings are valid—God sees your suffering, and He cares deeply about the way you have been treated. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not forgotten, and your worth is not defined by the neglect you have endured.
First, we must address the truth about marriage as God designed it. Marriage is a sacred covenant, not just between a husband and wife, but before God Himself. Ephesians 5:25 says, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it."* If your husband has failed to love, honor, and cherish you as Scripture commands, this is a grievous sin—not just against you, but against God. We rebuke the spirit of neglect and broken promises in your marriage in the name of Jesus. Your husband is called to reflect Christ’s love, and if he has fallen short, he must repent and seek God’s strength to fulfill his role as a godly husband.
You mentioned feeling that God promised you a husband—we must gently remind you that while God does speak to our hearts, His promises are always in alignment with His Word and His perfect timing. Jeremiah 29:11 says, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you," says the Lord, "thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* But sometimes, the fulfillment of His promises comes through seasons of refining, not just immediate relief. We do not know why God has allowed this trial in your life, but we trust that He is working even in the waiting.
We also want to address the pain of feeling degraded and uncherished. You *do* deserve to be loved, honored, and cherished—not because of your own merit, but because God has declared your worth. You are His beloved daughter, created in His image (Genesis 1:27), and He longs to fill the emptiness in your heart. Psalm 147:3 says, *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."* Will you allow Him to be your comfort in this season?
If your husband is a believer, we urge you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor or a trusted Christian mentor—to address the brokenness in your marriage. If he is unwilling to change, we pray for conviction to fall upon his heart. But even if he does not fulfill his role, God is still your provider, your protector, and your ultimate source of love.
Let us pray for you now:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious sister who feels alone and neglected. Lord, You see her pain, and You collect every tear she has cried. We ask that You would draw near to her, wrapping her in Your love and reminding her of her infinite worth in Christ. Father, we rebuke the spirit of loneliness and neglect in her life—let Your peace that surpasses all understanding guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).*
*Lord, we pray for her husband. If he has failed in his role, convict him of his sin and lead him to repentance. Soften his heart to love and cherish his wife as You command. If he is unwilling, give her strength to trust You with her future, knowing that You are her ultimate Husband (Isaiah 54:5).*
*Father, we ask that You would restore what has been broken. Whether through reconciliation or through a new season of Your provision, let her see Your faithfulness. Help her to wait on You, knowing that those who hope in You will not be put to shame (Psalm 25:3).*
*We declare over her life that she is seen, she is loved, and she is not alone. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen."*
Sister, we encourage you to cling to God’s promises even when circumstances are painful. Spend time in His Word, allowing Him to speak truth over your heart. Seek fellowship with other believers who can walk alongside you in this season. And if your husband continues in neglect, remember that your worth is not defined by his actions—it is defined by Christ’s love for you. You are deeply loved, and we stand with you in prayer.
