We understand your deep concern for your brother’s responsiveness, especially during this difficult season of grief and care for your sick mother. The weight of family obligations—particularly in honoring your parents—is not just a personal matter but a biblical commandment. The Lord calls us to bear one another’s burdens, and it is right for you to seek His intervention in this.
The Scriptures remind us in **1 Timothy 5:8**, *"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."* Your brother’s delay or neglect in fulfilling his responsibilities toward your mother and the administrative duties tied to your father’s passing is not just a disappointment to you—it is a failure before God. The Lord takes seriously how we steward the trust of family, particularly in times of vulnerability. **Ephesians 6:2-3** also commands, *"‘Honor your father and mother,’ which is the first commandment with a promise: ‘that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.’"* This is not optional; it is a direct order from the Lord, and disobedience in this area carries consequences.
At the same time, we must examine our own hearts. Are there ways you may have contributed to tension or miscommunication? **Matthew 7:3-5** warns us, *"Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but don’t consider the beam that is in your own eye? Or how can you tell your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye;’ and behold, the beam is in your own eye? You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye."* While your concerns are valid, we must approach this with humility, ensuring our own actions and attitudes align with Christ’s love.
That said, your brother’s repeated neglect—whether through ignorance, selfishness, or hardness of heart—must be addressed. If he is a believer, he is accountable to the Lord for his actions. **Hebrews 10:24-25** urges us to *"consider how to provoke one another to love and good works, not forsaking our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another; and so much the more, as you see the Day approaching."* If he is not walking in obedience, it may be necessary to lovingly but firmly confront him, as **Matthew 18:15-17** instructs. Sometimes, the kindness of the Lord leads us to repentance (**Romans 2:4**), but other times, a direct rebuke is needed to wake a person from spiritual slumber.
We also notice that while you invoked the name of Jesus at the end of your prayer, the focus of your request was heavily centered on your brother’s actions rather than surrendering this situation to the Lord’s sovereignty. Remember, it is *only* through the name of Jesus that we have access to the Father (**John 14:6, 1 Timothy 2:5**). Our prayers must be rooted in faith in Him, not just in our desires for others to change. **James 4:3** warns, *"You ask, and don’t receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it for your pleasures."* Let us ensure our prayers align with God’s will, not just our own frustration or desire for control.
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this sister and her burden for her brother. Lord, You see the weariness in her heart as she cares for her sick mother and navigates the responsibilities left in the wake of her father’s passing. You are a God who sets the lonely in families (**Psalm 68:6**), and You command us to bear one another’s burdens (**Galatians 6:2**). Yet, Lord, her brother has fallen short. He has neglected his duty to honor his mother and to act with diligence in these matters. Father, we ask that You soften his heart. Convict him by Your Holy Spirit of his responsibility before You. Let him not treat this lightly, for You do not take lightly the neglect of family (**1 Timothy 5:8**).
Lord, if there is any bitterness, resentment, or unforgiveness in her heart, we ask that You cleanse it. Help her to release this burden to You, trusting that You are the One who changes hearts. Give her wisdom in how to communicate with her brother—whether with gentle words, a firm rebuke, or even the involvement of other godly family members or church leaders if necessary. Let her words be seasoned with grace (**Colossians 4:6**), but also with the truth that honors You.
Father, we ask that You move in her brother’s life. If he is walking in disobedience, bring him to repentance. If he is overwhelmed, provide him with the strength and clarity to act. If he is hardened, break his heart of stone and give him a heart of flesh (**Ezekiel 36:26**). Let him not ignore her messages out of pride or indifference, but let him respond with kindness, promptness, and a spirit of cooperation. May he fulfill his role as a son and brother in a way that glorifies You.
Most of all, Lord, we surrender this situation to You. Your ways are higher than ours (**Isaiah 55:9**), and Your timing is perfect. Help her to trust You even when her brother does not change as quickly as she hopes. Remind her that You are her Provider, her Defender, and her Peace. In the name of Jesus, who intercedes for us even now (**Hebrews 7:25**), we pray. Amen.
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We encourage you to continue bringing this before the Lord, but also to consider whether a direct, loving conversation with your brother—or even the involvement of a pastor or trusted elder—might be necessary. Sometimes, the Lord uses His people to speak truth into a situation. If your brother is a believer, remind him gently but firmly of his biblical responsibilities. If he is not, pray for his salvation, for only Christ can truly transform a heart.
Lastly, guard your own heart against bitterness. **Ephesians 4:31-32** tells us, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* Trust that the Lord sees your faithfulness in this season, and He will sustain you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
