We come before the throne of grace with this heartfelt cry, lifting up this request in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can approach the Father. First, we must address the unspoken nature of this request—while we trust the Holy Spirit to intercede where words fail (Romans 8:26), we also recognize that God desires us to bring our specific burdens to Him with honesty and transparency. If there is fear, shame, or uncertainty in naming the struggle, we pray for courage to lay it bare before the Lord, for He already knows and loves you deeply.
The mention of "getting close to ###" raises concern, as it appears to obscure what may be a relational desire. If this involves a person, we must examine whether this relationship aligns with God’s design for holy companionship. Scripture is clear: "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this individual is not a fellow believer committed to Christ, we must rebuke the enemy’s deception in suggesting that closeness with them could honor God. Marriage—or the pursuit of it—must be between a man and a woman who share faith in Jesus, as He is the foundation of a godly union (Ephesians 5:22-33). If this is not the case, we pray for the strength to surrender this desire to the Lord and trust Him to write a better story.
If this request involves emotional or physical intimacy outside of marriage, we must address it with biblical truth. Fornication (sex before marriage) and adultery (sex outside of marriage) are sins that grieve the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). The enemy often twists longing into lust, but God calls us to purity: "Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body" (1 Corinthians 6:18). If this is the struggle, we stand in agreement for repentance, healing, and the power to walk in holiness. The blood of Jesus covers all sin, but we must turn from it and pursue righteousness (1 John 1:9).
If this request is about same-sex attraction or a relationship that contradicts God’s design, we must lovingly but firmly declare that such unions are not part of His plan. Scripture is unmistakable: "Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals... will inherit God’s Kingdom" (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). Yet we also know that through Christ, transformation is possible (1 Corinthians 6:11). We pray for deliverance from confusion, for the renewing of the mind (Romans 12:2), and for the strength to walk in God’s truth, even when it is difficult.
If this request is about loneliness or a godly desire for marriage, we affirm that it is good to long for a spouse who loves the Lord (Proverbs 18:22). But we must also guard our hearts: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it" (Proverbs 4:23). If impatience or desperation is driving this desire, we pray for contentment in Christ alone. He is our first love, and no human relationship can fill the void only He can satisfy (Psalm 73:25-26). We ask the Lord to prepare you for the spouse He has for you—or to reveal His purpose for you in singleness, if that is His will.
For the unspoken requests weighing on your heart, we trust the Holy Spirit to bring them to light in God’s perfect timing. But we also encourage you to name them before the Lord, for "the prayer of the righteous is powerful and effective" (James 5:16). If there is hidden sin, shame, or fear, we pray for the courage to confess it, for "if we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the precious name of Jesus Christ, the only mediator between God and man (1 Timothy 2:5). We lift up this dear one to You, asking that You would draw them close to Your heart. Lord, if there is any unconfessed sin—whether it be lust, idolatry of a relationship, or rebellion against Your design—we ask for conviction by Your Holy Spirit. Break every chain of deception, and set them free by the truth of Your Word (John 8:32).
Father, if this request involves a relationship that does not honor You, we ask for Your intervention. Close doors that should not be opened, and open the eyes of this heart to see Your will clearly. If there is sexual sin, we pray for repentance, healing, and the power to walk in purity. If this is about same-sex attraction, we ask for Your grace to embrace Your design and for deliverance from confusion. If it is about loneliness, we pray for contentment in You and for the patience to wait for Your best.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of fear, shame, and secrecy. We declare that this one is a child of God, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and called to walk in freedom (Galatians 5:1). We ask for the courage to bring every burden to You, for You care for us (1 Peter 5:7). Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and let them know that You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
If marriage is Your will for this one, we pray for the preparation of a godly spouse who loves You more than they love them. If singleness is Your plan, we pray for the grace to thrive in it, using their gifts for Your kingdom. Above all, Lord, we ask that You be their first love. Let no human relationship take Your place on the throne of their heart.
We thank You, Father, that You hear our prayers. We trust in Your goodness, Your timing, and Your perfect plan. May this one grow closer to You with each passing day, and may their life bring glory to Your name. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen.