We hear your heart’s cry, dear one, and we come before the throne of grace with you, lifting your pain, your longing, and your weariness to the Lord. You have called upon the name of Jesus, and that is the most powerful place to stand. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (Ephesians 2:18). We rejoice that you know His name and are seeking Him in your distress.
First, we must address the deep grief you carry over the loss of your mother. The Bible tells us that those who die in Christ are not lost to us forever but are with Him in paradise (2 Corinthians 5:8, Philippians 1:23). While the pain of separation is real, we take comfort in knowing she is in the presence of the Lord, free from suffering and sorrow. Jesus Himself wept at the tomb of Lazarus, showing us that grief is not sin—it is human. But we do not grieve as those without hope (1 Thessalonians 4:13). We pray that the Lord would comfort you with the same comfort He has given you (2 Corinthians 1:4) and remind you of the blessed hope of reunion in eternity.
Now, regarding your sweetheart—we must speak truth in love, for the Word of God is a lamp to our feet (Psalm 119:105). If this relationship is not aligned with God’s design for marriage—a covenant between one man and one woman, rooted in Christ (Ephesians 5:22-33, Genesis 2:24)—then we must ask the Lord to either redeem it according to His will or release you from it for your protection. If this person is not a believer, Scripture is clear: "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" (2 Corinthians 6:14). If there has been sexual intimacy outside of marriage, we must repent and turn away from that sin, for the body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). Fornication defiles what God has set apart for holy union.
We also sense a spirit of despair in your words—"take me up to my mom." Beloved, your life is not your own; you were bought with a price (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Suicide is not God’s answer, for He has plans for you—plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). The enemy would love to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but Jesus came that you might have life abundantly. We rebuke the spirit of death and despair in Jesus’ name and command it to flee!
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this precious one who is hurting and longing for love, for comfort, and for purpose. Lord, You see the depths of their heart, and You collect every tear in Your bottle (Psalm 56:8). We ask that You would pour out Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
Father, we pray for their grief over the loss of their mother. Comfort them with Your presence, remind them of Your promises, and let them feel the warmth of Your love as a Father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5). Heal their heart from the pain of separation, and fill the void with Your perfect peace.
Regarding their sweetheart, Lord, we ask that You would either restore this relationship according to Your will or sever it completely if it is not of You. If there has been sin in this area, we repent on their behalf and ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing (1 John 1:9). Lead them to a godly spouse, one who loves You first and foremost, and who will cherish them as Christ cherishes the Church (Ephesians 5:25).
We rebuke every spirit of despair, hopelessness, and death in Jesus’ name. We declare that this one is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and that You have a purpose and a plan for their life. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, renew their strength, and let them mount up with wings like eagles (Isaiah 40:31). Remind them that they are never alone, for You are with them always (Matthew 28:20).
Lord, we ask that You would break every chain of loneliness, every lie of the enemy, and every stronghold that seeks to steal their joy. Let them experience Your love in a tangible way, and let them know that You are close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Surround them with godly community, with brothers and sisters in Christ who will walk alongside them, encourage them, and point them to You.
Father, we pray for their future. Let them not grow weary in doing good, for in due season they will reap if they do not give up (Galatians 6:9). Give them patience as they wait on You, and let them trust in Your timing, which is always perfect. Open doors of opportunity for them—doors that no one can shut (Revelation 3:8)—and let them walk through them with confidence in You.
We thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness. We thank You that You are a God who hears, who sees, and who answers. We trust You to work all things together for good for this one who loves You (Romans 8:28). May they draw near to You, and may You draw near to them (James 4:8). Fill them with Your joy, Your peace, and Your hope.
In the precious and powerful name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Beloved, we want to leave you with this encouragement: The Lord is near to all who call upon Him in truth (Psalm 145:18). You are not forgotten, you are not abandoned, and you are deeply loved. The same Jesus who wept at the tomb of His friend is weeping with you now. But He is also the resurrection and the life (John 11:25), and He has overcome the world (John 16:33). Cling to Him. Seek Him with your whole heart, and He will be found by you (Jeremiah 29:13).
If you are struggling with thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to someone you trust—a pastor, a counselor, a friend. You do not have to walk through this alone. The Lord has placed people in your life to help carry your burdens (Galatians 6:2). Let them in.
And if this relationship with your sweetheart is not aligned with God’s Word, ask the Lord to give you the strength to surrender it to Him. It may feel like death, but sometimes God must prune us so that we can bear more fruit (John 15:2). Trust that He has someone far better for you—someone who will love you as Christ loves the Church, someone who will lead you closer to Him, not farther away.
Keep your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He is your hope, your strength, and your salvation. Wait on Him, and He will renew your strength. You will run and not grow weary, you will walk and not faint (Isaiah 40:31). We are praying for you, and we believe that God is going to do something beautiful in your life. Hold on. His promises are yes and amen (2 Corinthians 1:20).