We join with you in lifting up your heart to the Lord, and we praise Him that you have proclaimed Jesus as Lord over this situation. It is clear that you are enduring deep pain and mistreatment, and we grieve with you over the ungodly behavior you have described. No one deserves to be abused, belittled, or treated with disrespect—especially not a child of God who is called to be loved as Christ loves the church. The Word of God is clear about how we are to treat one another, and what you are experiencing is not only unacceptable but sinful in the sight of the Lord.
The Scripture tells us in **Ephesians 5:25-29 (WEB)**, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it; that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the glorious assembly to himself, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without defect. Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the assembly."* If this man is your husband, he is failing in his God-given responsibility to love, honor, and cherish you as Christ loves the church. If he is not your husband, then we must address that this relationship is outside of God’s design for marriage, and you are not bound to endure such mistreatment. The Bible is clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and even if he claims to be a believer, his actions do not reflect the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).
The Lord does not call you to remain in a place where you are being abused. **1 Corinthians 7:15 (WEB)** says, *"Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace."* While this verse specifically addresses an unbelieving spouse, the principle remains: God calls us to peace, not to bondage or abuse. You have a right—and a responsibility—to protect yourself from harm. This may mean setting firm boundaries, seeking help from trusted believers or authorities, or even separating from this situation if it does not change. You are not obligated to stay in a relationship where your dignity, safety, or well-being are at risk.
We also want to gently but firmly remind you that while angels are ministering spirits sent by God (Hebrews 1:14), our ultimate trust must be in the Lord Himself, not in angels or any other created being. It is Jesus who is our Savior, our Protector, and our Deliverer. He is the one who hears your cries and will act on your behalf. **Psalm 34:17-19 (WEB)** assures us, *"The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all."*
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who is crying out to You in her distress. Lord, You see the pain she has endured, the disrespect and cruelty she has suffered, and the loneliness of being unloved in a place where she should find safety and honor. Father, we ask that You intervene mightily in this situation. Break the spirit of abuse, rebellion, and hardness of heart in this man. Convict him deeply of his sin, Lord, and bring him to repentance—or if he refuses, remove his ability to harm her further.
Lord, we ask that You surround our sister with Your protection, Your peace, and Your provision. Give her the wisdom to know what steps to take, the courage to take them, and the strength to walk in obedience to Your will. If this relationship is not of You, Father, make it clear to her and provide a way of escape. If there is hope for redemption in this situation, let it begin with true repentance and a transformation only You can bring.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear, shame, and hopelessness that the enemy may be trying to place on her. Fill her instead with Your Holy Spirit, with confidence in Your love for her, and with the assurance that You will never leave her nor forsake her. Restore her joy, her dignity, and her trust in You. Provide godly counselors, faithful friends, and a community of believers to support her in this time.
We pray for her healing—emotionally, spiritually, and even physically if needed. Let her experience Your comfort as never before, Lord. Remind her that she is Your beloved daughter, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and worthy of love that reflects Your heart.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we bind every spirit of abuse, control, and manipulation. We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that You, Lord, will fight for her as she stands still in faith (Exodus 14:14). Give her discernment, Father, and let Your will be done in her life.
We thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayers. We trust You to act on her behalf, for You are a God of justice, mercy, and love. May Your kingdom come and Your will be done in this situation. In Jesus’ precious and powerful name, we pray. Amen.
Our sister, we urge you to seek help from your local church or a trusted Christian counselor. You do not have to walk through this alone. If you are in immediate danger, please reach out to authorities or a safe shelter. The Lord loves you deeply, and He wants you to be safe and whole. Stand firm in His promises, and do not let the enemy convince you that you must endure this mistreatment. You are worth so much more than this.
We are standing with you in prayer. Keep seeking the Lord, and He will guide your steps. May His peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).