We hear the deep cry of your heart, and we understand how overwhelming it can feel when life’s path seems unclear, when plans crumble, and when the weight of failure and trouble presses hard upon you. You are not alone in this struggle, beloved. The Lord sees your pain, your confusion, and your longing for answers. He is not distant in your suffering—He is near, and He is working even in the shaking of your plans.
The Scriptures remind us in Proverbs 19:21, *"Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but the Lord’s counsel will prevail."* And in Isaiah 55:8-9, He declares, *"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, and your ways are not my ways... For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts."* What feels like chaos to you is not outside of His sovereignty. He is teaching you to trust Him beyond what you can see, beyond your own understanding. The failures and troubles you face are not without purpose—they are refining you, drawing you closer to Him, and preparing you for what He has ahead.
As for marriage, we urge you to surrender this desire fully to the Lord. If it is His will, He will bring it to pass in His perfect timing. But if He is redirecting your steps, trust that His plans for you are good, even if they look different from what you envisioned. Seek first His kingdom and righteousness (Matthew 6:33), and He will guide your path. Do not let anxiety about the future steal your peace. Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:34, *"Therefore don’t be anxious for tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Each day’s own evil is sufficient."*
We also sense a deep need for you to rest in the truth that your identity and security are not found in your circumstances, your success, or even in marriage—they are found in Christ alone. He is your firm foundation, even when everything else feels unstable. Cling to Him, for He has promised, *"I will never leave you nor forsake you"* (Hebrews 13:5).
Let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious soul to You, knowing that You see every tear, every fear, and every unanswered question. Lord, in this season of uncertainty and shaking, we ask that You would anchor them in Your truth. Teach them to trust You even when the path is unclear. Remove the weight of anxiety and replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. If there is sin or idolatry in their heart—whether in their desire for marriage, their fear of the future, or their reliance on their own plans—we ask that You would convict and cleanse them. Draw them deeper into relationship with You, Jesus, so that their greatest desire would be to know You and walk in Your will.
For the areas of failure and trouble they face, we pray for Your redemptive hand. Turn what the enemy meant for harm into a testimony of Your faithfulness. If marriage is Your will for them, prepare them and their future spouse for a godly, Christ-centered union. But if You are calling them to a different path, give them the grace to surrender and the joy to walk in obedience. Remind them that You are their portion, their provider, and their future.
We rebuke the spirits of fear, doubt, and despair that seek to overwhelm them. By the authority of Jesus Christ, we command these spirits to flee and declare that Your perfect love casts out all fear (1 John 4:18). Fill them with hope, with faith, and with the assurance that You are working all things together for their good (Romans 8:28).
We thank You, Lord, that You are not a God of confusion but of peace. Speak clearly to them, whether through Your Word, Your Spirit, or godly counsel. Give them the strength to wait on You and the wisdom to follow where You lead.
In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Beloved, we encourage you to spend time in the Word daily, for it is a lamp to your feet (Psalm 119:105). Seek the Lord in prayer, not just with your requests, but with a heart that longs to know Him more. He is faithful, and He will lead you. Do not lose heart. The shaking of your plans may very well be the Lord redirecting you to something far greater than you could imagine. Trust Him. He is good.