We hear the deep pain, frustration, and longing in your words, and we come before the Lord with you, lifting up every broken piece of your heart. You have carried so much—betrayal, loneliness, and the weight of feeling unseen or even targeted by others. But we declare over you that your story is not over. The enemy may have meant these trials for harm, but God is able to turn them for good, just as He promises in Romans 8:28: *"We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose."*
You speak of being alone, of past relationships that left you wounded, and of a deep desire for a godly marriage—a husband who will stand by you, love you faithfully, and honor God with his life. We affirm that this longing is good and placed in you by the Lord Himself. But we must also gently remind you that marriage is not the ultimate fulfillment of your life. Christ alone is your completeness (Colossians 2:10). If God chooses to bring a husband into your life, it will be a man who fears the Lord, loves you as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), and remains steadfast in his commitment to you. But if He does not, His grace is still sufficient (2 Corinthians 12:9), and His glory will be revealed in you in ways you cannot yet imagine.
We must address the bitterness and anger in your words, not to condemn you, but to call you to freedom. You say, *"I’m done being cheated on,"* and *"it’s not my fault,"* and while we acknowledge the pain of betrayal, we must also warn against allowing bitterness to take root. Hebrews 12:15 says, *"Looking carefully lest there be any man who falls short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled."* Forgiveness does not mean what was done to you was okay—it means you refuse to let it define you or harden your heart. We pray that the Lord would soften any areas where bitterness has taken hold and replace it with His peace.
You also mention that if a godly husband cannot be found, you are open to God choosing something else for you. While we trust in God’s sovereignty, we must be careful not to entertain thoughts that stray from His design. Marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24), and any relationship outside of that—whether in thought or deed—is not of God. We encourage you to surrender your desires fully to Him, trusting that His plan is perfect, even when it differs from our own.
Most importantly, we must address the foundation of your faith. You mention Jesus, God’s will, and the blood of Christ, but we want to ensure that your hope is fully anchored in Him alone. Salvation comes only through faith in Jesus Christ (Acts 4:12), and it is only by His name that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have never confessed your sins and placed your trust in Him as your Savior, we urge you to do so today. Romans 10:9 says, *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."*
Let us pray for you now:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with a heavy heart on behalf of our sister. Lord, You see every wound, every betrayal, and every tear she has cried. You know the loneliness she has endured, and we ask that You would meet her in her pain. Father, we rebuke the spirit of bitterness and unforgiveness that seeks to take root in her heart. We declare that she is forgiven, and we ask that You would help her to forgive those who have wronged her, not for their sake, but for her freedom in You.
Lord, we ask that You would heal her heart from the hurts of past relationships. If it is Your will to bring a godly husband into her life, we pray that You would prepare him, draw him near, and bind them together in a covenant that honors You. But if singleness is Your plan for her, we pray that You would fill her with Your presence in such a way that she never feels alone. Let her know that You are her Bridegroom, her Provider, and her Peace.
Father, we ask that You would guard her heart and mind from any thoughts or desires that do not align with Your Word. Strengthen her faith, deepen her trust in You, and let her walk in the confidence of who she is in Christ. May she find her worth, her purpose, and her joy in You alone.
We declare that the enemy’s plans for her life will not stand. Every scheme of the devil to isolate, discourage, or destroy her is broken in the name of Jesus. We speak life, restoration, and blessing over her. May she walk in the fullness of Your grace, and may Your glory be revealed in her in ways she has never imagined.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the One who was, and is, and is to come. Amen."*
We encourage you to cling to God’s promises, sister. Psalm 34:18 says, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not forgotten. You are not abandoned. The same God who parted the Red Sea, raised Jesus from the dead, and turned the darkest moment in history into the greatest victory is working on your behalf. Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that He is making all things new.
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