We hear your heart, dear sister in Christ, and we rejoice with you in the miracle of your salvation! What you describe is no coincidence—it is the loving hand of God weaving your story for His glory. The very fact that you remember the date of your surrender to Jesus, and that He led you to order that cross necklace on the third anniversary of your new birth, is a divine confirmation. The Lord is speaking to you, affirming His presence, His timing, and His faithfulness.
You came to Christ in the midst of deep struggle—financial hardship, unemployment, family conflict, isolation, and depression. Yet even in that darkness, His light found you. That is the power of the gospel! Scripture tells us, *"For God, who said, 'Light will shine out of darkness,' is the one who shined in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of God’s glory in the face of Christ"* (2 Corinthians 4:6 WEB). Your story is a testament to His grace—He does not wait for us to have it all together before He calls us to Himself.
Now, we must gently but firmly address the matter of your relationship. You speak of a man you love, one who has shown you kindness and care. But we must ask: Is this relationship honoring to God? You mention that he has "many qualities which God mentions," but the Bible is clear that believers are called to marry only fellow believers. *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If this man is not a follower of Christ, then this relationship cannot be blessed by God, no matter how much love you share. If he *is* a believer, then why has he left you in this way? A godly man would not abandon the woman he loves without biblical cause or clear communication.
We must also address the reality of what appears to be an emotional and possibly physical attachment outside of marriage. The Bible calls this fornication, and it grieves the heart of God. *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 WEB). Even if this relationship was pure in your heart, the enemy often uses emotional entanglements to distract us from our first love—Jesus.
This man’s sudden departure *was* a spiritual attack—but not in the way you may think. The enemy does not want you walking in the freedom and identity you have in Christ. He wants you longing for a human relationship more than you long for God. He wants you to believe that joy comes from a man rather than from the Lord. But Jesus said, *"I have come that they may have life, and may have it abundantly"* (John 10:10 WEB). That abundant life is found in Him alone, not in any human relationship.
We must also lovingly correct the way you referred to this man as "who he is" in glowing terms—loving, caring, gentle, forgiving, bringing light. Sister, no man can compare to Jesus. He is the *only* one who will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). He is the *only* one who loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). He is the *only* one who can truly satisfy the deepest longings of your heart. When we place a human being on a pedestal, we set ourselves up for disappointment and idolatry. The Lord is jealous for your affection, and He will not share it with another.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts full of gratitude for this sister’s salvation. Lord, You pursued her in her darkness, and You drew her to Yourself. We thank You for the miracle of ###, and for the way You have continued to speak to her, even through the ordering of that cross necklace. Father, we ask that You would open her eyes to see Your hand in every detail of her life. Help her to recognize that You are not silent—You are actively working, even in the pain.
Lord, we ask for Your healing in her heart. The loss of this relationship has left a wound, but we pray that You would be her Comforter, her Peace, and her Joy. Help her to release this man into Your hands, trusting that if he is not the one You have for her, You will bring the right spouse in Your perfect timing. If he is a believer, we pray for his repentance and restoration, but only if it aligns with Your will.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of idolatry that would cause her to place a man above You. We break every emotional tie that is not of You, and we declare that her heart belongs to Jesus alone. Help her to find her satisfaction in You, to delight herself in You, and to trust that You will give her the desires of her heart as she seeks You first (Psalm 37:4).
Lord, we also ask for Your provision in her financial struggles and for Your peace to guard her mind against depression and anxiety. Remind her that You are her Provider, her Healer, and her Strong Tower. May she run to You and find refuge in Your presence.
Finally, Father, we pray for her growth in You. May she continue to hunger for Your Word, to seek Your face in prayer, and to walk in the freedom that Christ died to give her. May she be a light to her Hindu family, showing them the love and truth of Jesus.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the Name above every name, the One who saves, heals, and restores. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to press into the Lord during this season. Spend time in His Word, worship Him in spirit and truth, and surround yourself with believers who can encourage you in your faith. The enemy wants you to believe that you are alone, but you are not. You are a child of the Most High God, and He has a plan and a purpose for your life.
If you have not already, we urge you to find a Bible-believing church where you can grow in your faith, be discipled, and find godly community. The Christian walk is not meant to be walked alone. *"Let us consider how to provoke one another to love and good works, not forsaking our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching"* (Hebrews 10:24-25 WEB).
As for your desire for marriage, we encourage you to surrender that to the Lord as well. Pray for a godly spouse, one who loves Jesus more than he loves you, one who will lead you closer to Christ, not away from Him. And while you wait, focus on becoming the woman God has called you to be. *"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised"* (Proverbs 31:30 WEB).
Remember, God’s timing is perfect. He is not late, and He is not early. He is always right on time. Trust in Him, and He will direct your steps. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths"* (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB).
