Is being a "fair weather friend" a sin?

The Bible states, "there exists a friend who sticks closer than a brother."Unconditional love is taught in the Bible..Jesus said,"Behold, I am with you always,even until the end of this system of things."But most of the people I've had dealings with see it differently.If you've ever had this experience,I have people who , when you can do what they ask of you, they praise you all over the place, but then if you for a legitimate reason have to say "no",the same person who formerly praised you, now is cold as ice to you. Has that happened to you?But that's not the unconditional love spoken of in the Bible. That's CONDITIONAL love, Their high opinion of you is based on what you can do for them, and the one time you can't is unforgiveable to them.So the question is, is this a sin? I would say it's self-centeredness,because they're basing their thoughts of another on what they can get out of them.I would think to a certain extent it's a sin.Huh?{Also,you could've done things for them several times, then the ONE time you can't,that's it!!}

 

[Zellner]

The best friend in life you could have is Jesus alone. People will fail you, will reject you and will leave you all alone when you need them. Jesus will never ever do this to anyone. Fair weather friends will come and will go but Jesus will stay with you no matter what others do to you. Smile and be happy. Be friendly with those who live in darkness. show them the Door to enter heaven. Jesus is right there to welcome all of us. In glory we shall see those we led them to Him who love us with an everlasting love.

 

[SisterMeghan]

I always admire friends who have deep faith in God and have made Jesus their best friend in life. They have chosen to serve the Lord and shine the holy presence of Jesus.

 

[Martha Buthelezi]

The Bible states, "there exists a friend who sticks closer than a brother."Unconditional love is taught in the Bible..Jesus said,"Behold, I am with you always,even until the end of this system of things."But most of the people I've had dealings with see it differently.If you've ever had this experience,I have people who , when you can do what they ask of you, they praise you all over the place, but then if you for a legitimate reason have to say "no",the same person who formerly praised you, now is cold as ice to you. Has that happened to you?But that's not the unconditional love spoken of in the Bible. That's CONDITIONAL love, Their high opinion of you is based on what you can do for them, and the one time you can't is unforgiveable to them.So the question is, is this a sin? I would say it's self-centeredness,because they're basing their thoughts of another on what they can get out of them.I would think to a certain extent it's a sin.Huh?{Also,you could've done things for them several times, then the ONE time you can't,that's it!!}

I've experienced friends like that. When you need them they fall away. But when they need support you jump. I try hard to forgive them. Its not my place to judge them but it hurts so much.

 

[Steven Bobb]

I've experienced friends like that. When you need them they fall away. But when they need support you jump. I try hard to forgive them. Its not my place to judge them but it hurts so much.

Or put it this way, we're supposed tp forgive them, but do they deserve foregiveness?

 

[Martha Buthelezi]

Or put it this way, we're supposed tp forgive them, but do they deserve foregiveness?

Yes based on..."forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us..." The Word is guiding us.

 

[YeshuahComes]

The Bible states, "there exists a friend who sticks closer than a brother."Unconditional love is taught in the Bible..Jesus said,"Behold, I am with you always,even until the end of this system of things."But most of the people I've had dealings with see it differently.If you've ever had this experience,I have people who , when you can do what they ask of you, they praise you all over the place, but then if you for a legitimate reason have to say "no",the same person who formerly praised you, now is cold as ice to you. Has that happened to you?But that's not the unconditional love spoken of in the Bible. That's CONDITIONAL love, Their high opinion of you is based on what you can do for them, and the one time you can't is unforgiveable to them.So the question is, is this a sin? I would say it's self-centeredness,because they're basing their thoughts of another on what they can get out of them.I would think to a certain extent it's a sin.Huh?{Also,you could've done things for them several times, then the ONE time you can't,that's it!!}

Almost everyone does not know the meaning of Agape. They do not love. For if there were so many that claim they love Christ, no one would be hungry, nor without shelter, nor without clothing and the things they need. SO, if one loves Christ then one ought to love their brethern and sistern with more than their mouth and prayers. I have one sister, my dearest friend Maggie which has given to me and sticks so close because she knows I am alone. But recently she put others before me for the first time. It hurt so much. My husband and I do not walk away. We love unconditionally. We give all that we are able to when someone asks. We have fed a pastor and family for more than a year, two years ago, and provided goats to help them start a business. They were starving, and we alone went to help. So many in their community, even their brothers and sisters by birth, and yet all turned away in their poverty. They even once were mean to us when we stopped buying them food and giving to them because they were then self sufficient. They became greedy. We still did not turn away, and continue to love them.

So many claim Jesus, and claim salvation, but they do not love anyone but their own self. Failing to love another, is a sin. It is more than sin. It is a sign that you will not be saved. It is a sign your heart covets and is not childlike. It is a sign of greed, and avarice.

My husband and I like to put it this way: If you were left in a boat with one person and there was no food, what would happen?

I repeat, if you do not LOVE Agape style, Yeshuah will say, I don't know you. He makes that abundantly clear in the scriptures where he speaks. That love is "greatest".

Do you have Agape?

 

[Steven Bobb]

Yes based on..."forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us..." The Word is guiding us.

Yes, but I'd say that's different then denying they did wrong. The fact that the word "forgiven" is used shows that there's something to be forgiven for,like there would be nothing to be forgiven for if they didn't do anything from the beginning. Some Christians are so extreme about this they're afraid to even admit the person did wrong.Like a "cover-up."The Bible says to forgive, but I think being afraid to even admit people do these things, for fear of sounding judgemental, is a little extreme.

 

[YeshuahComes]

Yes, but I'd say that's different then denying they did wrong. The fact that the word "forgiven" is used shows that there's something to be forgiven for,like there would be nothing to be forgiven for if they didn't do anything from the beginning. Some Christians are so extreme about this they're afraid to even admit the person did wrong.Like a "cover-up."The Bible says to forgive, but I think being afraid to even admit people do these things, for fear of sounding judgemental, is a little extreme.

People can deny all they like. Your own soul will witness against you. There is no out. Nothing. All we can do is rend our heart and break it, repent. Go and sin no more, learning to follow the law in love. We do not know when we say no, if we are saying no to an angel. I repeat, your soul records all, it is your witness. As are your blood, and the water. They will all witness against you with Satan. The only thing that can cover that is love. But:

KJB1611 Matthew 25:

31 ¶ When the Sonne of man shall come in his glory, and all the holy Angels with him, then shall hee sit vpon the throne of his glory:

32 And before him shall be gathered all nations, and he shall separate them one from another, as a shepheard diuideth his sheepe from the goats.

33 And he shall set the sheepe on his right hand, but the goats on the left.

34 Then shall the King say vnto them on his right hand, Come ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdome prepared for you from the foundation of the world.

35 For I was an hungred, and yee gaue me meate: I was thirstie, and ye gaue me drinke: I was a stranger, and ye tooke me in:

36 Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sicke, and yee visited me: I was in prison, and ye came vnto me.

37 Then shal the righteous answere him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fedde thee? or thirstie, and gaue thee drinke?

38 When saw wee thee a stranger, and tooke thee in? or naked, and clothed thee?

39 Or when saw we thee sicke, or in prison, and came vnto thee?

40 And the King shall answere, and say vnto them, Uerely I say vnto you, in as much as ye haue done it vnto one of the least of these my brethren, ye haue done it vnto me.

41 Then shall he say also vnto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into euerlasting fire, prepared for the deuill and his angels.

 

[Steven Bobb]

Almost everyone does not know the meaning of Agape. They do not love. For if there were so many that claim they love Christ, no one would be hungry, nor without shelter, nor without clothing and the things they need. SO, if one loves Christ then one ought to love their brethern and sistern with more than their mouth and prayers. I have one sister, my dearest friend Maggie which has given to me and sticks so close because she knows I am alone. But recently she put others before me for the first time. It hurt so much. My husband and I do not walk away. We love unconditionally. We give all that we are able to when someone asks. We have fed a pastor and family for more than a year, two years ago, and provided goats to help them start a business. They were starving, and we alone went to help. So many in their community, even their brothers and sisters by birth, and yet all turned away in their poverty. They even once were mean to us when we stopped buying them food and giving to them because they were then self sufficient. They became greedy. We still did not turn away, and continue to love them.

So many claim Jesus, and claim salvation, but they do not love anyone but their own self. Failing to love another, is a sin. It is more than sin. It is a sign that you will not be saved. It is a sign your heart covets and is not childlike. It is a sign of greed, and avarice.

My husband and I like to put it this way: If you were left in a boat with one person and there was no food, what would happen?

I repeat, if you do not LOVE Agape style, Yeshuah will say, I don't know you. He makes that abundantly clear in the scriptures where he speaks. That love is "greatest".

Do you have Agape?

On the other hand, it depends what they ask for. I have also had people ask me for things that enable them in a bad habit.I've had people who ran their money down from their own bad habits,then make a habit of coming to others,don't learn from their mistakes{and don't want to, because they're stubborn}but then think others are "responsible" for "backing them up." I've also had people try to press me to do illegal things,like a drug addict neighbor who wanted me to drive him to his dealer to get drugs,and also an illegal alien who wanted me to commit marriage fraud with her to stay in the country.{She's also already married , to a husband in Jamaica.so, in the sight of God, marrying someone who is already married,is like making a mockery of Gods laws.} So just saying, if someone is asking you to do a bad or illegal thing, I don't think it would be showing them Agape to enable them to continue in their error.And I think helping them in a sin,wouldn't you yourself, be sinning? So I think there's a balance, not go the other extreme, just do everything for everybody at all times, period,{Oh I've also had someone want me to lie in court for them.So I've had different experiences with people asking me for things.I say it depends on the request.What if the person is asking you to do something sinful?