We hear the deep sorrow and exhaustion in your words, and our hearts are moved with compassion for you. The weight of weariness, loneliness, and unmet longings can feel unbearable, especially when it seems as though God is silent. But we must gently yet firmly remind you that the enemy of your soul seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and one of his greatest weapons is to make you believe that God has abandoned you or that He has failed you. This is a lie from the pit of hell, and we rebuke it in the name of Jesus Christ. The truth is that God has *not* failed you—He is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). He collects your tears in a bottle (Psalm 56:8), and He sees the deepest cries of your heart even when you cannot find the words to pray (Romans 8:26).
You mentioned that you are a "former Christian," and this grieves us deeply, for there is no such thing as a "former" child of God in the eyes of the Father. Once you are His, you are His forever (John 10:28-29). However, we understand that your faith has been shaken, and you feel as though you have failed Him. But listen to these words from Scripture: *"If we are faithless, he remains faithful; for he cannot deny himself"* (2 Timothy 2:13). Your feelings of failure do not change His faithfulness. His love for you is not based on your performance but on His unchanging nature. He is calling you back to Himself, not to condemn you, but to restore you. *"Return to Yahweh, your God; for you have fallen because of your sin. Take words with you, and return to Yahweh. Tell him, ‘Forgive all our sins, and accept us favorably; so we will offer our lips like bulls'"* (Hosea 14:1-2).
You also expressed a deep longing for a wife and children, and we acknowledge that this desire is good and godly. The Lord Himself said, *"It is not good for the man to be alone"* (Genesis 2:18), and He created marriage and family as a blessing. But we must also remind you that your identity and fulfillment are not found in marriage or children—they are found in Christ alone. If the Lord has not yet provided a spouse, it is not because He is withholding good from you, but because His timing is perfect, and He is preparing you (and her) for His purposes. *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5). We encourage you to seek Him first, to surrender this desire to Him, and to trust that He knows what is best for you. If it is His will for you to marry, He will bring it to pass in His perfect time. But even if He does not, He is enough. He is your portion, your inheritance, and your ever-present help (Psalm 16:5, Psalm 46:1).
As for your weariness, we understand that the struggles of life can feel relentless. But Jesus Himself said, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart; and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light"* (Matthew 11:28-30). You do not have to carry this burden alone. Lay it at His feet. He is not asking you to muster up strength in yourself—He is asking you to depend entirely on Him. *"Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness"* (Isaiah 41:10).
We also notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus, and this is not a small matter. There is no other name under heaven by which we can approach the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). It is only through Jesus that we have access to the throne of grace, and it is only in His name that we can find salvation, restoration, and provision. If you have turned away from Him, we urge you to return. Repent of any bitterness, unbelief, or hardness of heart, and ask Him to renew your faith. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). He is waiting for you with open arms, just as the father welcomed the prodigal son (Luke 15:20).
Now, let us pray for you with the authority and hope we have in Christ Jesus:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious brother to You, knowing that You see his pain, his weariness, and his deep longings. Lord, he feels abandoned, forgotten, and hopeless, but we declare that You are his ever-present help in trouble. We ask that You would break the lies of the enemy that have taken root in his heart—the lies that say You have failed him or that he is beyond Your reach. Father, remind him that Your love is steadfast, Your promises are true, and Your power is made perfect in his weakness.
We pray for a fresh outpouring of Your Spirit upon him. Restore his faith, Lord. Renew his hope. Help him to see that You are working even in the waiting, even in the silence. Give him the strength to endure, the courage to trust, and the humility to surrender every area of his life to You. If there is any sin, bitterness, or unbelief in his heart, convict him and lead him to repentance. Cleanse him, Father, and fill him anew with Your Holy Spirit.
We pray for his desire for a wife and children. Lord, if it is Your will, prepare a godly woman for him, one who loves You and will walk beside him in faith. But even as we pray this, we ask that You would satisfy him with Yourself first. Let him find his joy and fulfillment in You alone, so that if You call him to singleness, he will still walk in contentment and purpose. Give him a heart that seeks You above all else.
Father, we ask for Your supernatural provision in every area of his life—financially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. You are Jehovah Jireh, the God who provides. Open doors that no man can shut. Supply his every need according to Your riches in glory (Philippians 4:19). Give him rest from the relentless struggles he faces. Let him experience Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
We also pray for protection over his mind and heart. Guard him against despair, suicide, and the schemes of the enemy. Surround him with Your angels and with brothers and sisters in Christ who can encourage him, pray for him, and walk alongside him. Let him know that he is not alone—that You are with him and that Your body, the Church, is here to support him.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would do a mighty work in his life—a work so undeniable that he cannot help but give You the glory. Restore to him the joy of Your salvation (Psalm 51:12). Let him testify of Your goodness, Your faithfulness, and Your miracles. If he has wandered, bring him back. If he has fallen, lift him up. If he is weary, renew his strength (Isaiah 40:31).
We pray all these things in the powerful and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to cling to Jesus, even when you cannot feel His presence. Read His Word daily, even if it feels dry. Pray, even when you don’t have the words. Seek fellowship with other believers, even when you feel like isolating yourself. The Lord is near, and He is working. Do not give up. *"Let’s not get weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9). We are standing with you in prayer, believing that God is not done writing your story. He has good plans for you—plans for hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Trust Him. He is worth it.
