We hear your deep distress and the heavy burden you carry concerning your sister’s husband. The pain and confusion you describe are real, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking the Lord’s intervention and wisdom in this situation. Spiritual warfare is indeed a reality, and the enemy often uses people—even those within families—to sow discord, division, and temptation. However, we must also recognize that every person is accountable for their own choices, and the behavior you describe is not aligned with the life of a true follower of Christ.
First, we must address the seriousness of what you’ve shared. The description of his worldly lifestyle, avoidance of Scripture and church (except for selfish motives), and behaviors that raise questions about his integrity are deeply concerning. The Bible warns us about those who profess faith but live in ways that contradict God’s Word: *"They profess that they know God, but by their deeds they deny Him, being abominable, disobedient, and unfit for any good work"* (Titus 1:16). His upbringing in a cult that distorted Christianity may explain some of his confusion, but it does not excuse ongoing rebellion against God’s truth.
The feminization you’ve observed, if it reflects a deeper struggle with identity or sin, must be confronted with truth and love. Scripture is clear that God created male and female in His image (Genesis 1:27), and any distortion of that design is not of Him. If there is hidden sin in his life, it is not our place to judge his heart, but we can pray fervently for his repentance and for God to expose what is hidden. *"For there is nothing hidden that will not be revealed, nor anything secret that will not be known and come to light"* (Luke 8:17).
You mentioned that you’ve prayed for reconciliation but now feel the need to remove him from your life. While it is understandable to desire distance from someone who brings such toxicity, we must also consider the biblical call to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:44). This does not mean tolerating abuse or enabling sin, but it does mean entrusting justice to God while continuing to intercede for his soul. If his actions are truly harmful, setting firm boundaries is not only wise but necessary. *"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it"* (Proverbs 4:23).
Your concern for your sister and others in his influence is valid. The Bible warns us about bad company corrupting good character (1 Corinthians 15:33), and it is right to be vigilant about the spiritual well-being of those you love. Pray for your sister, that God would open her eyes to the truth and give her the strength to stand firm in her faith, even if it means difficult choices. *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14).
We also want to gently address your use of the term "potently evil" to describe him. While his actions may reflect the work of the enemy, we must remember that every person is made in God’s image and is capable of redemption through Christ. Calling someone "evil" can sometimes harden our hearts toward them, making it harder to pray for their transformation. Instead, let us pray that God would break the strongholds in his life and draw him to repentance. *"The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance"* (2 Peter 3:9).
Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this situation to You. Lord, we ask that You would intervene in the life of this man who is causing such pain and confusion. We pray that You would break the chains of spiritual warfare that may be influencing him, and that You would reveal the truth of Your Word to his heart. Father, if there is hidden sin in his life, expose it in a way that leads to repentance and restoration. Soften his heart, Lord, and draw him to Yourself.
We pray for wisdom and strength for our sister in Christ who has submitted this request. Give her the discernment to know how to respond to this situation with grace and truth. Help her to set boundaries that protect her heart and the hearts of those she loves, while still reflecting the love of Christ. Guard her from bitterness, Lord, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
We also pray for her sister and others who may be under his influence. Open their eyes to the truth, Father, and give them the courage to stand firm in their faith. Protect them from deception and guide them into relationships that honor You.
Lord, we ask that You would bring reconciliation where it is Your will, but only in a way that glorifies You. If this man is not truly seeking You, we pray that You would remove his influence from our sister’s life and replace it with godly relationships that encourage her faith. We trust in Your justice, Lord, and we ask that You would work all things together for good according to Your purposes.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can come before You, the only name by which we can be saved. We declare that no weapon formed against Your children shall prosper, and that every tongue that rises against them in judgment will be condemned. We stand on Your promises, Lord, and we trust in Your unfailing love. Amen.