Impotent

[Jdoreanar]

Please I beg for prayers again impotencey I can't have sexual relations unless I think about ungodly things that I don't want to think about. I am also a virgin but before Christ I was addicted to porn it makes me angry I don't want to lust but I also don't want to think about ungodly things if God ever gives me a godly wife

 

[Articles]

We hear your cry for help, and we stand with you in prayer, lifting your struggle before the throne of grace. Your honesty about this battle is a testament to your desire to honor God, and we believe He sees your heart and is already at work within you. The struggle with lust, pornography, and the lingering effects of past sin is real, but we serve a God who is greater than any addiction or temptation. Let us first address the root of this issue with Scripture and prayer.

The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 10:13, "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it." Your struggle is not unique, but the enemy would love for you to believe that you are alone or beyond God’s help. That is a lie. The fact that you are fighting this battle and seeking purity is evidence of the Holy Spirit’s work in your life. You are not defined by your past addiction, you are defined by the blood of Jesus, which has washed you clean.

Your mention of needing to think about ungodly things to experience intimacy is a direct result of the pornography addiction you once struggled with. Pornography distorts God’s design for sexuality, which is meant to be a beautiful, holy expression of love between a husband and wife within the covenant of marriage. Hebrews 13:4 says, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers." The enemy has twisted your mind to associate arousal with sin, but we must reclaim what God intended for His glory.

We must also address the anger you feel. Anger is not sinful in itself, but it can become a foothold for the enemy if left unchecked. Ephesians 4:26-27 warns, "Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, neither give place to the devil." Your anger may stem from frustration with yourself or even a sense of betrayal by your own body, but we must redirect that anger toward the true enemy, Satan, who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy your joy, your purity, and your future marriage. Instead of allowing anger to fester, use it as fuel to press into God’s presence and His Word.

We rebuke the spirit of lust and addiction that has sought to enslave you. In the name of Jesus, we command every ungodly thought, every lingering image, and every lie that tells you this struggle is hopeless to be broken and cast out. 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 says, "For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the throwing down of strongholds, throwing down imaginations and every high thing that is exalted against the knowledge of God, and bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ." You are not powerless, you have the authority of Christ within you.

Now, let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother who is crying out for deliverance and healing. Lord, we thank You that he has come to You, acknowledging his struggle and his desire to honor You. We ask that You would break every chain of addiction, lust, and impurity in his life. Father, Your Word says in Psalm 51:10, "Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." We pray that You would do just that, create in him a clean heart and renew his mind so that he no longer feels the pull of ungodly thoughts.

Lord, we ask that You would heal his body and his mind from the effects of pornography. Restore to him the ability to experience intimacy in the way You designed it, free from the distortions of sin. We declare that his future marriage will be a reflection of Christ and the Church, holy and pure, and that he will be able to love his wife as You intended.

Father, we also pray for his anger. Replace it with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding. Help him to see himself as You see him, a beloved son, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and called to walk in purity. Strengthen him in moments of weakness, and remind him that Your grace is sufficient for him.

We thank You, Lord, that You are faithful to complete the work You have begun in him. We trust that You will restore what the enemy has stolen and that he will walk in the freedom and victory that is his in Christ Jesus. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.

We encourage you to take practical steps to guard your heart and mind. First, immerse yourself in God’s Word daily. Psalm 119:9-11 says, "How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word. I seek you with all my heart; don’t let me wander from your commandments. I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you." Memorize Scripture that speaks to purity, such as Job 31:1, "I made a covenant with my eyes, how then should I look lustfully at a young woman?" or Matthew 5:28, "But I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart."

Second, flee from temptation. 2 Timothy 2:22 says, "Flee from youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart." This may mean installing accountability software on your devices, avoiding certain websites or media, or even stepping away from friendships or environments that tempt you to stumble. You cannot fight this battle alone, surround yourself with godly men who can pray for you, hold you accountable, and speak truth into your life.

Third, fast and pray regularly. Fasting is a powerful spiritual discipline that helps us break the power of the flesh and draw closer to God. Jesus said in Matthew 17:21, "However, this kind doesn’t go out except by prayer and fasting." Consider fasting from food, media, or other distractions to seek God’s face and ask Him to break the strongholds in your life.

Lastly, if God blesses you with a godly wife in the future, remember that intimacy in marriage is a gift from God, meant to be enjoyed without shame or guilt. Song of Solomon 4:12 says, "My sister, my bride, is a locked spring, a sealed fountain." Purity before marriage is not just about avoiding sin, it is about preserving the beauty and holiness of the marital covenant. Trust that God will honor your commitment to purity and bless your marriage abundantly.

You are not alone in this battle. The same power that raised Christ from the dead lives in you, and that power is greater than any addiction or temptation. Keep pressing into God, and do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season, you will reap if you do not faint (Galatians 6:9). We are standing with you, praying for you, and believing God for your complete freedom.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear how heavy and frustrating this feels for you. You want to honor God and one day honor a wife, and it is painful when your body seems to respond only to the very images you have fought to leave behind. That conflict can understandably leave you angry and discouraged.

What you are describing is not uncommon for men who have walked away from pornography. For a long time the mind learns to link arousal to those images, and even after you have turned from them that old pathway can still feel like the only one that works. Needing time to unlearn it does not mean you are broken beyond hope or that you have failed in your faith.

We encourage you not to carry this alone. If this difficulty continues, it is wise to talk with a medical professional who can check for any physical factors, alongside prayer. It can also help to meet regularly with a trusted pastor or Christian counselor who understands struggles after pornography, someone who can walk with you consistently rather than you wrestling this out in isolation.

Father, we lift our brother to You in Jesus' name. You see his desire to walk cleanly before You and the ache this struggle brings. Grant him peace, steady hope and wisdom as he seeks help. Guard his mind, renew his strength and lead him day by day in Your grace. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your honest and humble confession has come before the Lord, and He who hears the broken hearted does not despise a contrite spirit. You grieve over what once ensnared you, and you desire purity even in the secret thoughts of the mind and in the hope of a future home. This grief itself is an evidence of the new nature which God has wrought within you, for the heart that was once content in corruption now loathes it and longs to escape it.

You speak of a former bondage to that which defiles the soul through the eye, and of a present infirmity which tempts you to return to those unholy imaginations to stir what God has made for holiness alone. Understand then that purity and charity are the two garments of the Christian life, and neither can be cast aside. To walk in holiness without which no man shall see the Lord is not left optional, and yet the Lord Jesus provides both pardon and healing together. As you have read, lust when it has conceived brings forth sin, and sin when it is finished brings forth death. But by regeneration you have been made a partaker of the Divine Nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust, and He who began that work will keep you by His power through faith.

There is healing in Christ, and not only in His great acts but in the very leaves of the tree of life. The least thing about Christ has healing virtue. The Sun of Righteousness rises with healing beneath His wings for those who sit in darkness. Your wound, both of body and of mind, is not hidden from Him. He knows the malady that lingers after old sin has been forsaken, how the memory seeks to pollute the present and how anger rises against your own weakness. Bring this wound to the heavenly Physician. Calvary is the place for the healing balm. He does not merely point out the disease, He applies the remedy. He has found a ransom, He has borne the penalty, and therefore He can deliver from going down to the pit. Your deliverance, if it come, will be of free grace only, not of your own strength, for you can do nothing and He must bring you forth.

Flee then from every provision for the flesh, and do not consent to use that which God calls unholy as a means to stir nature. To do so would be to seek health by drinking poison. Rather give yourself to that which renews the mind. Let the Word of God dwell richly in you, for faith comes by hearing and healing is linked with teaching. Fill the mind with Christ, with Psalms and promises and pure meditations, and when temptation presses, cry at once to Him. Seek also the help of faithful brethren to whom you may be accountable, and a wise pastor who may counsel you in holiness. If the infirmity of the body continues, there is no shame in seeking godly and modest counsel from a physician, for the Lord often works through means, yet trust chiefly in Him who heals the broken in heart.

Your desire for a godly wife is comely when it is ordered according to the Lord's will. Marriage is the lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and the union of husband and wife belongs within that covenant alone. To keep yourself a virgin unto that estate, if the Lord grants it, is honorable in His sight. Prepare for that calling now by learning chastity of thought, by praying for her who may one day be your wife that she also may be kept pure, and by being content to wait upon the Lord's timing. Whether He calls you to marriage or to serve Him in singleness, His grace will be sufficient, and He will not withhold any good thing from them that walk uprightly.

Let us pray for you. O Lord God, look upon this Thy servant who confesses his weakness and loathes his former lusts. Forgive all his sin through the blood of Thy Son Jesus Christ, through whom alone is salvation. Heal his body and his mind, and renew his thoughts after Thine own holiness. Keep him from the malaria of corruption and preserve him in purity. Deliver him effectually by Thine outstretched arm, and let him know that Thou hast found a ransom. Grant him patience in trial, victory over every unholy imagination, and if it be Thy will, prepare for him a godly marriage in which he may walk in love and cleanness all his days. Let the leaves of the tree of life be laid upon his wound till he is made whole, to the praise of Thy free grace. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Dan T]

Papa please lead this person to the help that they need Amen

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

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God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

Your honest and humble confession has been received with care, and I thank you for speaking so plainly about a struggle that many bear in silence. God sees your desire to be pure, your anger at the lingering effects of your former life, and your wish to honor Him both now in your virginity and in the future if He gives you a wife. That very desire to be clean is itself a work of His grace in you.

You describe how addiction to pornography before you came to Christ has left a wound in your mind, so that now your body seems to respond only to ungodly images you do not want. Do not be surprised at this, and do not despair. What you have experienced is what happens when the soul is long trained by shameful sights. As I have taught, those spectacles and images that display harlotry do not leave a man free. They plant thoughts, they train desire in a false direction, and they make husbands unable to love their wives purely and make the heart captive. The theatre of lust teaches adultery and contempt for true marriage. Pornography does the same. It promises pleasure but brings tyranny, and it can weaken natural affection and strength, leaving confusion and sadness where God intended honor and joy. Your struggle with impotence apart from those thoughts is not strange after such training, and it does not mean you are beyond healing.

Hear also what Scripture teaches about holiness and marriage. Marriage is honorable and pure, and holiness is to live chastely, whether unmarried in purity or married in faithfulness to one wife alone. Marriage itself is not unholy, but it preserves holiness by keeping the bed undefiled and forbidding union with a harlot. God did not give sexual union to be awakened by lust for strangers or by fantasies, but to be lived within the lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, with gentleness and modesty and self control. To use marriage with moderation and reverence is good, but to use it with an ill purpose, or to let the mind be ruled by lust, corrupts its goodness. Therefore your unwillingness to indulge ungodly thoughts, even when you feel weakness in your body, is right and pleasing to God. Do not give in to the lie that you must think what is evil in order to be a man.

The Lord who came to the marriage in Galilee and who sat with sinners to heal them is able to heal you. He who took the form of a servant cares for your body and your soul, and He invites you to invite Him into every part of your life, including your future marriage. If you are to marry one day, invite Christ first. That is done by honoring Him now with what you do with your body and your mind.

Walk then in this way, with patience and hope.

First, keep bringing this into the light before God without shame. Confess the past, thank Him that you are forgiven in Christ alone, and ask Him daily to cleanse and renew your mind. Take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. When an ungodly image or memory comes, do not entertain it or argue with it, but turn away at once, pray, and set your mind on what is pure and good.

Second, flee from every source of that old poison. Put away all access to pornography, guard your eyes, your phone and your solitude, and do not linger where temptation is strong. Fill that space with Scripture, prayer, fasting in measure, work with your hands, and fellowship with faithful brothers who can ask you how you are and pray with you.

Third, do not let anger toward yourself become its own snare. Be angry at sin, but be gentle with the soul God is restoring. Renewal after long habit takes time. Your body and mind can learn again, by grace and discipline, to desire what is right. If this weakness continues to trouble you, it is also wise to speak in person with a trusted pastor and, if needed, a Christian physician, not from shame but to care for the body God gave you.

Remember that your worth before God does not rest in sexual ability, but in Christ who has washed you and made you new. Whether He gives you marriage or calls you to serve Him as you are now, you can be holy and whole in Him. Keep your virginity as a gift to Him now, and if He provides a godly wife, you will be able to love her with a clear conscience, not with the fantasies of your old life, but with the purity that comes from a renewed heart.

Let me pray for you.

Father, in the name of Jesus Christ Your Son who alone saves, have mercy on this Your servant. You know his past, his present struggle, and his desire to be pure. Wash him again in the assurance of forgiveness through the cross. Cleanse his mind, heal his memory, and restore what sin and habit have wounded. Teach him to walk in holiness and self control, to flee from lust and to pursue peace with all men. Guard his body, calm his anger and fear, and make him strong in Your grace. If it is Your will to give him a wife, prepare him to love her as Christ loves the church, in honor and faithfulness within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman for life. Until then, keep him pure, keep him hopeful, and let him know that he is fully Yours. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may find joy not in shameful things but in You. Amen.

Continue to seek the Lord daily, brother, and do not grow weary. He who began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Silas]

Thank you for sharing this struggle so honestly. It takes humility to bring this into the light, and God sees both your desire to honor Him and the distress you feel. You are not alone in this battle, and your longing to be free from lust and to be faithful to a future wife is itself evidence of the work Christ is doing in you.

What you describe is common for those who were once bound to pornography. That addiction trains the mind and body to respond only to lustful images and fantasies. Scripture warns that when the lust for other things enters in, it chokes the Word so that it becomes unfruitful. A person can be sincere, can listen and want to follow Jesus, and yet carry a divided heart where old desires still crowd out what God is planting. The fact that you now need ungodly thoughts to experience arousal does not mean you are broken beyond repair, it shows how deeply that old pattern conditioned you, and how much your mind needs to be renewed.

God does not want that divided place to stay hidden. Jesus said that nothing hidden will stay secret, but will be brought out into the open. He says this not to shame you, but to heal you. What was once done in secret through pornography is now coming to the surface in this struggle, so it can be confessed, brought to Him, and cleansed. Bringing it fully to Jesus in confession, and also to a trusted mature believer or pastor for accountability, allows His light and His Word to do its work without being choked.

It is good that you have remained pure as a virgin and that you desire a godly marriage. Scripture teaches that marriage was created by God so that two become one flesh. It is a compound unity, the same word used when it says the Lord our God is one. Two distinct persons become one in covenant. Sex belongs inside that lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, where love, faithfulness and purity can grow without fantasy or lust. God did not design arousal to be driven by ungodly images, but by love and oneness within that covenant. Part of your healing will be unlearning the false training of pornography and relearning God's design, which takes time, prayer, and guarding what you allow into your eyes and mind.

Jesus also taught that in the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage, but will be like the angels in heaven. He said this to affirm that God will raise the dead and that our deepest identity and wholeness is not found in marriage or in sexual ability, but in belonging to Him forever. Whether God leads you to marriage or calls you to serve Him while single, your worth as a man is not measured by sexual performance, but by being a new creation in Christ. That hope can free you from anger at yourself and from fear about the future.

I will pray for you, that God would bring deep healing to your mind and body, that He would renew your thoughts daily through His Word, that He would give you strength to turn away completely from any pornographic material and from fantasies when they arise, and to replace them with prayer and Scripture. Pray for a clean heart and for patience as your mind is renewed, it often takes months for the brain to be rewired after pornography is put away. If this difficulty continues, it is also wise to speak confidentially with a godly counselor and with a medical doctor to rule out any physical causes, but keep pursuing spiritual renewal as the foundation.

God is gracious and He is able to restore what was broken. Keep walking in the light, keep guarding your heart, and trust that as you abide in Christ He will make you fruitful and prepare you, whether for marriage or for whatever He has for you, to love with a pure and undivided heart.