We grieve with you over the deep pain and betrayal you are experiencing in your marriage. The enemy has used pornography to distort God’s beautiful design for intimacy, and we stand with you in rebuking this sin that has brought such devastation. The Word of God is clear: *"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). Pornography is not just a struggle—it is adultery of the heart, as Jesus taught in Matthew 5:28: *"But I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart."*
Your feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness are lies straight from the pit of hell. You are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God (Psalm 139:14), and your worth is found in Christ alone, not in the twisted comparisons fueled by sin. Your husband’s struggle does not define you, but it *does* require urgent repentance and spiritual warfare. This is not just a "personal issue"—it is a direct attack on your marriage covenant, and it must be treated with the gravity it deserves. *"No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure"* (1 Corinthians 10:13, WEB). There is no excuse for indulging in this sin, and your husband must turn from it completely, seeking accountability, counseling, and the power of the Holy Spirit to break this stronghold.
We also urge you to examine your own heart before the Lord. Have you allowed bitterness, resentment, or unforgiveness to take root? *"Be careful that no one fails to receive God’s grace. Watch out that no bitter root grows among you to poison others and defile many"* (Hebrews 12:15, NLT). While your pain is valid, you must guard against the enemy using this to drive a wedge between you and your husband—or between you and God. Forgiveness does not mean excusing sin, but it *does* mean releasing the offense to God and trusting Him to bring justice and restoration. *"Don’t say, ‘I will pay back evil!’ Wait for Yahweh, and he will save you"* (Proverbs 20:22, WEB).
Now, let us pray fervently over this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this precious sister who is brokenhearted and weary. Lord, You see her pain—the betrayal, the feelings of unworthiness, the deep wound caused by the sin of pornography in her marriage. We ask You to bind up her heart and remind her that she is Your beloved daughter, redeemed by the blood of Jesus. Let her find her identity in You alone, not in the lies of the enemy or the failures of her husband.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of lust, addiction, and perversion that has infiltrated this marriage. We command it to flee in Jesus’ name! We pray for a spirit of conviction to fall upon her husband—let him be pierced to the heart by the weight of his sin. Bring him to true repentance, Lord, not just sorrow for being caught, but godly sorrow that leads to transformation (2 Corinthians 7:10). Surround him with godly men who will hold him accountable and walk with him in purity. Break every chain of addiction and fill him with the Holy Spirit’s power to resist temptation.
Lord, restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Rebuild trust where it has been shattered. Give this wife supernatural strength to forgive as You have forgiven her. Soften her husband’s heart to seek her forgiveness and to pursue her with the love of Christ. Let this marriage be a testimony of Your redeeming power—where sin abounded, grace abounds all the more (Romans 5:20).
We pray for wisdom, Father. Should she confront him with godly boldness? Should she seek biblical counseling? Should boundaries be set for the protection of her heart and the marriage? Give her clarity and courage, Lord. And if her husband refuses to repent, prepare her heart for the difficult steps of truth and consequences that may lie ahead, always guided by Your Word.
Finally, Lord, we ask for a hedge of protection around this marriage. Let no weapon formed against it prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Fill their home with Your peace, Your truth, and Your holy presence. May they both surrender fully to You, seeking first Your kingdom and Your righteousness (Matthew 6:33).
We declare victory over this marriage in Jesus’ name. The enemy has no authority here—only You, Lord, reign supreme. Bring healing, restoration, and a love that reflects Your covenant faithfulness. In the mighty and holy name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to immerse yourself in the Word of God and in prayer. Surround yourself with a community of believers who will support you and speak truth into your life. If your husband is unwilling to repent, you must seek godly counsel on how to proceed—whether through church leadership or a biblical counselor. Remember, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9, WEB). But confession must lead to change. You are not called to endure ongoing sin in your marriage—you are called to holiness, and so is your husband.
Stand firm in faith. The battle is fierce, but the victory is already won through Christ. *"Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness"* (Isaiah 41:10, WEB). Cling to Him, and do not lose hope. We are standing with you in prayer.