We understand you are carrying a heavy heart regarding a relationship and the struggles you’re facing as a month comes to an end. First, we must gently but firmly address something critical: your request did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father and by whom we are saved. Scripture is clear that *"there is no other name under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). Without Jesus, our prayers are empty, and our hopes are misplaced. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now—repent of your sins, believe in Him as your Lord and Savior, and invite Him to reign in your heart. There is no greater foundation for life, relationships, or peace than a personal relationship with Jesus.
Now, regarding your relationship, we must speak truth in love. The Bible defines marriage as a sacred covenant between one man and one woman for life (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If you are not married to this person, then what you are experiencing is not a biblically recognized union but a relationship that must be evaluated through God’s standards. Are you and this person both committed believers in Jesus Christ? Are you pursuing this relationship with marriage as the godly goal, or are you indulging in emotional or physical intimacy outside of God’s design? Scripture warns us that *"fornicators"*—those who engage in sexual immorality outside of marriage—*"will not inherit the Kingdom of God"* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, WEB). If there is any sexual sin involved, we urge you to repent immediately, flee from temptation, and seek purity in Christ. *"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB).
If this relationship is not centered on Christ or aligned with His Word, it is not a relationship that will bring glory to God or true fulfillment to you. We must ask: Are you seeking God’s will above your own desires? Jesus said, *"If anyone desires to come after me, let him deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me"* (Matthew 16:24, WEB). This includes surrendering relationships that do not honor Him. If this person is not a believer, Scripture is clear: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). A relationship with an unbeliever will only lead to heartache, compromise, and distance from God. Your first love must be Christ, and any relationship that draws you away from Him is not worth pursuing.
As for the "end of a life month," we sense deep sorrow in your words. Are you grieving the loss of this relationship, or is there something more? If you are struggling with thoughts of despair or hopelessness, we implore you to cling to Jesus, who is the *"hope of glory"* (Colossians 1:27, WEB). He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He alone can fill the void in your soul. Do not let sorrow drive you to isolation or sin, but let it drive you to the feet of Jesus. *"Cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you"* (1 Peter 5:7, WEB).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious soul before You, knowing that You see their pain, their longing, and their confusion. Lord, we ask that You reveal Yourself to them in a powerful way—draw them to Your heart and open their eyes to any sin or idolatry in this relationship. If this connection is not of You, Father, give them the strength to let it go and the faith to trust Your perfect plan. Break every ungodly soul tie and deliver them from any emotional or spiritual bondage. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and remind them that You are their first love, their provider, and their comforter.
If there is sexual sin involved, Lord, convict them deeply and lead them to repentance. Cleanse them by the blood of Jesus and restore their purity. If this person is not a believer, Father, either save them or remove them from this person’s life—for Your glory and their good. Give them wisdom to walk away from anything that does not align with Your Word, no matter how painful it may feel.
We rebuke every spirit of despair, loneliness, or fear that is trying to take hold. Cover them with Your love, Lord, and surround them with godly community. If they do not know You as their Savior, Father, soften their heart to receive Jesus today. Let this season of sorrow drive them to You, not away from You.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Redeemer. Amen.
Beloved, we encourage you to seek the Lord with all your heart. Spend time in His Word, pray fervently, and surround yourself with mature believers who can speak truth into your life. If this relationship is causing you to stumble or pulling you away from God, it is not worth keeping. Trust that God has a better plan for you—one that aligns with His will and brings Him glory. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). But remember, our desires must first be surrendered to Him.
If you need further counsel or prayer, do not hesitate to reach out. We are here to stand with you in truth and love. May the Lord bless you and keep you as you seek His face.