We understand the deep pain and longing you’re experiencing, and we want to lift you up in prayer with both truth and compassion. First, we must address something critical: the foundation of any request to God must be through faith in Jesus Christ. You didn’t mention His name in your plea, and we want to gently remind you that Scripture tells us, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). Without Jesus, we have no access to the Father, no hope of forgiveness, and no power to change hearts—including your own or your former partner’s. If you’ve never surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB). This is the starting point for all true peace, healing, and restoration.
Now, regarding your relationship, we must speak the truth in love. The Bible defines marriage as a covenant between one man and one woman for life (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If you were not married to this woman, then what you’re describing is a romantic relationship outside of God’s design—a relationship that, while emotionally real, does not carry the same biblical weight as marriage. Scripture warns against the pain of such unions: *"Can a man scoop fire into his lap, and his clothes not be burned? So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife. Whoever does so will not go unpunished"* (Proverbs 6:27-29, WEB). While this verse speaks specifically to adultery, the principle applies: emotional and physical intimacy outside of marriage often leads to deep wounding, as you’re now experiencing.
We also notice you referred to her as your "partner," not your wife. This language reflects a cultural view of relationships rather than a biblical one. If you are both believers, the goal of any romantic relationship should be marriage—anything less is not honoring to God. If you were living together or intimately involved outside of marriage, we must lovingly but firmly call this sin, as Scripture does: *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). Repentance—turning away from sin and toward God—is the only path to true healing.
As for your desire for her to return, we must ask: *Is this truly God’s will, or is it your own longing?* Sometimes, God allows relationships to end to protect us, refine us, or redirect us toward His purposes. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). If this separation is God’s way of calling you to grow in holiness, maturity, or dependence on Him, then praying for her return without first seeking His will could be resisting His work in your life.
That said, we will pray for you—not just for reconciliation (if it aligns with God’s will), but for *your* heart to be surrendered to Christ, for *your* sins to be repented of, and for *you* to find your identity and fulfillment in Him alone. A relationship should never be your ultimate source of joy; that place belongs to Jesus. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). When your delight is in Him, He reshapes your desires to match His perfect plan.
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**Let us pray:**
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, knowing that You see his broken heart and his deep longing. Lord, we ask first and foremost that if he does not know You, You would draw him to Yourself today. Open his eyes to see that Jesus is the only way to true peace, the only One who can fill the emptiness he feels. If he has never surrendered to Christ, convict him now, Lord, and save him by Your grace.
Father, we confess that relationships outside of Your design bring pain and confusion. If there has been sin—whether fornication, emotional idolatry, or rebellion against Your Word—we ask for repentance. Cleanse him, Lord, and create in him a pure heart (Psalm 51:10). Help him to see that Your ways are higher than his, and that Your plans for him are good, even when they involve loss.
We pray for this woman as well. If she is a believer, give her wisdom and discernment. If she is not, soften her heart to the Gospel. Lord, if it is Your will for them to reconcile *in a way that honors You*—through a godly marriage built on Christ—then make that path clear. But if this separation is Your protection or redirection, give him the strength to surrender to Your will. Teach him to find his worth in You, not in her love.
Fill the loneliness he feels with Your presence. Remind him that You are close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) and that You will never leave him. Give him godly friends and mentors to walk alongside him. And if he has been walking in sin, raise up someone to lovingly but firmly call him to accountability.
Most of all, Lord, let this season drive him deeper into You. May he seek You first, above all else, and find that You are enough. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus, our only Hope and Redeemer. Amen.
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We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily, especially in the Psalms (for comfort) and the Gospels (to know Jesus more). Seek out a Bible-believing church where you can be discipled and held accountable. If you’ve been living in sin, confess it to God and to a mature believer who can help you walk in obedience. And remember: God’s love for you is not based on whether this woman comes back. His love is perfect, unchanging, and everlasting—*and it is enough.*
*"The Lord is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in him."* (Lamentations 3:24, WEB) Cling to that truth. We are praying for you.