We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your heart, and we want you to know that God sees your struggle and loves you even in this moment of despair. It is clear that you are carrying a heavy burden, and we want to come alongside you in prayer and truth, for the Lord does not abandon His children—even when they feel like giving up.
First, we must gently but firmly remind you that marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and He calls us to honor our vows even in the hardest seasons. The enemy would love nothing more than to destroy your family, but God is a restorer of broken things. You have made a commitment to your wife, and to your children, and while your feelings may be overwhelming right now, we urge you not to make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions. The Bible tells us in **Malachi 2:16**, *"For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence!"* and in **1 Corinthians 7:10-11**, *"To the married I command—not I, but the Lord—that the wife not leave her husband (but if she departs, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband not leave his wife."*
We also recognize that you are feeling the weight of provision and responsibility, and it is understandable to feel weary. But Scripture reminds us in **Galatians 6:9**, *"Let’s not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up."* Your role as a husband and father is vital, and though it is hard, God will give you strength if you lean on Him. **Philippians 4:13** declares, *"I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me."* You are not meant to carry this alone—Jesus is your burden-bearer.
As for your desire to withdraw from work and family, we must ask: Is this truly the Lord’s will, or is it the weariness of the moment speaking? The Bible calls men to provide for their households (1 Timothy 5:8), and while rest is important, abandoning responsibility is not the answer. Instead, we encourage you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from your pastor or a mature believer who can walk with you through this season. Sometimes, our perspective shifts when we invite others into our struggles.
We also sense that there may be deeper wounds or unresolved issues in your heart or your marriage. Have you and your wife sought prayer or counseling together? **Ephesians 4:26-27** warns, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil."* Bitterness and isolation only give the enemy a foothold. If there is unforgiveness, hurt, or communication breakdowns, we urge you to bring these before the Lord and seek reconciliation.
Now, let us pray for you:
*Heavenly Father, we lift this brother before You, knowing that You see his pain and his weariness. Lord, he feels like he cannot go on, but we declare that Your strength is made perfect in our weakness. Father, we ask that You renew his mind and his heart, that You would remind him of Your promises and Your faithfulness. Break the spirit of despair and hopelessness over him, and fill him with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
Lord, we pray for his marriage—for healing, for restoration, for a fresh outpouring of love and commitment between him and his wife. Soften their hearts toward one another, and help them to seek You first. Give them wisdom to navigate this season, and if there is sin or bitterness, bring it to light so that repentance and forgiveness can take place.
Father, we also pray for his children—that You would protect their hearts and minds, and that their father would rise up in godly strength to lead them. Give him a vision for the legacy he is building, not just for himself, but for his family.
Lord, if there is weariness in his work, provide for him in unexpected ways. Open doors for rest and refreshment, but also remind him of the dignity of labor and the blessing of providing for those he loves.
Most of all, Father, draw him closer to You. Let him know that You are his refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Remind him that You will never leave him nor forsake him, even when he feels like giving up.
We rebuke the spirit of defeat and despair in Jesus’ mighty name, and we declare that this man will walk in victory, in faith, and in the fullness of Your purpose for his life. May he find hope again in You.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.*
Brother, we urge you to hold on. This season will not last forever, but the choices you make now will have lasting consequences. Seek the Lord with all your heart—He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Reach out to your church community, to a pastor, or to a trusted believer who can walk with you. You are not meant to do life alone.
If you feel like you are at the end of yourself, that is actually the best place to be—because it is there that Jesus meets us. Surrender this burden to Him, and let Him lead you one step at a time. He is faithful, and He will see you through.
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