God bless you Lisa and loves you.I believe with all my heart that God loves you. HIS LOVE and GRACE IS sufficient for you. Sometime those who are very close to us, used, abuse, and betrays us. God has been betrayed so many times by us, even from Adam & Eve, all through the ages, Jesus has been betrayed, even today by christian, by denying him in our decision making, and even our own personal life. So God understands more than anyone else. How did Jesus deals with that situation? He said "Father forgive them for they dont know what they are doing". when Peter denied Jesus, and Jesus rose from the dead, He visited Peter and bring restoration, healing. Peter denied Him out of fear. Jesus looked beyond his fault, sin and brought restoration.
Father I know you do not give us more than we can endure. You have given your daughter the grace to overcome this trial, through the many example you have demonstrated while Jesus was on this earth, even too when Adam & Eve betrayed you for another. Yet your love chased after them.
Lisa, our warfare is not carnal, in other words fleshly, it is spiritual, therefore it MUST BE FOUGHT SPIRITUAL. We wrestle not against flesh or blood but powers of darkness. You must realize from what point you are fighting from. It must be in the spirit. How does one fight in the spirit, it is only only by the word of God. When your husband, or anyone says unkind words to you, speak the word of God to that principality, speak to the power of darkness, read a psalm if you dont know what to say at the time. Prophesy the word of God over your husband. He does not have to hear it, also bless him according to what Jesus says" bless those who curse and use you. Your flesh will not want to do so, this is where you deny flesh and follow Jesus...
There are times when we just need to be obedient to the word, and the word will accomplish what it is set out to accomplish. Jesus used the word. God bless you