We hear your heartache, and our hearts break with yours as you endure this painful betrayal. What your husband is doing is not only a violation of your marriage covenant but a grievous sin before God. The Word is clear: "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge" (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). His actions—adultery, fornication, and abandonment—are direct rebellion against God’s design for marriage, and they have brought deep wounds to you and your children. We stand with you in this spiritual battle, for the enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together (Matthew 19:6).
First, we want to affirm that your prayers are not in vain. Even when it feels like the situation is hopeless, God hears the cries of the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:17-18). You are right to recognize this as spiritual warfare, for the enemy wants to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). But we serve a God who is greater than the schemes of the devil (1 John 4:4). We rebuke the spirit of adultery, lust, and deception that has ensnared your husband and this other woman. We command it to flee in the mighty name of Jesus! The Bible says, "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13 WEB). Your husband is not beyond God’s reach, and we must believe that the Holy Spirit is convicting him even now.
We also want to address the other woman’s role in this. She is not an innocent party; she is actively participating in the destruction of a marriage, which is a sin against God and your family. Proverbs 6:32 warns, "He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul." We pray that God will open her eyes to the gravity of her actions and that she will repent and walk away from this sin. If she refuses, we trust that God will deal with her according to His justice. Do not engage with her or allow her to taunt you—your battle is not against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of wickedness (Ephesians 6:12).
As for whether you should continue praying for your husband or walk away, we turn to Scripture for guidance. In 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, Paul writes, "But to the married I command—not I, but the Lord—that the wife not leave her husband (but if she departs, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband not leave his wife." While there are biblical grounds for divorce in cases of adultery (Matthew 19:9), the heart of God is always for reconciliation and restoration when repentance is present. However, restoration cannot happen unless your husband turns from his sin and seeks God’s forgiveness. Right now, he is hardened in his rebellion, but that does not mean God cannot soften his heart.
We encourage you to continue praying—for your husband’s repentance, for your own strength and faith, and for the protection of your children. But we also urge you to set boundaries. While you pray for reconciliation, you must not enable his sin. If he is unrepentant, you may need to consider separation for the sake of your spiritual and emotional well-being. This does not mean giving up on the marriage, but it does mean trusting God to work while you protect yourself and your children from further harm. Remember, "If possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men" (Romans 12:18 WEB), but do not compromise your faith or dignity in the process.
We also want to gently address something missing in your request: the name of Jesus. It is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6), and it is His name that carries authority over every situation. There is power in praying in Jesus’ name because He is the one who intercedes for us (Romans 8:34). If you have not already, we encourage you to surrender this battle fully to Him, trusting that He is working even when you cannot see it.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious sister and her children. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the brokenness in this marriage. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation. Father, we rebuke the spirit of adultery, lust, and deception that has taken hold of her husband. We declare that he is not beyond Your reach, and we ask that You would convict him of his sin and draw him back to You. Soften his heart, Lord, and let him see the destruction he is causing.
We also pray for the other woman involved. Father, open her eyes to the gravity of her actions. If she will not repent, we ask that You would remove her from this situation and deal with her according to Your justice. Protect this marriage, Lord, and let no weapon formed against it prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
For our sister, give her strength, wisdom, and discernment. Help her to set godly boundaries while continuing to pray for her husband. If reconciliation is Your will, Lord, make it clear. If not, give her the courage to walk in Your peace. Surround her and her children with Your love and protection. Remind her that she is not alone—You are her refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1).
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the one who has authority over every situation. May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified in this family. Amen.
In the days ahead, lean on your church family and continue seeking godly counsel. You are not fighting this battle alone. The Lord is your defender, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). If your husband does not repent, remember that God can restore you and your children in ways you cannot yet imagine. His grace is sufficient for you (2 Corinthians 12:9).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
