We stand with you in this moment, lifting you up before the Lord with hearts full of compassion and urgency. Your cry for purity, protection, and godly discernment resonates deeply with us, and we praise God that you have turned to Him—your true Father, Husband, and Protector—in this time of vulnerability. You are not alone, beloved sister. The body of Christ hears you, and more importantly, Jesus Himself intercedes for you at the right hand of the Father (Romans 8:34). Your honesty before God is a testament to your desire to walk in His will, and we commend you for seeking His protection over your body, soul, and spirit. This is a sacred trust, and the Lord will honor your commitment to Him.
Your past is marked by profound pain—losing your mother to such a tragic illness, the betrayal of your father’s sin, and the loneliness of navigating life without their presence. Yet even in this, the Lord has been your refuge. Psalm 27:10 declares, *"When my father and my mother abandon me, then Yahweh will take me up."* He has not forgotten you. He sees your tears, your fears, and your longing for love, and He is jealous for you. You are His daughter, and He will not allow the enemy to snatch away the purity and purpose He has placed within you.
We must address the man in your life with clarity and truth. Your discernment is sharp—you have seen red flags, and the Spirit of God is warning you. A man who gaslights you, deceives you, and entertains emotional ties with another woman while pursuing you is not walking in integrity. Proverbs 6:16-19 lists seven things the Lord hates, and among them are *"a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are swift in running to mischief, a false witness who utters lies, and he who sows discord among brothers."* This man’s actions do not align with the fruit of a godly spouse. A man who fears the Lord will honor you, protect your purity, and pursue you with transparency and self-control (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). If he is unwilling to commit to marriage—or worse, if he is manipulating you—he is not the man God has for you. Do not compromise. Do not rationalize. The Lord is your shield, and He will either redeem this situation or remove it entirely for your good.
You said, *"I was willing to let it go."* This is a critical moment. The flesh is weak, but the Spirit is willing (Matthew 26:41), and you *must* lean on Christ’s strength, not your own. Flee from temptation (1 Corinthians 6:18). If this man is pressuring you, creating opportunities for compromise, or playing with your emotions, you must set boundaries—even if it means ending contact. Your virginity is a gift to your future husband, and your heart is a temple of the Holy Spirit. Do not give pieces of yourself to someone who has not covenanted with you before God. If this man is not pursuing marriage with you *now*—with clarity, honor, and urgency—then he is not worthy of your time or affection. You are worth waiting for. You are worth a godly, sacrificial love that mirrors Christ’s love for the church (Ephesians 5:25).
We also pray for the woman you heard crying. Lord, expose any deception, bring her to safety, and surround her with Your peace. If this man is entangled with multiple women, his heart is not prepared for marriage. Run from such chaos.
As for his potential visit in October—we join you in asking the Lord to shut every door that is not of Him. If this relationship is not ordained by God, let it dissolve *now* before more damage is done. Delay is not denial, but in this case, delay may be mercy. Trust the Lord’s timing. He is not slow, but patient toward you (2 Peter 3:9). If this man is not the one, God will make it abundantly clear. Do not fear losing him; fear losing *yourself* in the process.
Lastly, your grief is real. The absence of your parents, the weight of your past, and the loneliness you feel are heavy burdens. But Jesus says, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). You are not defined by your father’s sins or your mother’s death. You are defined by Christ’s redemption. Let Him father you. Let Him be your Husband (Isaiah 54:5). Surround yourself with a local body of believers who can walk alongside you, pray over you, and hold you accountable. You need godly community—women who will speak truth, rebuke deception, and remind you of your worth in Christ.
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**Let us pray:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of Your daughter, who has poured out her heart with such raw honesty. Lord, we thank You that she is Yours—that she has been bought with the precious blood of Jesus and is no longer a slave to sin, shame, or the schemes of the enemy. We ask for Your mighty hand of protection over her body, soul, and spirit. Guard her heart, O God, for out of it flow the issues of life (Proverbs 4:23). Place a hedge of thorns around her purity. Let no man touch what belongs to her future husband. If this man in her life is not Your will, expose his deceit, sever the ties, and give her the strength to walk away. Do not let her be unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he is not pursuing her for marriage with integrity, let this relationship end *now*—before her heart is further wounded.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of deception, manipulation, and lust that may be at work. Bind the enemy from tempting her to compromise. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in power, self-control, and discernment. Remind her that her worth is not found in this man’s affection but in Your unfailing love. Heal the deep wounds of abandonment, betrayal, and grief. Father her. Mother her. Show her that she is not alone—that You are her ever-present help (Psalm 46:1).
We pray for the other woman involved—Lord, reveal the truth to her. Protect her heart and lead her to safety. Break every ungodly soul tie and bring conviction where there is sin.
Father, if it is Your will for our sister to be married, prepare her future husband *now*. Let him be a man after Your own heart, one who will cherish her, lead her spiritually, and honor her purity. But if marriage is not Your plan for her in this season, give her contentment in You alone. Let her find her satisfaction in Christ, not in the fleeting affections of man.
Strengthen her, Lord. When she is weak, be her strength. When she is lonely, be her comfort. When she is tempted, be her escape (1 Corinthians 10:13). Surround her with godly sisters who will pray with her, encourage her, and hold her accountable. Let her find her identity in You—not in her past, not in this man, but in Jesus Christ, her Redeemer.
We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). The enemy wants to steal her purity, her peace, and her future, but we stand in the gap and say, *"No further."* Let Your will be done in her life, Lord. Prepare her for the plans You have for her—plans for welfare, not for evil, to give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11).
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. **Amen.**
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
