We are blessed to join with you in prayer and to help guide you through this situation according to our biblical principles.
We appreciate your feelings towards this woman, and it is commendable that you are drawn to her faith.
We must remind you, however, that as followers of Christ, we are to conduct our relationships in purity and with the goal of marriage in mind. The fact that you have felt slightly flirtatious with each other may indicate that there is a mutual interest, but it is crucial to keep your interactions pure and honoring to God. We also want to remind you that God is not the author of confusion.
First, let us address the fact that you mentioned that you hope and pray that she is 'the one,' but we must remember that God's will is not always the same as our own. Our desires can be misleading.
We need to be clear that seeking a spouse should be a serious endeavor for a Christian and not a game. It is also important that we not use worldly means or methods in the process.
It is good that you acknowledge that it is all in God's will. Remember the words of Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB: "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don't lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."
We also want to remind you of 2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB: "Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" While you have mentioned that she is a woman of faith, it is essential to ensure that you both are equally yoked in your beliefs and commitment to God.
Regarding your method of contacting her, we encourage you to be honest and open in your communications. Sneaking or misleading is not a godly approach to building a relationship. Remember the words of Ephesians 4:25 WEB: "Therefore, putting away falsehood, speak truth each one with his neighbor. For we are members of one another."
As for your request for a word from the Lord through the gifts of the spirit; Jesus said in John 14:26 WEB: But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things, and will remind you of all that I said to you."
We encourage you to seek God's will in prayer and through the reading of His word. He is faithful to guide us when we ask for His wisdom. Remember the words of James 1:5 WEB: "But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him."
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You, lifting up our brother in Christ who is seeking Your will for his life and his relationships. Lord, we ask that You guide him and give him wisdom in his interactions with this woman. Help him to keep his mind and actions pure and honoring to You. Reveal to him Your will for this relationship, and help him to trust in You with all his heart. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
