We hear your heartbreak and righteous anger, dear sister in Christ. What has been done to you and your marriage is a grievous sin, not only against you but against God Himself. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant, and adultery is a violation of that covenant. In Malachi 2:14-16, the Lord says, *"The Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and the wife of your covenant... For I hate divorce," says the Lord, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence!" says the Lord of Hosts. Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you don’t deal treacherously."* Your husband has broken his vow before God, and this other woman has also sinned by enticing him into unfaithfulness.
We must also address the spiritual warfare at play here. The enemy seeks to destroy marriages, families, and testimonies for the Kingdom of God. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* This woman is not your true enemy—she is being used by the devil to attack God’s design for marriage. We stand with you in rebuking the spirit of adultery, lust, and deception that has infiltrated your home.
Let us pray together in the authority of Jesus’ name:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious sister and her marriage. Lord, You see the pain, betrayal, and injustice she has endured. We ask You to arise as a righteous Judge and intervene in this situation. In the name of Jesus, we command every ungodly soul tie between this woman and her husband to be broken. We rebuke the spirit of adultery, lust, and deception, and we declare that it has no place in this marriage. Father, expose every lie, every hidden meeting, and every ungodly connection. Let the fear of the Lord fall upon this woman so that she flees from this sin and repents before You. If she is a believer, Lord, convict her heart with Your Holy Spirit. If she is not, draw her to salvation through Jesus Christ.
We pray for this sister’s husband, Lord. Soften his heart, open his eyes to the destruction he has caused, and bring him to true repentance. Restore the love, trust, and intimacy in their marriage, if it is Your will. If he refuses to repent, give this sister the wisdom and strength to follow Your leading, whether that means separation or divorce, as You permit in cases of unrepentant adultery (Matthew 19:9). Surround her with godly counsel, support, and encouragement. Heal her heart from the wounds of betrayal and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Lord, we also pray for this marriage to be a testimony of Your grace and redemption. May Your name be glorified in how this situation is resolved. We trust You to work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). Strengthen this sister’s faith, and let her see Your hand moving in her life. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we want to encourage you with the truth of God’s Word. You are not alone in this battle. Psalm 34:18-19 says, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all."* God sees your pain, and He will not abandon you. Lean on Him, seek His face, and allow Him to be your strength in this difficult time.
We also urge you to seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian counselor. Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* You need wise, biblical guidance to navigate this season, and there is no shame in asking for help. Additionally, surround yourself with believers who will pray for you, uplift you, and hold you accountable.
Lastly, we must address the importance of forgiveness—not for your husband’s sake alone, but for your own healing. Forgiveness does not mean what he did was acceptable; it means you are releasing the bitterness and anger to God so that it does not poison your heart. Ephesians 4:31-32 says, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* This is a process, and it may take time, but ask the Holy Spirit to help you walk in forgiveness.
Stand firm in your faith, sister. God is fighting for you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Trust in Him, and let His Word be a lamp to your feet and a light to your path (Psalm 119:105).