Tina, here is an excerpt from a teaching of Dan Mohler.
"I saw Jesus hanging on the cross and I heard God says, "what else can it mean?! secret condemnation, cause they feel like they're not living up to their desire for their love for Him.
Very pure people, they love God and they cry about things but it's because they feel like they're not measuring up, that they're not fulfilling what they say concerning their love for Him. So they live in this state of condemnation. That's cause they care so much that the devil uses it and crosses the line they live apart from the Spirit of God. It's a trap, that's a zero, condemnation, guilt and shame are zeros they're never ever ever ever the kingdom of God.
Guilt, condemnation and shame are never tools of heaven, he doesn't subcontract them. I'm telling you, 10 seconds of any of those three are not the will of God. You say, yeah, but we need to repent. Not through guilt, condemnation and shame, just through the knowledge of truth and godly sorrow, wow, my life is more than this, God, you've put light in me, you've shown me this isn't the way. It's not about beating yourself up, it's not about guilt condemnation and shame. guilt is a subconscious confession that you're not forgiven. Condemnation is a subconscious confession that you're life's worthy of judgment. Shame is a subconscious confession that the thing you're condemned over is still who you are; and they're all three antichrist, anti-finished work, they are not tools of heaven."