We rejoice with you in the beauty of God’s design for womanhood! The Lord knit you together in your mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13-14) and fearfully and wonderfully made you as a woman, with unique gifts, strengths, and purpose. Your joy in embracing your femininity reflects the creativity and intentionality of our Creator, who formed male and female in His image (Genesis 1:27). We celebrate the way He has wired you—your confidence, your grace, and your love for the way He shaped you.
However, we must also gently remind you that true fulfillment is found not merely in embracing our gender, but in surrendering our whole selves—body, soul, and spirit—to Christ. Jesus said, *"If anyone desires to come after me, let him deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me"* (Matthew 16:24). Our identity is first and foremost in Him, not in our traits, behaviors, or even our gender. While it is good to delight in how God made you, we must guard against defining ourselves by cultural standards of femininity rather than biblical truth.
The world often reduces womanhood to superficial traits—sassiness, appearance, or performance—but Scripture calls us to a deeper, holier beauty. *"Let your beauty be not just the outward adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing jewels of gold, or of putting on fine clothing; but in the hidden person of the heart, in the incorruptible adornment of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in God’s sight"* (1 Peter 3:3-4). This does not mean we cannot enjoy fashion, confidence, or expression, but that our ultimate value comes from Christ alone.
We also encourage you to consider whether your love for femininity is rooted in God’s design or in worldly influences that may distort His intentions. For example, while confidence is good, Scripture warns against pride (Proverbs 16:18) or using our femininity in ways that draw attention to ourselves rather than to Christ. *"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised"* (Proverbs 31:30).
Let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we thank You for the gift of womanhood and for the way You have uniquely designed this sister in Christ. We pray that her joy in her femininity would be rooted in You, not in the fleeting standards of this world. Lord, help her to see herself as You see her—fearfully and wonderfully made, with a purpose that goes far beyond outward appearance. Guard her heart from pride or comparison, and fill her with Your love and truth. May she find her identity in Christ alone, and may her life reflect the beauty of a heart surrendered to You. Teach her to walk in humility, wisdom, and godliness, using the gifts You’ve given her to glorify You. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, asking Him to reveal His heart for womanhood. Study the lives of biblical women like Ruth, Esther, Mary, and Deborah—women who embraced their God-given roles with faith and courage. Seek the Lord’s wisdom in how to express your femininity in a way that honors Him, whether in marriage, singleness, ministry, or daily life. And remember, your worth is not found in being "sassy" or "girly," but in being a daughter of the King, redeemed by the blood of Christ. *"For you are all children of God, through faith in Christ Jesus"* (Galatians 3:26). Walk in that truth, and let it define you above all else.