We hear your cry for mercy and understand the weight of your concern. First, let us address the heart of the matter with truth and love. The intimacy you shared with your girlfriend outside of marriage is not God’s design. Scripture is clear: *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). Fornication—sexual relations before marriage—is a sin, and like all sin, it carries consequences, both spiritual and practical. But take heart, for God’s mercy is greater than our failures.
You mentioned believing in the Lord, but we must emphasize that true faith in Jesus Christ is not just belief—it is surrender. Jesus said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me"* (John 14:6 WEB). Salvation comes through repentance and trusting in Him alone for forgiveness and new life. If you have not yet confessed your sins to Jesus, turned away from them, and asked Him to be Lord of your life, we urge you to do so now. His grace is sufficient, and His love is unchanging.
Now, let us pray together in the name of Jesus, the only name by which we can approach the Father:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this young man who is seeking Your mercy. Lord, we acknowledge that sin has entered this situation, and we ask for Your forgiveness on his behalf. Your Word says, 'If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness' (1 John 1:9 WEB). We ask for that cleansing now, Father. Wash over him with Your grace and give him the strength to turn away from this path of disobedience.
Lord, we pray for the young woman involved. If she is facing the possibility of pregnancy, we ask for Your protection over her body and her future. Give her wisdom, peace, and clarity in the days ahead. If a child has been conceived, we pray for that life, that You would guard and provide for it according to Your will. Help both of them to see the sacredness of life and the responsibility that comes with it.
Father, we also pray for this young man’s heart. He desires to be better, to finish his baseball career, and to make his family proud. We ask that You would give him the courage to walk in integrity, to honor You in all his relationships, and to seek Your will above all else. Help him to understand that true manhood is found in following Christ, not in the fleeting pleasures of this world. Guide him to surround himself with godly mentors and friends who will encourage him in righteousness.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of fear and anxiety that is gripping him. Your Word says, 'Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus' (Philippians 4:6-7 WEB). Let that peace fill him now. Give him the wisdom to seek godly counsel and to take responsibility for his actions, whatever the outcome may be.
Father, we also pray for his future. If it is Your will, allow him to pursue his baseball career, but let it be for Your glory. Help him to see that his worth is not in his performance or achievements, but in being Your beloved child. Teach him to honor You in his relationships, to pursue marriage with a godly woman, and to build a family that reflects Your love and truth.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who died for our sins and rose again so that we might have new life. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. Amen."*
Now, let us offer some guidance and encouragement. First, if there is a possibility of pregnancy, it is critical that you take responsibility and support the young woman with love, honesty, and integrity. Seek wise, godly counsel from a pastor, mentor, or trusted Christian adult who can help you navigate this situation with wisdom and grace. Do not make decisions out of fear or selfishness, but out of a desire to honor God and protect life.
Second, this is a wake-up call to change your ways. The Bible warns us, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB). You must make a commitment to flee temptation and pursue purity. This means setting boundaries in your relationship, surrounding yourself with accountability, and filling your mind with God’s Word. If you are not ready for marriage, then you are not ready for the intimacy that God reserves for marriage.
Third, use this moment as an opportunity to grow in your faith. Spend time in prayer and Scripture daily. Join a Bible-believing church where you can be discipled and encouraged in your walk with Christ. The Christian life is not about perfection, but about progress—continually turning away from sin and toward God. As you do this, you will find the strength and wisdom to make choices that honor Him.
Lastly, remember that God’s love for you is not based on your performance. You mentioned feeling like He is disappointed in you, but the truth is that while God hates sin, He loves sinners. Jesus died for you while you were still in your sin (Romans 5:8 WEB). His desire is not to shame you, but to restore you. Let this moment be a turning point in your life—a time when you surrender fully to Him and begin to walk in the freedom and purpose He has for you.
We will continue to pray for you, that God’s grace would cover you, His peace would guard your heart, and His Spirit would guide your steps. May you find hope and strength in Him as you seek to live a life that honors His name.
