I helped people and it wasn’t good enough for them.
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We hear your heart and we grieve with you over the pain of giving help in love and receiving hurtful words in return. It is deeply painful when our efforts to do good are met with criticism, and we understand why this has brought anxiety, a broken heart, and tears. Please know that God sees what you did and He sees the hurt you now carry.
We want to gently remind you that our service is ultimately unto the Lord and not unto people. When we look for our worth and approval from people we will often be disappointed, but God is faithful to see and reward what is done in love. Colossians 3:23 says And whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men. Galatians 6:9 encourages us, Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don't give up. Your kindness was not wasted even if it was not appreciated as you had hoped. The Lord who sees in secret noticed every act of help you gave.
We also see your beautiful Christlike desire to ask for prayer not only for yourself but for the people who hurt you. This reflects the heart of Jesus. He calls us to a higher way when we are wounded. Matthew 5:44 says But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you. And Ephesians 4:32 says And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you. Forgiveness does not mean that hurtful words were acceptable or that you must ignore the pain, but it does mean releasing bitterness to God and asking Him to work in their hearts as well as yours. Romans 12:21 says Don't be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
For your anxiety and broken heart, we want to point you to the nearness of God. Psalm 34:18 says Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. 1 Peter 5:7 says casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you. He invites you to bring every anxious thought, every tear, every replay of those hurtful comments to Him and to leave them in His caring hands.
We also noticed your request did not mention the name of Jesus and we want to lovingly share why His name matters so much to us. It is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father and peace with God. John 14:6 says Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. Acts 4:12 says There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved. If you have not already, we encourage you to put your trust in Jesus Christ, believing that He died for your sins and rose again, and to call upon His name for salvation and for daily help. Romans 10:9 says that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
We now join together and pray for you.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ and we lift up this dear one to You. You see the help that was offered in love and You see the hurtful words that followed. Lord, we ask You to heal this broken heart and calm this anxiety. Comfort every tear and replace the replay of hurtful comments with Your truth and Your peace that passes understanding. Help our friend to cast every worry on You and to find rest in Your care. Teach us all to serve for Your approval and not for the praise of people, and give strength to not grow weary in doing good. Father, we also lift up those who spoke those hurtful words. We ask You to work in their hearts, to convict where needed, to soften and to bring them to repentance and kindness. Help us to forgive as You have forgiven us in Christ, and to overcome evil with good. Draw each one closer to Jesus and let Your love be made known through this painful situation. We ask all this in the precious name of Jesus, amen.
We encourage you to keep doing good as God leads you, to guard your heart by bringing your hurts quickly to the Lord in prayer, and to seek fellowship with other believers who can encourage you and speak truth over you. If hurtful words continue, it is wise to set healthy boundaries while still keeping a forgiving heart. We are praying that God will restore your joy, strengthen your heart, and use even this pain to draw you nearer to Him.
We want to gently remind you that our service is ultimately unto the Lord and not unto people. When we look for our worth and approval from people we will often be disappointed, but God is faithful to see and reward what is done in love. Colossians 3:23 says And whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men. Galatians 6:9 encourages us, Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don't give up. Your kindness was not wasted even if it was not appreciated as you had hoped. The Lord who sees in secret noticed every act of help you gave.
We also see your beautiful Christlike desire to ask for prayer not only for yourself but for the people who hurt you. This reflects the heart of Jesus. He calls us to a higher way when we are wounded. Matthew 5:44 says But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you. And Ephesians 4:32 says And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you. Forgiveness does not mean that hurtful words were acceptable or that you must ignore the pain, but it does mean releasing bitterness to God and asking Him to work in their hearts as well as yours. Romans 12:21 says Don't be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
For your anxiety and broken heart, we want to point you to the nearness of God. Psalm 34:18 says Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. 1 Peter 5:7 says casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you. He invites you to bring every anxious thought, every tear, every replay of those hurtful comments to Him and to leave them in His caring hands.
We also noticed your request did not mention the name of Jesus and we want to lovingly share why His name matters so much to us. It is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father and peace with God. John 14:6 says Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. Acts 4:12 says There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved. If you have not already, we encourage you to put your trust in Jesus Christ, believing that He died for your sins and rose again, and to call upon His name for salvation and for daily help. Romans 10:9 says that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
We now join together and pray for you.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ and we lift up this dear one to You. You see the help that was offered in love and You see the hurtful words that followed. Lord, we ask You to heal this broken heart and calm this anxiety. Comfort every tear and replace the replay of hurtful comments with Your truth and Your peace that passes understanding. Help our friend to cast every worry on You and to find rest in Your care. Teach us all to serve for Your approval and not for the praise of people, and give strength to not grow weary in doing good. Father, we also lift up those who spoke those hurtful words. We ask You to work in their hearts, to convict where needed, to soften and to bring them to repentance and kindness. Help us to forgive as You have forgiven us in Christ, and to overcome evil with good. Draw each one closer to Jesus and let Your love be made known through this painful situation. We ask all this in the precious name of Jesus, amen.
We encourage you to keep doing good as God leads you, to guard your heart by bringing your hurts quickly to the Lord in prayer, and to seek fellowship with other believers who can encourage you and speak truth over you. If hurtful words continue, it is wise to set healthy boundaries while still keeping a forgiving heart. We are praying that God will restore your joy, strengthen your heart, and use even this pain to draw you nearer to Him.
We were so sorry to read what happened. It is deeply painful to offer help in good faith and receive harsh, hurtful words in return. It makes sense that you felt anxious and heartbroken to the point of tears, and we appreciate your graciousness in asking prayer not only for yourself but for the people who hurt you.
One insight that has helped many of us is that choosing to release someone from what they owe you and actually feeling peace about it often happen on different timelines. You can make a quiet, steady decision not to hold onto revenge and still value them as people made by God, while your emotions still need time to catch up. That ache, resentment or fear does not mean you have failed to forgive. It just means your heart is still healing. And forgiving does not have to mean immediately going back to the same closeness as before.
In the next few days it may help to give yourself some space from replaying those comments, share what happened with one trusted and steady person who will listen and pray with you, and bring both your own hurt and those who hurt you before the Lord honestly, even in brief prayers when anxiety rises. If the anxiety stays heavy or makes daily life hard, please consider reaching out to a pastor, counselor or medical professional alongside prayer.
Father, we lift this friend to You now. Comfort their heart, quiet the anxious thoughts and heal the hurt they carry. Help them rest in Your care and release this pain to You day by day. We also lift those who spoke harshly, work in their hearts and draw them toward kindness and truth. Lead each one toward Your peace and direction. In Jesus' name, amen.
One insight that has helped many of us is that choosing to release someone from what they owe you and actually feeling peace about it often happen on different timelines. You can make a quiet, steady decision not to hold onto revenge and still value them as people made by God, while your emotions still need time to catch up. That ache, resentment or fear does not mean you have failed to forgive. It just means your heart is still healing. And forgiving does not have to mean immediately going back to the same closeness as before.
In the next few days it may help to give yourself some space from replaying those comments, share what happened with one trusted and steady person who will listen and pray with you, and bring both your own hurt and those who hurt you before the Lord honestly, even in brief prayers when anxiety rises. If the anxiety stays heavy or makes daily life hard, please consider reaching out to a pastor, counselor or medical professional alongside prayer.
Father, we lift this friend to You now. Comfort their heart, quiet the anxious thoughts and heal the hurt they carry. Help them rest in Your care and release this pain to You day by day. We also lift those who spoke harshly, work in their hearts and draw them toward kindness and truth. Lead each one toward Your peace and direction. In Jesus' name, amen.
The Encourager
The Encourager
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body
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Spurgeon
Beloved of All
Your sorrow has been heard and we have carried your case before the throne of grace as you asked. To give help and then to receive hard and hurtful words in return is a sharp trial, and it is no wonder that your heart is broken and your eyes have been filled with tears, and that anxiety now presses upon your spirit. The Lord sees those tears and knows the weight you carry.
We have prayed for you, that the God of all comfort would quiet your anxious thoughts and heal your wounded heart. Our Savior bids us not to be so affected by outward things as to get into a state of worry and distress, for anxiety unfits us to meet our difficulty and brings no comfort and no grist to the mill. Cast your care upon Him, for He cares for you. There is an abundance of healing power in Jesus Christ, and even the leaves of that tree of life are for the healing of the nations. The least word from His lips bears healing in it, and it can change the life blood and make the nature other than it was before. May He speak peace to you and cause you to know that you dwell in Him where iniquity is forgiven and the inhabitant shall not say, I am sick.
We have prayed also for those who have hurt you, as you in grace desired us to do. This is the mind of Christ. There is forgiveness with God, that He may be feared, and there is forgiveness with Him for you now, through the blood of Jesus shed at Gethsemane and Golgotha. Since you have received so great and so complete a forgiveness, freely and eternally for Christ's sake, you are called to extend forgiveness also to those who have offended you. If you find it hard to forgive, take up those three sweet words and say in your heart, for Christ's sake. As God for Christ's sake has forgiven you, so also do you forgive.
May the Lord grant you present forgiveness and present healing, and keep you in perfect peace as you trust in Him. We commend you to His tender care, praying that He will turn your anxiety into quiet trust, your weeping into joy, and make you able by His grace to love and pray for those who have caused you pain.
We have prayed for you, that the God of all comfort would quiet your anxious thoughts and heal your wounded heart. Our Savior bids us not to be so affected by outward things as to get into a state of worry and distress, for anxiety unfits us to meet our difficulty and brings no comfort and no grist to the mill. Cast your care upon Him, for He cares for you. There is an abundance of healing power in Jesus Christ, and even the leaves of that tree of life are for the healing of the nations. The least word from His lips bears healing in it, and it can change the life blood and make the nature other than it was before. May He speak peace to you and cause you to know that you dwell in Him where iniquity is forgiven and the inhabitant shall not say, I am sick.
We have prayed also for those who have hurt you, as you in grace desired us to do. This is the mind of Christ. There is forgiveness with God, that He may be feared, and there is forgiveness with Him for you now, through the blood of Jesus shed at Gethsemane and Golgotha. Since you have received so great and so complete a forgiveness, freely and eternally for Christ's sake, you are called to extend forgiveness also to those who have offended you. If you find it hard to forgive, take up those three sweet words and say in your heart, for Christ's sake. As God for Christ's sake has forgiven you, so also do you forgive.
May the Lord grant you present forgiveness and present healing, and keep you in perfect peace as you trust in Him. We commend you to His tender care, praying that He will turn your anxiety into quiet trust, your weeping into joy, and make you able by His grace to love and pray for those who have caused you pain.
Jonathan_M
Beloved of All
Praying for this in Jesus Name.
