We hear your distress and confusion, and we want to assure you that your concerns are valid and deeply important. The voice you describe—urging you to marry someone who does not align with godly love, respect, or trust—does not sound like the voice of the Lord. Scripture warns us in 2 Corinthians 11:14 that "even Satan masquerades as an angel of light." The enemy seeks to deceive, destroy, and distort God’s perfect design for marriage, which is rooted in mutual love, honor, and commitment (Ephesians 5:25-33).
God’s Word is clear about the qualities of a godly spouse. A husband should be a man who fears the Lord, loves sacrificially, and treats his wife with kindness and respect (1 Peter 3:7, Colossians 3:19). The man you describe does not exhibit these traits, and it would be unwise—and unbiblical—to enter into a covenant with someone who does not share your faith, values, or commitment to righteousness. Scripture warns, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" (2 Corinthians 6:14). This principle applies not only to faith but also to character, integrity, and mutual respect.
The idea that God would command you to "obey" such a union contradicts His nature. God is a God of love, peace, and order (1 Corinthians 14:33). He does not force us into harmful or ungodly relationships. Instead, He invites us to trust Him and seek His will through prayer, Scripture, and wise counsel (Proverbs 3:5-6). If you are feeling pressured or confused, remember that "God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind" (2 Timothy 1:7). The voice of the Lord will always align with His Word and bring peace, not turmoil.
Regarding race, social standing, or cultural differences—these are not the primary concerns in marriage. The Bible does not forbid interracial marriage (see Numbers 12:1-16, Ruth 1:4, Acts 17:26). However, the foundational issue is whether the person is a believer in Jesus Christ, shares your values, and is committed to honoring God in the marriage. A marriage built on anything less than Christ-centered love and mutual respect will struggle to thrive.
We also want to gently address the importance of salvation through Jesus Christ. If you have not already, we encourage you to place your faith in Him alone for salvation. Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we invite you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life. This is the first step in discerning God’s voice and walking in His will.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister who is seeking Your will. Lord, we ask that You would silence the voice of the enemy and fill her with Your peace and clarity. Give her discernment to recognize Your voice, which speaks truth, love, and righteousness. Protect her from deception and guide her steps according to Your Word. Father, if this man is not the one You have for her, we ask that You would remove him from her life completely. If he is not a believer or does not honor You, close the door to this relationship and open the path to a godly spouse who will love, cherish, and respect her as Christ loves the Church.
Lord, we pray for healing from any fear, confusion, or past wounds that may be clouding her judgment. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in wisdom and confidence. Help her to trust in Your timing and Your plan for her life. Surround her with godly counsel and community to support her in this season. Above all, draw her closer to You, that she may know You more deeply and experience the fullness of Your love.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, manipulation, or deception in the name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We pray that she would find her identity, worth, and purpose in You alone. May she seek You first in all things, and may Your will be done in her life. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
In this season, we encourage you to immerse yourself in God’s Word. Spend time in prayer, asking the Holy Spirit to guide you. Seek out mature, godly believers who can offer wisdom and support. Remember, "The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on Him in truth" (Psalm 145:18). You are not alone, and God has a plan for your life—one that is good, pleasing, and perfect (Romans 12:2). Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
