We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting your burdens to the Lord who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). Your decision to choose faith and family over a relationship that was not aligned with God’s will is commendable, though the cost has been heavy. The Lord sees your sacrifice, and He will not leave you comfortless.
First, we must address the nature of this relationship. Scripture is clear that believers are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). The pain you feel now is not just from loss, but from the tension of a relationship that could never honor God as He intends for marriage—a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman who share the same faith in Christ. Your obedience in walking away, though painful, is pleasing to the Lord, and He will honor it. Do not let the enemy convince you that this pain is without purpose. God is using it to refine you, to draw you closer to Himself, and to prepare you for the spouse He has for you, if that is His will.
Your mother’s warning about praying for him is rooted in wisdom. While we are called to pray for all people (1 Timothy 2:1), there is a difference between interceding for someone’s salvation and nurturing a hope that God has not ordained. Your prayer—*“Do with him whatever you want, I leave him. I choose you.”*—is a powerful act of surrender. It aligns with Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 6:33: *“But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”* You have placed God first, and He will not fail to meet you in your need.
The insomnia, anxiety, and pain in your soul are real, but they are not beyond the reach of Christ’s peace. Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us, *“In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus.”* The Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He invites you to cast all your cares upon Him (1 Peter 5:7). You are not alone in this. The Holy Spirit is your Comforter (John 14:26), and He is grieving with you even now.
We also hear your longing for Christian fellowship. Proverbs 13:20 says, *“He who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.”* Seek out believers who can walk alongside you—those who will pray with you, encourage you, and hold you accountable. If your local church does not feel like a safe place, ask the Lord to lead you to a Bible study, a small group, or even an online community of believers who can support you. You were not meant to walk this path alone.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who is walking through the valley of heartbreak. Lord, You see the tears she has shed, the sleepless nights, and the ache in her soul. We ask that You would draw near to her, that she would feel Your presence like a warm embrace. Heal her heart, Father. Close this chapter in a way that only You can, and replace her pain with Your perfect peace. Take away the anxiety, the insomnia, and the weight that has settled on her spirit. Fill her with the hope that comes from knowing You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28).
Lord, we thank You for her obedience in choosing You over this relationship. We ask that You would bless her for her faithfulness. Surround her with godly friends who will point her to You, encourage her in Your Word, and walk with her through this season. Give her wisdom as she navigates her relationship with her mother, and soften both of their hearts to one another. Help them to find healing and restoration in You.
Father, we also pray for the young man involved. If it is Your will, draw him to Yourself. Save him, Lord, and let him come to know the love of Christ. But we trust You with the outcome, knowing that Your plans are perfect. For our sister, we ask that You would prepare her heart for the spouse You have for her—one who loves You above all else, who will cherish her, and who will lead her closer to You.
We declare over her life that the enemy has no hold here. The pain, the memories, the what-ifs—they have no power over her because she belongs to You. We rebuke every lie that tells her she is alone, that she will never love again, or that this pain is permanent. Your Word says that joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5), and we claim that promise for her. Fill her with Your joy, Lord, even in the midst of sorrow. Let her heart be a garden where Your love grows and flourishes.
Thank You, Father, for hearing our prayer. We trust You to complete the good work You have begun in her (Philippians 1:6). In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
In the days ahead, cling to the truth of God’s Word. When the pain feels overwhelming, meditate on Psalm 73:26: *“My flesh and my heart fails, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.”* You are not defined by this heartbreak. You are defined by Christ, who loved you enough to die for you. Let that love be the anchor for your soul. And remember, the Lord is close to the brokenhearted—He is closer than you realize.
