I have been praying for God to bring me a spouse, I have a selfish ###

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I have been praying for God to bring me a spouse, I have a selfish dad who wants me to stay unmarried and be with him, never get married, or get married when I am in my sixties, can you believe that?! I want to get married more and leave him asap because of thinking he is selfish. He cares about only himself and his well-being and doesn’t give a second thought about my happiness and life. I am very frustrated and anger fills my heart, I need God to bring my spouse asap.
 
We understand the deep longing in your heart for a godly marriage, and we also hear the pain and frustration you’re carrying toward your father. Let us first address the anger and bitterness you’re feeling, for Scripture warns us in Ephesians 4:26-27, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, neither give place to the devil."* While your feelings are valid, holding onto anger can become a foothold for the enemy in your life. We must surrender this to the Lord, for He commands us in Colossians 3:13 to *"bear with one another, and forgive each other. If anyone has a complaint against another, even as Christ forgave you, so you must do."*

Your father’s desires for you may stem from his own fears, loneliness, or misplaced love, but his wishes do not align with God’s design for marriage. Genesis 2:24 declares, *"Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh."* Marriage is God’s intention for His children, and it is not selfish to seek a spouse who will honor Him. However, we must also honor our parents as commanded in Exodus 20:12, *"Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which Yahweh your God gives you."* This does not mean obeying them over God’s will, but it does mean showing respect and love, even in disagreement.

Your urgency for marriage must be balanced with trust in God’s timing. We see in 1 Corinthians 7:2 that *"because of sexual immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband."* If you are seeking marriage to flee from your current situation rather than to honor God, we encourage you to examine your heart. Marriage is not an escape—it is a sacred covenant that requires selflessness, patience, and a deep commitment to Christ. Proverbs 19:14 reminds us, *"House and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from Yahweh."* Your future spouse is a gift from God, and He will bring this person in His perfect time, not ours.

We also notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved and through whom we approach the Father. John 14:13-14 says, *"Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it."* It is only through Christ that our prayers are heard, and we must always come before God in His name, acknowledging His lordship over our lives. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Romans 10:9 tells us, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* Without faith in Christ, we cannot expect God to answer our prayers as His children.

Let us pray together for you:

Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You see the deepest desires of her heart and the pain she carries. Lord, we ask that You would soften her heart toward her father, replacing anger with Your love and forgiveness. Help her to honor him in a way that pleases You, even as she seeks to follow Your will for her life. Father, we pray that You would prepare her heart for marriage, not out of desperation or frustration, but out of a desire to glorify You. Remove any idols from her heart—whether it be the longing for marriage itself or the bitterness toward her father—and replace them with a deep trust in You.

Lord, if it is Your will, bring a godly husband into her life, a man who loves You above all else and who will lead her in Your ways. But even more, we pray that she would find her fulfillment in You alone, knowing that You are enough. Help her to wait patiently, trusting in Your timing, and to use this season to grow closer to You. Surround her with godly counsel and community that will encourage her in her walk with You.

We rebuke any spirit of anger, bitterness, or impatience that may be at work in her life. By the power of the Holy Spirit, we command these things to flee in the name of Jesus Christ. Fill her instead with Your peace, Your joy, and Your patience as she waits on You.

Father, we also pray for her father. Soften his heart and open his eyes to Your truth. If his desires for her come from fear or selfishness, convict him and draw him to Yourself. May he come to know the love of Christ and release his grip on her life, trusting You with her future.

We ask all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

Our sister, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily, allowing Him to renew your mind and heart. Seek His kingdom first, and trust that He will add all these things to you (Matthew 6:33). Consider memorizing and meditating on Philippians 4:6-7: *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."* God’s peace is available to you, even in this season of waiting.

Finally, we urge you to seek godly counsel, whether through a pastor, mentor, or biblical counselor, who can walk with you through these struggles. You are not alone, and God has not forgotten you. He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28), even when it feels like He is silent. Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep your eyes fixed on Jesus. He is faithful.
 
Dear sister, we're praying with you today. We understand the longing in your heart for a godly marriage, and we feel your frustration with your father's wishes. Let's lean into God's love and wisdom together.

First, we want to encourage you to surrender your anger and bitterness to the Lord. While it's okay to feel frustrated, holding onto these feelings can give the enemy a foothold in your life. Let's trust God with your situation, knowing that He is just and will work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).

Regarding your father, we should remember that his desires may stem from his own fears or misplaced love. However, God's design for marriage is clear, and it's not selfish to seek a spouse who honors Him. We must also honor our parents, showing them respect and love, even when we disagree.

We understand your urgency for marriage, but let's trust God's timing. If you're seeking marriage to flee from your current situation rather than to honor God, we encourage you to examine your heart. Marriage is a sacred covenant that requires selflessness, patience, and a deep commitment to Christ.

In all this, let's remember to approach God in Jesus' name. He is the only way to the Father, and it's through Him that our prayers are heard. If you haven't yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we lift our sister up to You. Help her to surrender her anger and bitterness to You, replacing them with Your love and forgiveness. Help her to honor her father in a way that pleases You, even as she seeks Your will for her life. Lord, if it's Your will, bring a godly husband into her life, a man who loves You above all else and who will lead her in Your ways. But even more, help her to find her fulfillment in You alone, knowing that You are enough. Help her to wait patiently, trusting in Your timing, and to use this season to grow closer to You. Surround her with godly counsel and community that will encourage her in her walk with You. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

We're here for you, sister. Keep trusting, keep praying, and keep your eyes fixed on Jesus. He is faithful.
 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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