I can't stop fixating on people who

[Lost_Lamb]

I can't stop fixating on people who I feel have wronged me. In my past, years ago, I was consumed by this behavior and would come up with elaborate schemes and manipulations to make things go my way. To prevent things or situations I didn't like.

I healed and have been clean of this behavior for more than 5 years now, but lately I've been feeling myself start to relapse.

I want to socially sabotage this person who was supposed to be my friend and has betrayed me and hurt me so many times. I gave her so many second chances but keeping her in my life has only fueled my anger. I know that I could satisfy myself with just a few clicks, and everything would be how I want it to be. But I would emotionally destroy this person.
What has happened to me? I was doing so well and I thought I had changed.

I am praying for guidance or wisdom, how can I learn to love in a way that abolishes all of my hate?
Or strength, how can I learn to be so loving, that these thoughts don't enter my mind anymore?

 

[Isabelle10]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen. 





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[Brother James]

I can't stop fixating on people who I feel have wronged me. In my past, years ago, I was consumed by this behavior and would come up with elaborate schemes and manipulations to make things go my way. To prevent things or situations I didn't like.

I healed and have been clean of this behavior for more than 5 years now, but lately I've been feeling myself start to relapse.

I want to socially sabotage this person who was supposed to be my friend and has betrayed me and hurt me so many times. I gave her so many second chances but keeping her in my life has only fueled my anger. I know that I could satisfy myself with just a few clicks, and everything would be how I want it to be. But I would emotionally destroy this person.
What has happened to me? I was doing so well and I thought I had changed.

I am praying for guidance or wisdom, how can I learn to love in a way that abolishes all of my hate?
Or strength, how can I learn to be so loving, that these thoughts don't enter my mind anymore?

Powerful healing promise hidden in Proverbs 3:7-8, I am not wise in my own eyes, I fear You Lord, I depart from evil, especially my own evil thoughts and my flesh is healed and my body is refreshed in Jesus  
 
Praying for others especially in your situation will help you tremendously in yours friend  
 
Take no thought for your life dear friend and Jesus will take thought for you. Sing praises and thanks to Jesus and He will overflow His Holy Spirit in you and so much more. He will fight for you and give you the desires of your heart
 
Pray this prayer look up the verses and pray it again with your friends and family and let's mount up with wings as eagles and soar. Soar with me
 
Let Us Pray:  God I ask in Jesus' name, bless me to grow closer to You.  I long for a more intimate relationship with You.  God I take You at Your Word, if I will draw closer to You, You will draw closer to me (James 4:8).  Show me how to draw closer to You.   Bless me daily to cast off and forsake my thoughts and ways for my life, and exchange them for Your thoughts and ways for my life.  Let me think Your thoughts and dream Your dreams for my life.  God bless me to live and walk in Your love, mercy and forgiveness (Isaiah 55:7).  I confess, I will take no thought for my life.   I will trust You Father God to take thought for me and take care of me (Mathew 6:25-34).  I will not be wise in my own eyes, I will fear You Lord and depart from evil and my flesh will be healed and my body will be refreshed (Proverbs 3:7-8) daily.  Thank You Jesus for Your Promises!  Lord make me the Child of God You need me to be in Christ for all those around me and for the world to see (Psalms 128:3).  Not by my might, nor by my power, but by Your Spirt Christ Jesus (Zechariah 4:6) this shall happen. And it will happen, it is happening now in Your timing, Power, Strength, Might, and Spirit, Christ Jesus.  God all that I have asked of you in this prayer please do the same for all those I love, care about, and every faithful prayer warrior on this site.  Thank You, Thank You, Thank You Lord Jesus,  my Savior and Lord for answering this prayer with a Yes and Amen.
 
Bless us to sing praises and thanks to You Lord Jesus so You can fill us with the wine of the Spirit in Jesus Name, Amen.

 

[Ars]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[CJL80]

I prayed for you. May God bless you.

 

[BlessMeFatherGod]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[whitec97]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

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[Nineteen51]

I think when we say "more of Jesus and less of me" in prayer to the Lord we are telling Him that we are too flawed and ill-equipped to be whatever our problem is. The other person is human just like us doesn't make it less complicated being loving towards them. 

Human nature is "all about me" and Christian nature is "all about others. We can't stop being human and neither can your friend because our power is lacking to overcome our sinful nature. When we say "more of You Jesus and less of me" we are telling God, in your case that "elaborate schemes and manipulations to make things go my way" doesn't work. You know love works but you are not able to love this person with your own strength, but by God being in you, you can.

God can love this person through you and in the process you will grow to love this person in time in your own strength. We have a lot of hurt in this world that has damaged us and perhaps if we ask God to heal those hurts we can easier love others. I'm glad you that you came to pray and ask God to help you. This was a healthy idea even though it still needs attention God will fix it.

Pray blessings on your friend because God commands it and she really needs God in her life too. I'll pray God blesses you and that things start healing in your life too. I pray this in Jesus name Amen