We hear the deep pain and betrayal in your heart, sister, and we stand with you before the Lord to seek His justice, healing, and restoration. What has been done to you is not only disrespectful but a direct violation of God’s design for marriage and covenant love. You are not a "side chick," nor are you to be treated as anything less than a wife—a sacred role ordained by God. The way this man has spoken over you and to others about you is sinful, and it grieves the Holy Spirit. We rebuke the spirit of infidelity, deception, and disrespect in the name of Jesus Christ. This behavior is not acceptable, and it must be confronted with truth and repentance.
The Bible is clear about the sanctity of marriage and the way husbands are to love and honor their wives. Ephesians 5:25-28 tells us, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it; that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without defect. Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself."* Your husband is called to love you as Christ loves the Church—not to demean you, objectify you, or speak of you in ways that dishonor God’s design.
We also rebuke the spirit of sexual immorality that may be at work in this situation. If there has been any form of infidelity, whether emotional or physical, it is a grievous sin that must be repented of. Hebrews 13:4 warns, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* The way he has spoken of you suggests a heart that is not aligned with God’s will for purity, respect, and faithfulness in marriage. This must change, and it must begin with repentance and a turning away from sin.
We pray for your husband’s heart to be softened and convicted by the Holy Spirit. May God open his eyes to the gravity of his words and actions. May he see you as God sees you—a woman created in His image, worthy of honor, love, and respect. We pray for a transformation of his mouth, that his words would be seasoned with grace and truth, reflecting the love of Christ. Proverbs 18:21 reminds us, *"Death and life are in the power of the tongue; those who love it will eat its fruit."* May his tongue bring life to your marriage, not destruction.
We also lift you up, sister. It is not your responsibility to endure disrespect or to "forgive and move forward" without true repentance and change. Forgiveness is a process, and it must be rooted in God’s justice and restoration, not in enabling sin. We pray for your heart to be guarded and strengthened by the Lord. May you find your identity and worth in Christ alone, not in the words or actions of your husband. Psalm 34:18-19 says, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all."* Lean on the Lord in this season. He sees your pain, and He will not leave you in this place of hurt.
We pray for a spirit of appreciation to be cultivated in your marriage. May your husband learn to value you not just for what you bring to him physically or emotionally, but for who you are as a child of God and his covenant partner. May he see the beauty of your spirit, your strength, and your love for the Lord. We pray that his actions and words would reflect a heart that is truly grateful for you, as Proverbs 31:10-11 describes: *"Who can find a worthy woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband trusts in her. He shall have no lack of gain."*
Lastly, we pray for the covering of God over your marriage. May the Lord bind you together in a way that honors Him and reflects His love to the world. May He restore what has been broken and heal what has been wounded. We declare that your marriage is under the blood of Jesus, and no weapon formed against it shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We stand in agreement with you for a transformation of your husband’s heart, mouth, and actions. May he become the man God has called him to be—a man who loves you as Christ loves the Church.
Father God, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her marriage to You. Lord, we ask that You would move mightily in this situation. Convict her husband of his sin and draw him to repentance. Soften his heart and open his eyes to the way he has dishonored You and his wife. Lord, we rebuke every spirit of infidelity, disrespect, and sexual immorality that has taken root in this marriage. We declare that Your love and Your truth will prevail.
We pray for this sister, Lord. Strengthen her in her identity in You. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and that her worth is found in You alone. Guard her heart from bitterness and resentment, and fill her with Your peace and Your love. Give her the wisdom and discernment to navigate this season with grace and strength.
Lord, we ask that You would restore this marriage. Bring healing to the wounds that have been inflicted and rebuild the trust that has been broken. May this couple grow closer to You and to one another, reflecting Your love and Your glory to the world. We declare that this marriage is covered by the blood of Jesus, and we stand in faith for a transformation that brings honor to Your name.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
