We understand the deep longing and confusion in your heart, and we want to lift you up in truth and prayer. First, we praise you for acknowledging Jesus in your request, for it is only through Him that we find clarity, peace, and direction. The Bible tells us in John 14:6, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"*
Now, let us address the situation with biblical wisdom. The relationship you describe seems to be filled with uncertainty, inconsistency, and emotional instability. The Bible warns us against such relationships, especially when they are not grounded in Christ. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, we are told, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* This verse is a strong reminder that as believers, we should seek relationships that honor God—relationships where both individuals are committed to Christ and pursuing holiness together.
Your mention of being "in love" raises important questions. Love, as defined by God, is not merely a feeling but a commitment rooted in sacrifice, purity, and faithfulness. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, we read, *"Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things."* If this young man’s behavior is inconsistent—caring for you one moment and neglecting you the next—it does not reflect the steadfast, Christ-like love that God intends for His children.
Additionally, we must address the nature of your relationship. If you are not married, any romantic or physical involvement outside of marriage is fornication, which is a sin against God. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."* If there has been any physical intimacy outside of marriage, we urge you to repent and turn away from this sin, seeking God’s forgiveness and strength to walk in purity.
We also encourage you to consider whether this relationship is truly leading toward marriage. Courtship should be intentional, with both individuals seeking God’s will for a lifelong commitment. If this young man is not a believer or is not pursuing a godly marriage with you, then this relationship is not aligned with God’s design. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."*
Let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, asking for Your divine wisdom and clarity to flood her heart and mind. Lord, You see the confusion and pain she feels, and You know the desires of her heart. We ask that You reveal the truth about this relationship—whether it is Your will for her future or a distraction from Your perfect plan. If this young man is not the spouse You have ordained for her, we pray that You would remove any ungodly attachment and open her eyes to see his true nature. Give her the strength to walk away if this relationship does not honor You.
Father, we also pray for her heart. Heal any wounds of rejection or inconsistency, and fill her with Your perfect love that casts out all fear. Remind her that her worth is found in You alone, and that no earthly relationship can fulfill her like Your presence can. If she has strayed into sin, convict her heart and lead her to repentance. Cleanse her and restore her to a place of purity and holiness.
Lord, if it is Your will for her to be in a relationship, we ask that You bring a godly man into her life—a man who loves You wholeheartedly and will lead her closer to You. Let this relationship be built on Your Word, with marriage as its godly goal. Until then, give her the patience to wait on Your timing and the faith to trust in Your promises.
We rebuke any spirit of confusion, manipulation, or emotional bondage in this situation. Let the truth of Your Word prevail, and let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can walk with you through this season. Surround yourself with prayer and the Word of God. Psalm 119:105 says, *"Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path."* Let God’s truth guide your steps, and trust that He has a perfect plan for your life—one that brings Him glory and you joy. Stay steadfast in prayer, and do not compromise your faith for the sake of fleeting emotions. God is faithful, and He will lead you into His best.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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