Forgive your spouse the way Jesus has forgiven you. That's first and foremost. You can't live with horrible emotions and allow the devil to run rampant in your mind. John 16:33 Jesus said, These things I have spoken to you that in me you will have peace. In the world you will have tribulation, but be of good cheer, I have overcome this world. If you lose peace, then you can't hear from God and this is what the devil wants. Keep your eyes on him. Listen the this song by Casting Crowns called praise you in this storm. Its amazing! Trust in God and you'll find peace in your life, family and relationships. I hope your wife is saved by Jesus and you as well. Start off with forgiveness, its a game changer! Keep the faith brother. My wife has separated from me for the same reason, but God is bringing us back together because he told me so. She says otherwise, but it's not what she wants, its what God wants!! He that is in me is greater than he that is in the world. Have faith God will do greater things in you, for you, your family and your future and you shall receive what's in store for you. God hates divorce. It'll work out. I wish I could tell you the greatest experiences Ive been having since I became a Christian about 4 months ago. You would be amazed as everyone else I have told. God is greater than the minor issues we face in this life. Exalt God and not our issues. Glory to God!!