I am feeling defeated 😞

[Shivani India]

Hey you all , I am feeling defeated.

Today I have crossed my threshold time , I give up.

It has not been a few days or months but years I have been feeling like this ….

Lack , uncertainty , hopelessness , failure , stagnation

Still I try to get up , I read books , I pray , I push myself and I have been waiting waiting and just waiting thinking one day God will answer my prayers

The moment I feel , now things are changing … something happens and I get stuck in the same circle.

I have heard so many testimonies but when I will get a chance to share those testimonies! When !

If we have accepted lord in our life , does that mean we have to go through these many hardships!

Actually , there has to be many blessings and glory not this much pain , lack & confusion

I tried , I tried to ask for Lord to show up in my life , speak to me , help me , hear His voice

But when these things will happen when ???

Wait , God’s timing …. But how long !

I have been trying to collect all the pieces of my life and now weight is too heavy to carry.

Even though I put situations in God’s hands , I am feeling stagnation.

This can’t be my Father if He is letting His daughter go through this much pain….

If He has done these many miracles , can’t He do one miracle ?????

Is this too much to ask for ! If I am His daughter , can’t he see and fulfill the desires of my heart ?

Why every time I end up getting alone and broken !

Can’t he send one person , Godly spouse in my life who is sure about me , wants to be with me , spend time with me , care about me , love me , , grow with me , who would propose me , marry me ?

Can’t he offer me one job opportunity where I get paid on monthly basis so I don’t have to worry about survival ?

Can’t he bless me financially! Can’t he expand prosperity & abundance in my family - mother , father , brother

Can’t he do one thing that would ignite hope in me ?

Just one ?????

I don’t know what to say

I am really doubting whether my decision to accept Jesus in my life was right or not !

I didn’t face these many uncontrollable challenges when I was serving Hindu Gods.

I wonder why why , Lord chose me

Life was much better & at least I was happy and succeeding in my life

Now it’s just difficulties & never ending troubles

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep cry of your heart, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting up your pain, your weariness, and your questions to the Father who loves you more than you can imagine. You are not alone in this struggle, and your feelings of defeat, stagnation, and doubt do not go unnoticed by the One who collects every tear in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). We want to remind you that your decision to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior was not a mistake—it was the most important and right choice you could have ever made. The enemy would love for you to believe that following Christ has only brought you hardship, but we must stand firm on the truth of God’s Word, which declares that He works all things together for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Even in the waiting, even in the pain, He is at work.

You ask if being a child of God means enduring endless hardship, and the answer is both yes and no. Yes, Scripture is clear that in this world, we *will* face tribulation (John 16:33), and that those who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution (2 Timothy 3:12). But no, this does not mean God delights in your suffering or that He has abandoned you. Quite the opposite—He is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). The hardships you face are not a sign of His absence but an opportunity for His strength to be made perfect in your weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). The enemy wants you to believe that your pain is meaningless, but God is using every trial to refine you, to draw you closer to Him, and to prepare you for the blessings He has in store.

We must gently but firmly rebuke the lie that your life was better before you knew Christ. The Bible warns us that the thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came that we might have life—and have it abundantly (John 10:10). The "happiness" and "success" you experienced apart from Him were temporary and fleeting, built on shifting sand rather than the solid rock of His promises. The struggles you face now are not because God has forgotten you but because He is shaping you into the woman He created you to be. He did not choose you to leave you in despair—He chose you to display His glory through your life (Ephesians 1:4-5). The very fact that you are still standing, still praying, still seeking Him is evidence of His faithfulness, not His neglect.

You ask why you keep ending up alone and broken, and we want to address this with both truth and compassion. First, we must acknowledge that loneliness and brokenness are real, and they hurt deeply. But we also must ask: Are you seeking a godly spouse in a way that honors the Lord? Marriage is a sacred covenant, and it is right to desire a husband who loves the Lord and will cherish you as Christ cherishes the Church (Ephesians 5:25). However, we must guard our hearts against the temptation to idolize marriage or to believe that a spouse will complete us. Only Christ can fill the deepest longings of our hearts. If you are pursuing relationships outside of God’s design—whether through premarital intimacy, unequally yoked partnerships, or compromising your standards—we must repent and realign our desires with His Word. The Lord is not withholding a godly spouse from you out of cruelty; He is preparing you *and* the man He has for you, and in His perfect timing, He will bring you together. Until then, we must trust that His plan is better than our own.

You also express frustration over financial lack and job instability, and we understand how overwhelming this can be. The Lord is not unaware of your needs—He knows every detail of your situation, and He promises to supply all your needs according to His riches in glory (Philippians 4:19). But we must also examine our hearts: Are we seeking first His kingdom and His righteousness, trusting that all these things will be added unto us (Matthew 6:33)? Financial provision often comes through diligence, wisdom, and obedience, but it also requires faith. We must not grow weary in doing good, for in due season, we will reap if we do not faint (Galatians 6:9). If you have been faithful in small things, the Lord will entrust you with greater (Luke 16:10). Keep seeking Him, keep working with integrity, and trust that He will open the right doors at the right time.

Your doubt about whether following Jesus was the right decision is a spiritual attack, and we must take it seriously. The enemy wants you to question your salvation, to believe that God has failed you, and to turn back to the empty promises of the world. But we declare over you the truth of Scripture: "For I am persuaded that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing will be able to separate us from God’s love which is in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 8:38-39). If you have confessed with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believed in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you *are* saved (Romans 10:9). Your feelings do not determine your salvation—His Word does. We must not allow doubt to rob us of the assurance we have in Christ.

You ask when God will answer your prayers, when He will speak, when He will move—and we understand the agony of waiting. But we must remember that His timing is not our timing, and His ways are higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9). The fact that you have not yet seen the fulfillment of your desires does not mean He is not working. He is moving behind the scenes, orchestrating every detail of your life for your good and His glory. We must not grow weary in prayer, in seeking His face, and in trusting His promises. The psalmist wrote, "Wait for Yahweh. Be strong, and let your heart take courage. Yes, wait for Yahweh" (Psalm 27:14). Waiting is not passive—it is an active posture of faith, believing that He is who He says He is and that He will do what He has promised.

We also want to gently address the weight you are carrying. You mention trying to "collect all the pieces" of your life, but the truth is, you were never meant to carry this burden alone. Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). Have you truly surrendered every piece of your life—your desires, your fears, your finances, your relationships—into His hands? Or are you still trying to hold onto control, even as you pray for His intervention? We must lay it all down at the foot of the cross and trust that He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20).

Now, let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who is feeling defeated, weary, and full of doubt. Lord, You see her pain, You hear her cries, and You know the depths of her longing. We ask that You would draw near to her in this moment, that she would feel Your presence like never before. Remind her that she is not forgotten, that she is not abandoned, and that her life has purpose and value in Your eyes.

Father, we rebuke the spirit of despair and unbelief that has been whispering lies to her. We declare that You are a good God, a faithful God, and a God who keeps His promises. We ask that You would break the chains of stagnation and hopelessness in her life. Give her a fresh revelation of Your love, Your power, and Your sovereignty. Let her see that You are working even when she cannot, and that Your timing is perfect.

Lord, we pray for the desires of her heart—specifically for a godly spouse, for financial provision, and for stability in her life. We ask that You would prepare her heart and the heart of the man You have for her. Align their paths in Your perfect timing, and let their relationship bring glory to Your name. Provide for her needs, Father, and open doors of opportunity that no man can shut. Bless her family with Your peace, Your provision, and Your presence.

We also pray for her faith, Lord. Strengthen her when she is weak, encourage her when she is discouraged, and remind her of the truth of Your Word. Help her to trust You even when she does not understand, and to wait on You even when it is hard. Let her testimony be one of Your faithfulness, Your goodness, and Your power.

Finally, Father, we ask that You would ignite a fire in her spirit—a hope that cannot be quenched, a joy that cannot be stolen, and a faith that cannot be shaken. Let her know that she is Your beloved daughter, and that You are working all things together for her good. We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. Amen.

We encourage you to hold fast to the promises of God, even when they feel far off. Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and keep trusting. The breakthrough is coming, and when it does, it will be greater than anything you could have imagined. You are not forgotten. You are not abandoned. You are deeply loved by the One who gave everything for you. Keep pressing in, dear sister. Your testimony is coming.

 

[Anonymous]

Hey you all, I am feeling defeated.

Today I have crossed my threshold time, I give up.

It has not been a few days or months but years I have been feeling like this….

Lack, uncertainty, hopelessness, failure, stagnation

Still I try to get up, I read books, I pray, I push myself and I have been waiting waiting and just waiting thinking one day God will answer my prayers

The moment I feel, now things are changing… something happens and I get stuck in the same circle.

I have heard so many testimonies but when I will get a chance to share those testimonies! When!

If we have accepted the Lord in our life, does that mean we have to go through these many hardships!

Actually, there has to be many blessings and glory not this much pain, lack & confusion

I tried, I tried to ask for the Lord to show up in my life, speak to me, help me, hear His voice

But when these things will happen when??

Wait, God’s timing…. But how long!

I have been trying to collect all the pieces of my life and now weight is too heavy to carry.

Even though I put situations in God’s hands, I am feeling stagnation.

This can’t be my Father if He is letting His daughter go through this much pain….

If He has done these many miracles, can’t He do one miracle?????

Is this too much to ask for! If I am His daughter, can’t He see and fulfill the desires of my heart?

Why every time I end up getting alone and broken!

Can’t He send one person, Godly spouse in my life who is sure about me, wants to be with me, spend time with me, care about me, love me, , grow with me, who would propose me, marry me?

Can’t He offer me one job opportunity where I get paid on a monthly basis so I don’t have to worry about survival?

Can’t He bless me financially! Can’t He expand prosperity & abundance in my family - mother, father, brother

Can’t He do one thing that would ignite hope in me?

Just one?????

I don’t know what to say

I am really doubting whether my decision to accept Jesus in my life was right or not!

I didn’t face these many uncontrollable challenges when I was serving Hindu Gods.

I wonder why why, Lord chose me

Life was much better & at least I was happy and succeeding in my life

Now it’s just difficulties & never ending troubles

I prayed for this in Jesus name. amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here with you, dear friend. We feel your pain, your weariness, and your questions. We want you to know that you're not alone in this struggle. Your feelings of defeat, stagnation, and doubt don't go unnoticed by the One who loves you more than you can imagine.

We understand that you've been feeling this way for years, and it's easy to feel like God has forgotten you or that following Him has only brought hardship. But remember, the enemy wants you to believe that God's promises are empty and that His love is conditional. That's a lie.

God is not a cruel Father who delights in your suffering. He is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). He is using every trial to refine you, to draw you closer to Him, and to prepare you for the blessings He has in store.

You ask why you keep ending up alone and broken. We want to remind you that God has a purpose and a plan for your life. He is not withholding a godly spouse or financial provision from you out of cruelty. He is preparing you and the man He has for you, and in His perfect timing, He will bring you together.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5). Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and keep trusting. The breakthrough is coming, and it will be greater than anything you could imagine.

You are not forgotten. You are not abandoned. You are deeply loved by the One who gave everything for you. Keep pressing in, dear friend. Your testimony is coming.

 

[Dan T]

Yes, your testimony will come in a God's time. One key is not to focus on your wants and needs, but on the wants and needs of others. Serve others and you will be less concerned about self. The Christian journey is one of surrender to God's will, service and humility. You may find that serving others will fill you with Joy and overcome the need to focus internally. Look up and out and see if things start to take shape for you. And remember Eph 2:10, you are God's masterpiece and He loves you as you are and is so proud of you!!

 

[EnricoLange]

Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect, heal and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.

 

[Emborsuliesh]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Emborsuliesh]

Hey you all, I am feeling defeated.

Today I have crossed my threshold time, I give up.

It has not been a few days or months but years I have been feeling like this….

Lack, uncertainty, hopelessness, failure, stagnation

Still I try to get up, I read books, I pray, I push myself and I have been waiting waiting and just waiting thinking one day God will answer my prayers

The moment I feel, now things are changing… something happens and I get stuck in the same circle.

I have heard so many testimonies but when I will get a chance to share those testimonies! When!

If we have accepted the Lord in our life, does that mean we have to go through these many hardships!

Actually, there has to be many blessings and glory not this much pain, lack & confusion

I tried, I tried to ask for the Lord to show up in my life, speak to me, help me, hear His voice

But when these things will happen when??

Wait, God’s timing…. But how long!

I have been trying to collect all the pieces of my life and now weight is too heavy to carry.

Even though I put situations in God’s hands, I am feeling stagnation.

This can’t be my Father if He is letting His daughter go through this much pain….

If He has done these many miracles, can’t He do one miracle?????

Is this too much to ask for! If I am His daughter, can’t He see and fulfill the desires of my heart?

Why every time I end up getting alone and broken!

Can’t He send one person, Godly spouse in my life who is sure about me, wants to be with me, spend time with me, care about me, love me, grow with me, who would propose me, marry me?

Can’t He offer me one job opportunity where I get paid on a monthly basis so I don’t have to worry about survival?

Can’t He bless me financially! Can’t He expand prosperity & abundance in my family - mother, father, brother

Can’t He do one thing that would ignite hope in me?

Just one?????

I don’t know what to say

I am really doubting whether my decision to accept Jesus in my life was right or not!

I didn’t face these many uncontrollable challenges when I was serving Hindu Gods.

I wonder why, Lord chose me

Life was much better & at least I was happy and succeeding in my life

Now it’s just difficulties & never ending troubles

Hello friend. I have compassion, empathy, and sympathy for the way you feel and your circumstances. The way to unlock blessings in your life is to be grateful daily for what you DO have even if you think it's not significant or important. Being grateful for your family, your health, your ability to walk, to see, or to be free or feel the sunshine on you are little ways you begin to shift. Then of course go out into the world and be of service and help others. Once your energy and attention are focused on gratitude and being of service, God will come in and multiply the good you do, because God wants you to be in touch with the good that is already there within you. God bless you my dear. Sending you love and light to you and your family.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Finding Life and Salvation in Christ: A Roadmap

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

sermons

Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”

 

[Wyekul]

You wrote "I didn’t face these many uncontrollable challenges when I was serving Hindu Gods."

Here are some Holy Bible quotes to help you understand this predicament:

Rom 8:17 And if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ, provided that we share his sufferings so that we may also share his glory.

1 Pet 4:12-13 Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share Christ's sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed.

Heb 10:32 Remember the days gone by when, after you had been enlightened, you endured a difficult struggle filled with suffering.

I will be praying for you, ask God for strength in the time of trial. I recommend reading also all of 1 Peter 4.

God bless you.