I am completely feeling like giving up on my life, I don’t know what to do of this unbearable pain, I just want God to take this pain away & deliver.

[Shivani India]

It’s been a pattern in my life whenever I got into a romantic relationship, I always ended up getting hurt and alone, destroying myself mentally, emotionally, physically.

In 2023, I went through one of the most traumatic incidents where one person came into my life, and we both shared all precious moments together, considering each other lovers even though we knew we had no future together. When I was attached to that person and in love, he decided to part ways when another lady entered into his life, and he married her.

I admit I was wrong to be with a person where I knew I had no future. I got so emotionally impacted by that incident that I lost my job, I lost my weight by 10kg in a very short period of time, I went through an anxiety attack, I lost my identity, I was deeply shaken, I had fights with my family, I decided to leave my family, and I moved to another city alone so I can build my life and career with focus.

In that moment, I made a promise to myself… I would never put myself in this situation ever again.

It took me more than 1.5 years to heal, on 15th June, 2025. Another person entered into my life, I was so sure I don’t want to get into any relationship… if I get, I would want a future with that person, but I also knew I can’t ask that person to marry me in such a short period of time. So I decided I would stay alone and focus on my life.

But I literally felt that maybe God has sent this person into my life so I deserve to give myself another chance. I took a leap of faith and I allowed that person to come into my life.

Honestly, we shared the best bond ever, that guy is gentle, loyal, generous, sweet, shows understanding & patience, respects me. We both felt a genuine connection, we felt peace. He brought so much joy in my life, I still believe he is a blessing from God. I have no regrets meeting him. He healed all the parts of me which didn’t break.

I thought I would do whatever it takes to love this person so that one day we would think about marriage.

In the month of September, there was his brother’s marriage, so he went home, and I felt his absence for 4 months and 16 days. I was so upset, why he didn’t meet me before going home, inform me, and asked about the updates of my life.

When he returned, I forgave & met him on 30th Jan. But I had so many questions, so next time I met him, I started asking questions, he said it was his brother’s marriage, and he had to take responsibility, so he was very busy, he is not a text person, he loves to live life in his own way, he loves independence, wherever he is, he focused on that only.

I was hoping that he would say I am sorry, I could have met you, messaged you.

And he was hoping that I would never ask him these questions as he is the same person, person who loved me & nothing was changed… it was just he was busy.

As I didn’t receive the response I wanted, I lost my control and in anger… I said so many things which I can’t take back.

By looking at my reaction, he decided to completely step back as he loves independence and minimal questioning, where I love closeness and communication.

I also got angry but I left one diary which I wrote for him where I expressed my feelings for him as my parents have started my arranged marriage process so I had to tell him that I love him & what’s his decision before it’s too late.

And then I left in anger because of whatever happened during the conversation about his presence and my never-ending questioning.

In that diary, I asked him for his decision about marrying me & I mentioned the date if it’s yes, reach out to me before 8th March & if it’s no then you don’t have to say anything.

He was already overwhelmed by my reaction during our conversation when I sent him a message on 8th March, are you okay… he blocked me, fortunately, I managed to make one phone call, we talked for so long & he said he doesn’t wanna be with me and he wants to stay alone.

But I didn’t give up, I wanted to know the real reason… when he blocked me on phone calls too, I went to his place without his permission so that at least I can end on a good note instead of blocking each other online in hurt and anger.

He was upset when he saw me, he said I told you it’s over so why did you come here.

I explained him, please let me talk to you and be with you one last time, from tomorrow onwards, I would let you go & respect your decision.

Early morning, I explained him my situation, I tried to convince him, I literally begged him to let me stay in his life and give me one more chance… Yes, I did that because I know what he has done in my life, how much joy and value he brought, he accepted me and loved me when I was completely broken & empty from inside. He literally gave birth to a new me.

I asked him whether he has read my diary and what’s his decision… he said you are too much involved in me. I don’t want a relationship. I don’t wanna get married in this period of my life.

When I asked… will you marry me, he said no. I also told him I love him, he said I don’t (even though I know he loved me).

I told him… that’s okay, if you don’t love me, you don’t wanna marry me, at least stay in my life as we have shared amazing moments together.

He said I have already made my decision, I don’t want you to contact me.

For me, it was really shocking not because he said no to a relationship, no to marriage but how come he forget all the precious moments in a second and tell me I don’t want you in my life anymore and I would stay alone.

I asked him, but why… is it because I have expressed my feelings for you, is it because I asked you for marriage or is it because very soon I can get married to someone else via arranged marriage due to pressure & you wanna protect your heart (which is understandable) or is it because of our last time fight about me asking you questions & reacting in a very intense way.

He said… I have made a decision to part our ways for only one reason and that reason is how you behaved. He said I am a very simple person, I love to live my life in my own way. I was genuinely busy in my brother’s wedding when it was over, I talked to you, I met you, and I also thought you would be busy in your life. I don’t like when someone asks me these many questions & I didn’t like your behavior. You could have dealt with this situation calmly… it’s not about the diary or marriage.

First of all, I am shaken, I am completely shattered.

I would have never thought he would end this bond as I know him. He didn’t give up on me even though we had some disagreements before. He easily forgives. We enjoy each other’s company. We have always been there for each other. We showed so much understanding, respect, acceptance, & pure intentions.

While returning, he was asking me to leave even though I was trying to say last words from my heart, knowing this can be my last time seeing him on this planet earth.

He didn’t come to drop me off, he told me not to contact him. Even though I was crying, he was showing compassion, but he said, his decision was firm.

I am still blocked everywhere.

It’s really really shocking, first of all, he is not like that. I know him so was it enemy’s attack, spiritual attack to separate us?

Second, this happened in such a short period of time, I am in complete shock and unable to process what just happened!

Because the way our bond was growing, I was sure one day we would marry each other…

But forget about marriage, relationship… the way I behaved, he doesn’t even want to keep contact with me. I admit, I lost my control and got angry to the next level as I don’t like absence & lack of communication (and he prefers independence & less emotional accountability)!

Why Lord, why! Why me… why this happens every time, why you can’t bring someone who would love me, wanna be with me & build a future with me?

Why this happens every time when I get into a relationship

Now if he doesn’t have a problem with the diary, knowing I have feelings for him… (and I was sure he would have chosen me in the upcoming time), he said he doesn’t want me in his life because of the way I behaved.

So if the only problem is my behavior in that particular incident, how come he couldn’t recall all the positive things I made happen through my presence which he always appreciated. How come he can only focus on that one thing & decide to part ways!

I still believe he loves me, it’s just he is not feeling ready for a relationship, but I am sure if we stay together, he would express his feelings for me as I know him and his heart.

But now it looks like, how is it possible?

I ask you all from the bottom of my heart to let him see me through Lord’s eyes.

Let him forgive me, reach out to me, talk to me, and God restore our bond.

If he was a wrong person for me, I would have known in the beginning.

I know him, we have been together for so long, I know his heart, it wasn’t him, I felt like it was enemy’s attack or spiritual warfare & plan to separate us.

I love him and I know he also loves me. Every time anything happens, he is the first one to forgive, he shows so much patience. I love the way he treats me (last treatment was unexpected but I can understand he was deeply hurt).

Prayer to deliver me from rejection, turn this rejection into testimony. Restore our bond. He has all the qualities which I always wanted in my life partner, yes, we all are human beings so some differences would be there and that’s okay…

Even though we went through some ups and downs, God always brought us together.

I even remember I prayed to Lord to remove him from my life if he is not sent from You, Lord, but then God brought him back. It happened many times.

I have less time as my parents want me to get married without any delay.

So please pray for me and ### to bring us back together & turn this rejection into testimony of proposal.

I know I realized my mistake, I am a kind of person who wants instant answers, communication, presence… when I didn’t receive, I freaked out and just got mad at him in an intense way.

And he is the kind of person who loves space, he loves less emotional accountability & short convo instead of dragging.

When I came up with many questions & lost my temper, he felt overwhelmed so instead of moving toward me, I pushed him further away.

It happened because I was also hurt by his absence, I missed him so much when he was at home for his brother’s wedding.

So I was looking for answers and he was looking for understanding instead of too much explanation.

Then I sent him so many messages, I wrote a diary, I expressed my feelings, I called him, I even reached out to his place which made him feel loss of his freedom & he felt so overwhelmed so he went into escape mode and didn’t want to deal with that emotional pressure so he decided to stay distant.

I understood the root and cause but now I wanna ask Lord to let us forgive each other and bring us together.

 

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We hear your heartache, your confusion, and the deep longing for restoration in your life. The pain you carry is real, and we want you to know that God sees you, He hears you, and He cares deeply about the brokenness you feel. You are not alone in this struggle, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking God’s will and His healing touch over your life.

First, we must address the foundation of your request. It is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). Jesus said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me"* (John 14:6 WEB). If you have not yet placed your trust in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life. Without Him, we cannot approach God in prayer, nor can we experience the fullness of His healing and restoration.

Now, let us turn to your situation with a heart of compassion and truth. We see the pattern of pain in your relationships, and we grieve with you over the hurt you have endured. However, we must also address the areas where these relationships have not aligned with God’s design for love and marriage. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20). The relationships you described—where you and another were "lovers" without the commitment of marriage—were not honoring to God. This is not to condemn you, but to call you to repentance and to a higher standard. God’s design for relationships is purity, commitment, and covenant, not temporary emotional or physical fulfillment.

The pain you experienced in these relationships is real, but we must ask: Were these relationships built on a foundation that honored God? The first relationship you described was with someone who was not free to commit to you, and yet you both entered into an emotional and physical bond outside of marriage. This is not God’s best for you. The second relationship, though filled with many beautiful qualities, was also not grounded in the commitment of marriage. You mentioned that you both considered yourselves "lovers" without a future, and this is not the biblical model for love. Marriage is a covenant before God, not a trial period or a casual arrangement. The Bible says, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge"* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). We must repent of any relationships that have not honored God’s design and seek His forgiveness and healing.

We also see the enemy’s hand in your story. The Bible warns us that our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of evil (Ephesians 6:12). The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and he has been at work in your life, bringing division, pain, and confusion. The sudden and harsh ending of your most recent relationship feels like a spiritual attack, and we rebuke that attack in the name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we command every spirit of rejection, division, and confusion to leave your life now.

However, we must also address the areas where you contributed to the breakdown of this relationship. Your words and actions in anger and frustration pushed him away, and while his response was harsh, we must acknowledge that our own behaviors can sometimes create distance in relationships. The Bible says, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger"* (Proverbs 15:1 WEB). Your desire for constant communication and emotional accountability is not wrong, but the way you expressed it—through anger, questioning, and overwhelming him—created a barrier. We must learn to communicate our needs with grace and patience, trusting God to work in the hearts of those we love.

We also see that you are placing a great deal of hope in this man, almost to the point of idolatry. You say, *"I love him and I know he also loves me,"* and you are convinced that he is the one God has for you. But we must ask: Are you seeking God’s will above your own desires? Are you trusting Him to bring the right spouse into your life, or are you trying to force a relationship that may not be His best for you? The Bible warns us, *"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If this man is not a believer or is not ready to commit to marriage in a way that honors God, then we must surrender him to the Lord and trust that God has someone better for you.

We also see the pressure you are under from your family to enter into an arranged marriage. While we understand the cultural context, we must encourage you to seek God’s will above all else. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and it should not be entered into out of fear, pressure, or desperation. The Bible says, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB), and this applies not only to faith but also to values, goals, and life direction. If you are being pressured into a marriage that does not honor God, we encourage you to stand firm in your faith and trust that God will provide the right spouse at the right time.

Now, let us pray for you.

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister to You. Lord, we ask that You would draw near to her in her pain and confusion. You see the tears she has shed, the sleepless nights, and the deep longing of her heart. Father, we ask that You would comfort her with Your presence and remind her that she is never alone. You are the God who collects every tear in a bottle (Psalm 56:8), and You care deeply about her suffering.

Lord, we ask that You would heal the wounds of rejection and betrayal in her life. You are the God who restores, who makes all things new (Revelation 21:5). We ask that You would mend her broken heart and give her the strength to trust You again. Help her to release the pain of the past and to surrender her future into Your hands. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we rebuke every spirit of rejection, division, and confusion in the name of Jesus.

Father, we also ask that You would bring clarity and wisdom to her mind. Help her to see where she has strayed from Your design for relationships and marriage. Give her the courage to repent of any relationships that have not honored You and to seek Your forgiveness. Lord, we ask that You would purify her heart and prepare her for the spouse You have for her. Help her to wait on You and to trust in Your timing, even when it is difficult.

We pray for the man in her life, Lord. If it is Your will for them to be together, we ask that You would soften his heart and open his eyes to see her through Your love. Give him the courage to communicate with grace and to seek reconciliation if that is Your plan. But if this relationship is not Your best for her, we ask that You would remove all hope and desire for him from her heart. Help her to surrender him to You and to trust that You have someone better for her.

Lord, we also ask that You would protect her from the pressure of her family to enter into an arranged marriage. Give her the wisdom to discern Your will and the courage to stand firm in her faith. Help her to trust that You will provide the right spouse at the right time, and that Your plans for her are good (Jeremiah 29:11).

Father, we ask that You would restore her joy and her hope. Remind her that You are her ultimate source of love and fulfillment. Help her to find her identity in You, not in her relationships or her circumstances. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and give her the strength to walk in obedience to Your will.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. May Your will be done in her life, and may she experience the fullness of Your love and restoration. Amen.

Dear sister, we want to encourage you with the truth of God’s Word. The pain you are feeling is real, but it is not the end of your story. God is a God of restoration, and He can turn your mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11). We encourage you to spend time in His presence, seeking His face and His will for your life. Surrender your desires, your relationships, and your future to Him, and trust that He will guide your steps.

We also encourage you to seek godly counsel and community. Surround yourself with believers who can pray for you, encourage you, and hold you accountable. The Bible says, *"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another"* (Proverbs 27:17 WEB). You do not have to walk this journey alone.

Lastly, we encourage you to focus on your relationship with God above all else. Seek Him with all your heart, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6). Trust that He has a plan for your life, and that His plans are good. Even when the road is difficult, He is with you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).

You are deeply loved by God, and we are praying for you. May He bring healing, restoration, and clarity to your life in this season.

 

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Dear [Original Poster's Name],

I understand the pain and confusion you're feeling, and I'm here to remind you that you're not alone. God sees you, hears you, and cares deeply about the brokenness you're experiencing. He wants to heal and restore you, and He has a plan for your life that is good.

Firstly, let's address the foundation of your request. There is no other name by which we can be saved except through Jesus Christ (Acts 4:12). If you haven't placed your trust in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, I urge you to do so. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life. Without Him, we cannot approach God in prayer, nor can we experience the fullness of His healing and restoration.

Now, let's turn to your situation with a heart of compassion and truth. I see the pattern of pain in your relationships, and I grieve with you over the hurt you've endured. However, we must also address the areas where these relationships have not aligned with God's design for love and marriage. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20). The relationships you described, where you and another were "lovers" without the commitment of marriage, were not honoring to God. This is not to condemn you, but to call you to repentance and to a higher standard. God's design for relationships is purity, commitment, and covenant, not temporary emotional or physical fulfillment.

The pain you experienced in these relationships is real, but we must ask, "Were these relationships built on a foundation that honored God?" The first relationship you described was with someone who was not free to commit to you, and yet you both entered into an emotional and physical bond outside of marriage. This is not God's best for you. The second relationship, though filled with many beautiful qualities, was also not grounded in the commitment of marriage. You mentioned that you both considered yourselves "lovers" without a future, and this is not the biblical model for love. Marriage is a covenant before God, not a trial period or a casual arrangement. The Bible says, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled, for fornicators and adulterers God will judge" (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). We must repent of any relationships that have not honored God's design and seek His forgiveness and healing.

We also see the enemy's hand in your story. The Bible warns us that our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of evil (Ephesians 6:12). The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and he has been at work in your life, bringing division, pain, and confusion. The sudden and harsh ending of your most recent relationship feels like a spiritual attack, and we rebuke that attack in the name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we command every spirit of rejection, division, and confusion to leave your life now.

However, we must also address the areas where you contributed to the breakdown of this relationship. Your words and actions in anger and frustration pushed him away, and while his response was harsh, we must acknowledge that our own behaviors can sometimes create distance in relationships. The Bible says, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger" (Proverbs 15:1 WEB). Your desire for constant communication and emotional accountability is not wrong, but the way you expressed it through anger, questioning, and overwhelming him created a barrier. We must learn to communicate our needs with grace and patience, trusting God to work in the hearts of those we love.

We also see that you're placing a great deal of hope in this man, almost to the point of idolatry. You say, "I love him and I know he also loves me," and you're convinced that he is the one God has for you. But we must ask, "Are you seeking God's will above your own desires? Are you trusting Him to bring the right spouse into your life, or are you trying to force a relationship that may not be His best for you?" The Bible warns us, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If this man is not a believer or not ready to commit to marriage in a way that honors God, then we must surrender him to the Lord and trust that God has someone better for you.

We also see the pressure you're under from your family to enter into an arranged marriage. While we understand the cultural context, we must encourage you to seek God's will above all else. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and it should not be entered into out of fear, pressure, or desperation. The Bible says, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB), and this applies not only to faith but also to values, goals, and life direction. If you're being pressured into a marriage that does not honor God, we encourage you to stand firm in your faith and trust that God will provide the right spouse at the right time.

Now, let's pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister to You. Lord, we ask that You would draw near to her in her pain and confusion. You see the tears she has shed, the sleepless nights, and the deep longing of her heart. Father, we ask that You would comfort her with Your presence and remind her that she is never alone. You are the God who collects every tear in a bottle (Psalm 56:8), and You care deeply about her suffering.

Lord, we ask that You would heal the wounds of rejection and betrayal in her life. You are the God who restores, who makes all things new (Revelation 21:5). We ask that You would mend her broken heart and give her the strength to trust You again. Help her to release the pain of the past and to surrender her future into Your hands. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we rebuke every spirit of rejection, division, and confusion in the name of Jesus.

Father, we also ask that You would bring clarity and wisdom to her mind. Help her to see where she has strayed from Your design for relationships and marriage. Give her the courage to repent of any relationships that have not honored You and to seek Your forgiveness. Lord, we ask that You would purify her heart and prepare her for the spouse You have for her. Help her to wait on You and to trust in Your timing, even when it is difficult.

We also pray for the man in her life, Lord. If it is Your will for them to be together, we ask that You would soften his heart and open his eyes to see her through Your love. Give him the courage to communicate with grace and to seek reconciliation if that is Your plan. But if this relationship is not Your best for her, we ask that You would remove all hope and desire for him from her heart. Help her to surrender him to You and to trust that You have someone better for her.

Lord, we also ask that You would protect her from the pressure of her family to enter into an arranged marriage. Give her the wisdom to discern Your will and the courage to stand firm in her faith and trust that You will provide the right spouse at the right time (Jeremiah 29:11).

Father, we ask that You would restore her joy and her hope. Remind her that You are her ultimate source of love and fulfillment. Help her to find her identity in You, not in her relationships or her circumstances. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and give her the strength to walk in obedience to Your will.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. May Your will be done in her life, and may she experience the fullness of Your love and restoration. Amen.

 

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Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.